Ok, I've been going out with my boyfriend for about four months now, and he's only got to come over to my house twice-and they were both for school projects! Last year, with my old boyfriend, my parents let him come over more than four times! Also, they won't let me go over to my boyfriends house now, because they think that it is "inappropriate" and that we're "too young"-but I got to go over to my (now ex-) boyfriend's house more than once last year!
I have tried explaining this to them, that what they think that I might do is gross (which it is disgusting to the extreme!), and that I am only one year older than I was last year-not that much difference! But they still won't budge. I have had to hurt my boyfriend's feelings a lot because he really want me to get to go over there (and no, not for the nasty reason)-he wants to show me his dirt bike, and maybe drive me around on it; but everytime I've had to say no because of my parents.
What should I do?
2007-04-27 05:23:42 · 11 answers · asked by KKBswimlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have extremely overprotective parents, too. And I'm 22 and engaged and they're still psycho. But in the past, with my other boyfriends, I'm glad they were so crazy. Because if I had been allowed to go to their houses, I know what would have happened. This one guy was a sweet-talker in the beginning, and ended up being a controlling psycho... I dated him for over a year and never went to his house. Thank God. He would have probably raped me. He was only allowed to come to my house a few times, and he tried to get me to do stuff there. He was always upset that I couldn't come to his house...
Anyway, I know it sucks right now, but your parents are protecting you from a lot of heartache and trouble. You might not think so, but they were young once and they probably know more about your b/f than you think you know. If I was in your situation (and I was and I still am) then I would just deal with it for now. You'll probably thank them later.
2007-04-27 05:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably have good reason for not letting you go over to your boyfriends house. You should respect the rules that your parents have put down in the house and focus your attention on age appropriate things. Obviously you are real young and having a boyfriend at your age shouldn't be something that consumes your whole life. And whatever you do, don't REBEL against your parents because that will only cause for more problems down the line.
2007-04-27 12:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by benz s55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, how old are you? Sometimes parents are too overprotective cause they care about us.....But if this is really bothering you, you should try talking to your parents, I mean they are the ones giving you a hard time with your bf, just talk to them, and reassure them that you won't be doing "anything nasty"......Get their trust, only when you have their complete trust they can maybe be a little less overprotective.....Good Luck
2007-04-27 12:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Heartbroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be a real sensitive guy if his feelings are hurt a lot every time you say no to him. don't feel guilty about it &
listen to your parents! your parents protect you because they love you & only want whats best for you, although you may not see it.
perhaps the reason why your parents dont allow you to go over his house is because ((maybe)) they see something they dont like in him.
why dont you suggest him bringing the bike over? after all thats all youre going over there for.
2007-04-27 12:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by p@nKiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you given them reason to doubt you? I say this has a parent who gave my child much freedom. That child disappointed me by getting in trouble. I took most of the liberties away. So I repeat did you do or say anything that is causing them to doubt what may or may not happen? Because if you did, that is your answer. If you proved not to be trust worthy they feel, they must take extra caution so you don't get yourself in trouble like my child did.
2007-04-27 12:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you seem closer to this boyfriend than your last. Maybe they have a bad feeling about your current boyfriend. Be thankful that they care about you and stop giving them heck about everything.
2007-04-27 12:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bear it and wait until your older enough to move out.
Your living under their roof so not much freedom there.
Just remember biting the hand that feed you isn't a wise thing.
2007-04-27 13:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by IKNOWALL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st... if you are under 19 you should be in a boys house..
2nd as long as you live in your parents house you do as they say
3 you are not old enough to make LIFE choices.. and your parents must suspect that "something" might happen or they would not stop this action...
sorry... but they are right..
PS how old are you?
2007-04-27 12:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep good conversation between you and your parents. Be understanding of their reasons why they make the decisions they make, while make genuine and sincere arguments why they should trust you more. Be respectful of their decisions and they will open up to respecting your freedom of choice more.
2007-04-27 12:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by ww2db 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to tell them that you arent a little kid anymore, and that you are smart enough to know what not to do that is "icky" ....if they dont listen ..REBEL!!!!! it will work out evetually...or convince your parents that his parents will be there to keep an eye on your guys...and if they fall for it great!!! if they dont actually ask his parents and get them to talk to your parents....
Good Luck
:D
2007-04-27 12:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kiana Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋