I am a single mother of two great kids. I believe that I deserve and need to have one night to myself and out with my friends. Is it okay to drink while I am out with my friends? Is it okay to go to the bar and hang out with my friends? I am getting yelled at for even thinking of it. This person is telling me that I should not go. What do you think??
2007-04-27 01:36:45 · 27 answers · asked by tiffmom78 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you know your children are safe and you are safe then you definitely should go. Limit the number of drinks to two and get a cab home and there should be no problem.
Orangepaint, this is in R&S because she wants an honest Christian answer. I agree this is a good place to ask.
2007-04-27 01:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Velouria 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I think you are wise to ask other Christians. The apostle Paul wrote that all things are lawful for me (or any Christian) but all things are not expedient ( it means not doing some things is better). It is okay to have a drink or two but certainly not to the point of getting wasted or as many bars are rowdy you could end up going home with a black eye.
Perhaps you should seek companionship in a church ladies group as they will be a higher quality friend than bar room buddies.
The fact that you are an unmarried mother shows that you have made some bad choices in the past and you have to smarten up and make decisions that are wholesome for you and your children. Do your bar thing and while you are there ask yourself if this is good for you and your children.
I earnestly urge you to join a church and get some good social support for your life.
2007-04-27 09:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you think there are "DISHONEST CHRISTIANS".
I suppose there are those who are just "playing Christian" for one reason or another.
A very serious question.
I do not believe that drinking is forbidden in the BIBLE. JESUS turned water into wine when the wine ran out at a marriage feast. If HE disapproved of people drinking wine and celebrating, HE WOULD NOT HAVE DONE SO.
The Bible says to "be not drunk with wine" it does not prohibit drinking. The problem is self control. Drinking just a little, can lead to drinking more and an addiction to alcohol.
My advice is to NOT DRINK ALCOHOL, because in a moment of despair you will hit the bottle(s) with the thirst of a person lost in the desert without water. (been there, done that).
It is just TOO EASY to let a few drinks turn into an addiction.
JESUS loves you,
dave
2007-04-27 09:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by dave777 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand.
It probably feels like you are trapped in one world of maternal responsibility, while at the same time, there is a second life your friends, who may or may not have the same level of responsibility.
The simple and most honest answer is no person should tell you or force you how you should live. Certainly, no one has the right to dictate the spiritual consequences of one action or another. Your choices are your own.
But remember, virtues are nothing until tested. The fact that you are feeling some kind of inner conflict is good, not bad.
Many people sadly do not care for their personal responsibilities, nor their children.
You will know what is right. You will know when enough is enough. Just remember, whatever choice you make, your angels, your guardians, your God loves you and will not judge you for descisions.
Live life well. That is the best advice I can give you.
2007-04-27 08:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
What is the Holy Spirit telling you? I personally don't go to bars anymore simply because I am leading a Christian life and I don't want those who I have witnessed to seeing me as a hypocrite plus that is just not my scene after being saved.
If you friends aren't Christians maybe you could talk them into something new like an open and frank discussion on Christianity and this would give you a chance to share your faith with them.
2007-04-27 09:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well , from a Christian stand point . You have to set an example for your kids . So what does that example look like in your eyes? Going out I believe is alright as long as it is not all the time . I have seen a lot of my friends who go out 1 day a week and it is to much . They work all week long and then they go out and that is time taken away from there kids not to mention if they are hung over the next day . Please don't end up like a lot of other people and end up dropping them off with just anyone so you can go out. Being a single parent is not an easy job , I admire you for your strength and endurance. My mom was a single mom to. Take time for yourself just don't forget that your kids need you and watch you as their blueprint of how to be a woman.
2007-04-27 08:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by lme 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I wonder whether your friends you go and drink in the bar with are Christians. It would be good to spend the night out with believers doing things that wound be pleasing to God. Why must our enjoyment be equated with alcohol which may cause harm to us. By all means enjoy yourself I am sure you can do other better things that is not harmful to you with the right company.
2007-04-27 08:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by seekfind 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well I am out of fellowship right now with God and Jesus and I know I am not where I should be. But I will say yes it is wrong to do those things. The word of God teaches us to abstain from all appearances of evil. But you are the one who will have to make the decision on this. I will say it is not fun being the prodigal daughter. The longer you play on the devils playground the hard it is to come back. This was as honest as I can give.
2007-04-27 08:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by iwant_u2_wantme2000 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say it depends on the atmosphere, the bar, and what your goal/intention is when you're out with your friends...
I know in my town, there's certain bars you go to if you want to get "lucky" or downright drunk. But if you're just at a local pub with your friends, keeping it simple and just catching up on the latest news, what's the big whoop?
My only thing would be, do you spend as much recreational time with your kids as with your friends? homework and church not included?
Ultimately - if you're staying balanced you shouldn't even worry what other people think.
2007-04-27 08:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I honestly believe that it is not wrong for a Christian to have a drink or two, as long as they don't get totally bombed and go out doing things they'll regret. I know, a lot of churches are against alcohol altogether, mine included. Jesus drank wine, and Paul advised Timothy to take some wine for his stomach. So I think if you keep it low key and don't go overboard, it's fine.
2007-04-27 08:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Starfall 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋