During my doctor's visit in his office,he got up to get a medical book for reference regarding one of my questions. I SUDDENLY got up, followed him & when he turned around, there i was; without thinking i kissed him.I moved closer,put my hands on his waist,pressed my body against his.He slightly opened his mouth & i slipped my tongue in.He didn't move out of shock.In seconds my hand was touching his penis & before i knew,i actually put my hand in his underwear.In that moment he pushed my tongue(with his tongue) out of his mouth.He grabbed my hand (that was stroking his penis) firmly& pulled it out of his underwear.He held my arms firmly & pulled away.He then said "Don't ever do that again".All this happened in less then 5 mins.Suddenly i came to my senses, i started crying.I was so embarassed.How could i ve lost control.I let my feelings take over me.After 5 mins of me crying, he asked me to sit & he said "I will forget this ever happened". CONTINUED AT THE BOTTOM IN DETAILS
2007-04-27 05:10:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After saying he will forget it happened.He got up & left the office for almost 10 minutes.I was so scared that he was reporting me.I almost crapped in my pants.I was shaking out of control out of fear.I still don’t know what made me do that.Though the first few seconds I slipped my tongue in his mouth, he actually responded(he kissed me back).I think this is what lead my hand in his underwear.I’m not a slut.This was one freak moment.A week later he called me & asked me to find a new doctor. 2 months later I ran into him in a bookstore.I wanted the earth to swallow me.He walked up to me & asked how I was doing?We ended up having coffee.Since then, we ve had romantic dinners.I see him at least 3 times a week.Yes I ve a new doctor.We do get intimate, but I can’t bring myself to sleep with him.The incidence that happened in his office haunts me.I really like him.What would you do if you were me? The other issue which is STUPID but weights heavy on my mind is the race factor.
2007-04-27 05:18:01 · update #1
This really happened it sounds crazy because it is crazy. i don't believe it myself.
2007-04-27 05:19:19 · update #2
WOW!! Well my first question I guess is "Is he married!?" If not, then well I guess its not AS bad as if he is married! However, what would make you act in such a way!? Have you had a crush on him for a while and it just all escalated to the point where you felt like you HAD to act or was this some spur of the moment thing b/c you are lonely? Have you flirted w/ him in the past or is this a new development? It sounds as though he wasnt trying too hard (at first) to STOP your advancements and it was only when you took it TOO FAR that he realized that he couldnt go through w/ it. I wonder why you thought you had to THROW yourself at him like that instead of simply asking him out!? You DO know that it is AGAINST any and all policies for a doctor to date a patient!? Right??
My suggestion is to WRITE him a letter and mail it to the office. Explain why you did what you did, tell him how you TRULY feel about him and tell him how sorry you are that you acted the way that you did and how embarrassed you are at how you came across! Dont be desperate in the letter and dont sound like a whiny child.... try to get back SOME dignity and try to go about it as a MATURE adult! Give him your number and tell him that if he would LIKE to give you a second chance or IF he is interested then to contact YOU. Then leave it at that... its all you can do and its out of your hands now.. you cant take back what has already been done. Secondly... its time to find a NEW DOCTOR!! You simply can NOT continue seeing him as a patient.. you have completely crossed that line!
On another note.. and I hope you dont take this the wrong way.. but you might want to concider getting some counceling to find out why you acted in such a disturbing way! Why you felt the need to "attack" him like that b/c it was sexual harrassment and it was far above and beyond what someone in thier RIGHT mind wouldve done! It really sounds as though you are lost and feeling really lonely and might just need someone to talk to!!
I really hope that figure out the underlying reasons to why you acted the way you did so that you DONT find yourself in that situation again!! Keep remembering that YOU are the woman!!!! YOU need to keep your dignity, your respect and you self-worth in check! YOU need to LOVE yourself enough to not be a "fool" and let men take advantage of you which is what you are CLEARLY setting yourself up for!! Hold your head up high... remember that this WAS a mistake and LEARN from it!! Its never too late to make yourself a better person tomorrow then who you are today!! YOU ARE WORTH MORE THEN THAT!!!! BELIEVE IT and others will start to believe it too!!
GOD BLESS!
2007-04-27 05:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he didn't want to break the Dr. code thing where you have to stay objective with your patients. Well **** man, after reading your details it sounds like he really wanted to but couldn't. You two were probably flirting back and forth all the time, and you just forgot where you were. Obviously he wanted to, but it was way too dangerous for his profession. He obviously had you find another doc because he wanted to find a way to get to know you better. If I was you I would just take it slow right now because that encounter sounds like it was very damaging to your confidence. Getting rejected like that would, but you have to remember that it was just the situation. **** him! He wants you to! Calm down there is nothing that he has against you. I bet you that he will never bring up that encounter. I bet he more then forgives you. Now forgive yourself.
2007-04-27 05:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you do understand that what you did could have jepordized his practice and his profession. If I were you, I would back off. You're over analyzing this way too much and put to much thought into this already. You will end up driving yourself crazy if you do not stop. By the way, be a classy woman and do not do this again.
2007-04-27 05:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read the nice write up first, and it sounded pretty sincere. Then, I saw the rest of this story, and realized that it wasn't as it appeared to be.
So, keep writing, maybe someone will publish it for you. I can be your translator.
2007-04-30 14:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by goodness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're both seeing each other now so don't worry so much about it...unless you're both married to other people.
As for the race thing, let it go, it's obviously a non-issue between the two of you.
2007-04-27 05:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg! i wish i had gits like that i admire you for your courage. i know that it must have been embarrassing but at least you have a feeling and you were willing to act on it. amazing but you know what if i were you i would get another doctor
2007-04-27 05:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ange 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe you were having a bad day and judt didnt care till you saw him and he didnt hate it that much if he kissed you bad witch by openin his mouth he kinda did and yeah he is prob married or some thing....
2007-04-27 05:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
ur disgustingly inappropriate, how would u feel if a man groped u liek that at your job. u shoudl be glad he let that go but y our behavior is extremely inappropriate.
2007-04-27 05:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i havent read the details cause you havent typed them yet, but what do you want us to say? your sex drive is way to high, think of nasty things when you get all hot.
2007-04-27 05:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jared W 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Im glad my man isnt a doctor. I would have asked him to give you a lethal injection.
2007-04-27 05:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋