who to walk down the isle with???

Question

I was thinking of this last night while I was chattin to my uncle. I get along better with my uncle than I do with my dad. My thing is when I get married (when my boyfriend preposes) is it okay to ask my uncle to walk me down the isle or will that just be a real blow to my dad. The thing is that I aint wanna be mean or anything but would like my uncle to walk me down the isle.

He already knows that when I get married that he (my uncle) will be giving the speech or been the MC at the reception.

Will it be wrong for him to walk me down the isle when I get married???

Answer 1

I think you should walk down the isle with who ever you would like to. It is your wedding and make the day your own. I bet your uncle will be honored and it is a good way to say that he means a lot to you.

I am getting married soon and since my father passed away I am having my father in-law to be walk me down the isle. I know my brother in-law wanted to do it but that is the way I am doing it.

Best Wish to you.

Answer 2

It is not set in stone anywhere that says you must walk down the aisle with your father. But if you don't want to cause a family crises then ask both your father and uncle to give you away at your wedding.

I had my father, uncle, and brother give me away and it worked out great. I also gave my niece away at her wedding with her mother. So you see there are many different ways to have the people that mean the most to you give you away. :-)

After all your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day in your life. So do what makes you happy but don't forget not to hurt anyone else's feelings.

Answer 3

I had the same dilemma. My saving grace is that I now have no one else to walk me down the aisle since my step father died last year. In all honesty I might just go it alone but for the sake of tradition I will probably be on my dad's arm, if he can remember to show up that day...

Good luck girl and don't sweat it. Your uncle will understand if you walk with your dad but your dad might not understand if you walk with your uncle. Your last intention is to step on toes. What about having both of them walk you? Or switching half way? Explain that you feel very close to your uncle and want him to participate in the ceremony. Maybe you could find a special job for him, like doing a reading or something if you decide to walk with your father. Whatever you choose to do I wish you the best of luck!!!

Answer 4

First, be sure you finish school, so that you will qualify for a good job. Your English skills here are really lacking, and you will likely work many decades in your marriage --- get paid for it.

Secondly, though you may indeed care for your uncle far more than your father, no, you cannot ask your uncle, and ought he to accept, that would be quite tacky on your part. Whether your dad is a rat or not, it is he who walks you down the isle or no one does..... you walk alone if he is still living, sorry. The invited guests would be shocked, hon, and the time to shock people is not at a wedding.... all hatchets get buried that day, if only for a few hours, no matter how strained the affair is......

Answer 5

i know its your wedding but to what makes other people happy. i dont' think your uncle will care if he walks down the isle or not. but your dad will so just walk with your dad. you would look like a snob if you don't. then every one at the wedding will be asking well why didnt' she walk down with her dad. its just better to walk down the isle with your dad i am sure it will make the whole day go by that much better.

Answer 6

I would say that unless your uncle is the one that raised you (as in your father has been non-existent in your life), then you dad should be the one who does the escorting. Since your father raised you, regardless of who you like more, it is he who should answer the pastor's question: "Who gives this woman to be married?"

It seems too that your uncle's going to have a big enough role in your wedding as it is.

As well, it should be your father who is asked permission (if your boyfriend and you go this route...its just a public nicety these days) to marry you, not your uncle.

Answer 7

It's your wedding and your choice. If you feel closer to your Uncle, ask him. Another solution might be for both of them to walk you down the aisle- I've seen this done at many weddings when there is a father and a step-father.

Answer 8

Ask your dad, not your uncle, it would be really hurtful to your dad. After all you are his daughter. Maybe at the wedding have a special dance with your uncle or if your giving a speach thank him. But have your dad give you away.

Answer 9

yes unless you don't talk to your father at all and have a serious dent in your relationship. you father will be crushed and it is likely that you may never be able to reconsile. but when you are mature enough to get marryed then you wont think twice about asking your father. asking your uncle over your father will couse some very painful scars for him. don't do that to the man who raised you. that is cruel

Answer 10

Sorry dear, unless your dad isn't in the picture you should ask him, not your uncle.