My bf and I have ben dateing a longg time and we think were ready 4 sex but were still not sure and im kinda scared.
2007-04-27 05:32:32 · 32 answers · asked by Caitlin Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are scared you are probably not ready. When you finally think you are. You should talk to your Mom about it. One of my teachers explained it the best way. When you have sex with someone think of it as leaving a little piece with that person for the rest of their life.
2007-04-27 05:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by J L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're scared and not sure then NO it's not the right time for you two to have sex. You may find yourself wanting to do this but there really is no reason you should rush into it. Plus there are so many things that can go wrong like condoms slipping off or breaking, to the worst that could be imagined HIV.
One of the most valuable things a girl has is her virginity, don't give it away too easily or too early, cause once it's gone it's gone. Learn for yourself how powerful being a virgin can be.
2007-04-27 05:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by sheena t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This generally is a GIANT step for girls a little different for boys, if your not sure than your probably not ready, Sex can and usually does change so much, it is very emotional as well as physical. Sex is an extraordinarily powerful thing and if you guys can really objectively think about it you will probably make the right decision. Please remember though that if you are not ready don't let him push you, you only get your first time once. Be smart, be safe.
2007-04-27 05:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by White Helix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your scared then your not ready,you'll know when your finally ready.And whatever you do don't let anybody pressure you into having sex with him,and just because ya'll have been dating for a long time doesn't mean that ya'll should have sex.There isn't a certain time in a relationship that you should have sex,you could date 20years and never have sex,its all up to you.And you shouldn't be asking other people if you should have sex,you should be asking yourself if you are ready to have sex.
2007-04-27 05:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel Hillhouse`s Girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur goin to start having sex u shouldnt be scared. start out by oral then go for the gold. i was scared my 1st time now im not.. ive been raped and that stopped me cuz i got preg but now me and my bf are having sex again.. he shoudl understand if u dont want to cuz ur scared. the best option is wait til ur not scared or to get u in the mood have rose petals and a bubble bath together and that normally puts a gurl in the mood.
2007-04-27 05:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by babi420girl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are scared should answer your question for you. You are probably too young to be having sex and if you aren't married then it definitely isn't the right time to be even discussing this subject. There are two better people that I think that you should ask this question to and those two people are MOM and DAD.
2007-04-27 05:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are also, but sex should be anything but scary. You should wait until you feel right about it and tell your bf that. He should respect that in you and see that you're not a slut who jumps at every chance. My advice is to cuddle and snuggle with him a lot and start by taking off clothing...then see where that will lead you...but remember to go slow...and be protected.
2007-04-27 05:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by writeaway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree on what have kit kat said, if your young then consider the pro and cons but if your mature enough to handle this situation then go on but you must be responsible in your action i will not tell you "don't to it" but be responsible and remember safe sex of course at this point you don't what go get pregnant. if your ready lovemaking should be fun and adventurous not a burden or soon to be burden i hope you get what i mean. good luck girl and fun with your life while you still have time to enjoy it. life is full ahead with you.
2007-04-27 05:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by cheryl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont mention your age.........are you old enough to know and deal with the consequences of having sex? Are you on birth control? Will you use protection? Many times, younger guys "hit and run"....ie once they have sex, they move on to another one to get the same thing. Men are usually not ready for a one on one relationship whereas women are..........It's alot to consider.....Good Luck.
2007-04-27 05:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it feels right and u know ur ready than go ahead and do it. It seems thought like ur not ready, then wait a little longer when u know ur ready.
Make sure you use protection. and be careful if ur ready
2007-04-27 05:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Cristina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋