daily contact-everynight and weekends as well for hours. he tells me he loves me and has no interest in other people-he wants to be with me forever. My concern is that he won't talk on the phone or meet me in person. I am intelligent and wonder if he's married but we spend so much time together via the internet that it's not possible for him to be married or involved with anyone.
He says that he's not ready yet emotionally to talk or meet-but then he tells me he wamts to be with me for the rest of his life.
Should I move on??? I feel I'm falling fo him...
2007-04-27 03:46:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly? You're wasting your time. If he doesn't trust you enough to even speak to you (let alone MEET you) than how in the world would the relationship ever move forward?
My goal when I used dating websites was to meet someone to have a relationship with (nearly impossible in your current circumstance). I realize you could be doing it for other reasons so please don't think I was trying to judge in my answer to you.
2007-04-27 03:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol. Sounds like trouble. I've got no problem talking on the phone to people I've met online. Meeting them in person is a lot different, but still don't mind doing it after an acceptable amount of time. I had one bad experience years ago where I talked to a girl over the net for months and on the phone, then finally met her and person and well... she pretty much lied about everything. I was not happy about it to say the least. If he isn't even willing to talk on the phone with you then that should send some red flags up.
2007-04-27 03:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by B Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The red flag should have went up when he told he loved you without ever talking to you on the phone or in person.
The second red flag shuold have went up when he said he wants to be with you for the rest of his life, but then isn't willing to meet you in person.
I have a bad feeling that he is trying to be someone that he really isn't. You are falling for a character, not a person, anyone can write something great and beautiful, it's the face to face interactions that you really get to know somebody.
2007-04-27 03:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Apollo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what he does for a living. If he is self-employed and does all his work via the computer, it'd be easy for him to spend so much time chatting back and forth to you even if he is married. This is exactly what my ex used to do.
Anyway, something sounds a little off-kilter here. After 4 months he has made no effort to speak on the phone or meet you. I would be very wary of this one.
2007-04-27 03:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not waste your time. It is nonsense to have an online relationship; you need a real relationship. Give him one last chance to meet with you within the next two weeks. If he is not emotianally ready by then, wish him well and move on. There are a thousand opportunities for you (as well as for him waiting out there and life is too short to waste your time)
2007-04-27 03:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Peter_33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you've only been relationship for 4 months, he's probable conserving his thoughts open. He might want to fairly be falling in love with you yet merely isn't particular yet. you ought to have a communique about your relationship and observe the position you stand with one yet another. he should not be dishonest yet he would not opt to close the door in this different woman in case it would not workout consultation with you. you want some sparkling boundary lines. in case you'd be mutually and under no circumstances seeing human beings, chatting with different females should be off limits.
2016-12-04 23:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah move on. I could make a bot that will say exactly what you want to hear, he's either a tool, emotionally unstable, or he has something to hide. Either way, why invest in that when you have the choice?
2007-04-27 03:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Beitzel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be wary of anyone that can "love" so easy. Demand that the two of you meet in person. If he declines again, move on, he's either got big problems or he's married.
2007-04-27 03:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Malaika 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i guess men sometimes try to win a woman's heart in anyway but they not true most of times, via internet i dont think so, but make sure you know everything about him before you move on, this is my 17 year old experience im sharing with ya, gud luck lady
2007-04-27 03:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has to be married and it sounds like his wife checks his phone records, hence the no contact by phone. Sounds like he may have done this before and got caught by the phone bill.
Move right along to someone else, doesn't sound like it's worth your time at all.
2007-04-27 03:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Todd B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋