What if they are not in the head count but they still show up?
2007-04-27 03:47:33 · 17 answers · asked by Laura S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unfortunately, people don't realize the importance of RSVP until they are footing the bill for something!
If you are concerned, I recommend the same thing to all my brides. Call them.
Wait until one week after the response deadline you gave. Anyone who has not responded by then gets a phone call.
Here's what you say: Hi, Mary, I just wanted to make sure you received my wedding invitation! Since I hadn't heard from you I was afraid it got lost in the mail! Are you coming?".
This is not rude on your part, I promise! It was actually rude of them not to reply!
If they say they aren't sure, then tell them(nicely) that you really need to get the head count to the caterer, so you need to know, b/c you'd hate for someone to go hungry!
If you don't feel comfortable with this option, you will need to plan for at least 50 more guests than have responded just to be safe. Those are pretty much the choices!
Good Luck!
2007-04-27 04:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by valschmal 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
that is a very tricky situation. if you have a major affair going on( dinner, etc) where there is a limited amount of seating or it is prepaid i guess just ignore it. or make an announcement to the guests at the end of the wedding that there will be a catered dinner at the reception and hint around that there is a limited number of seats. or if there is no reason that they can't be there than just ignore it. it is rude to show up at a wedding and except them to change the plans for the person whi didn't rsvp. or include a please rsvp in the invation.
2007-04-27 08:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Liv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three options:
Say that in RSVP, that there is limited space and please return RSVP to hold their place. To call you a head of time if any questions or concerns. This warns the people that their is limited space and to not invite those un-unvited guests or don't come if don't reserve. Also, tells them to contact you incase their sitter got sick for the kids or you know, that typical stuff so you two can work something out if that person either can't come due to that or can come with the kids tagg'n along.
1) If they do come, you can have just a select few extra chairs and plates to accomidate.
2) If you have a few chairs, and none left when more show up, you can let them know you are max out and that you are sorry (which if do it for one person, it would be questionable in their eyes to not do it for others at this point)
3) Excuse the guests and let them know the wedding they are welcome (have few extra chairs), but the reception was RSVP'd and limited space was assigned and thank them for coming at least to that part.
2007-04-27 05:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most make extra for "suprise" guest. However, honestly, if someone doesn't RSVP it's your responsibility to call yourself to find out or have someone involved in the wedding call to find out. Not RSVP'ing doens't mean they aren't coming, it simply means they are rude enough to ignore a request to RSVP. I didn't get more than half of mine back, but most attended. We had to call & confirm the guest lit.
2007-04-27 07:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most caterers have an idea of how many to prepare for above and beyond the rsvp counts.
if you invited them to the wedding, then they get to attend.... rsvp's get lost in the mail quite often, or don't show up til days past the wedding.
2007-04-27 05:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well typically the caterer asks that you order a few plates more than your headcount so that you can accomadate anything like this. I think the polite thing to do would be to ignore the fact that this person did not RSVP, serve dinner, and go on with your wedding.
2007-04-27 04:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend had a wedding and half of the ppl didn't rsvp. Sorry, but you have to expect that. You can't turn them away. My friend placed extra empty tables in the back. Since half of them didn't rsvp, it got pretty crowded in the back but it was really out of her hands by then.
2007-04-27 03:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though I have stamped and addressed RSVP cards and sent them out with my invites I am expecting people no to reply, so about a week before the wedding I am going to call anyone outstanding and ask them if they are coming. That way I will know exactly who to expect
2007-04-27 04:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should always have extra plates in case something like that happens. Sometimes people forget, RSVP cards get lost in the mail, etc. You just have to plan ahead.
2007-04-27 05:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Xiomy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait a week or two after your rsvp's are supposed to be mailed back and call anyone that has not responded. its not rude...it's rude when people dont respond. people don't seem to realize the importance of responding yes or no until they have to pay for a big event. good luck!
2007-04-27 10:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by cubanirishgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋