This guy pushed me before and left me alone in public once. I forgave him and continued to be with him. He promised me that he will never do it again and treated me better for a few months.
He broke his promise and left me alone in public for the 2nd time when he got angry over a trivial matter. I didn't break up with him because I thought things would improve and I still wanted the relationship to work out. Before I could get over this incident, he hurt me again by not being there for me when my aunt died of cancer in Jan. He even said I was 'stupid and unreasonable' when i wanted him to be at the funeral wake.
After which, the relationship went downhill. I was so hurt that I didn't feel like meeting him, thus neglecting him. The relationship finally ended 2 mths ago. He said its my fault for not being able to forget certain things.
Some of my friends said that the problems btw us were not that serious while others said it should have ended long ago. Was I wrong ?
2007-04-27 00:59:34 · 12 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you were right. What was wrong was ever giving him the chance to abandon you again.
People like that generally need a lot of tough love, and you're not the one who's going to get the reward.
The best thing for him is to learn the hard way- and that means, you violate me like that once, you lose.
Think about it.
If every woman he is ever with again breaks up with him when he acts in so abusively manipulatively a fashion, one day he will learn to never do it again.
But if the same woman keeps putting up with it,
he really won't change.
Never stay with this kind of man.
I've done it,
and now I'm just done with it.
And I don't really care what happens to the ones I've shoved off of my poor-bleeding-heart back.
My man loves me, and protects me, and enjoys me, and I him.
Ah, love! When you finally kick the crap to the curb!
2007-04-27 01:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong. Not only did he show no concern for your welfare by pushing you and leaving you in a public place, not once but twice. The insensitivity over the funeral again shows a lack of thought for you, or your feelings. You should not have to "forget" incidents between you two, he should have worked to make it better, to replace the trust he caused to be lost.
You are better off without him.
2007-04-27 01:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you weren't comfortable with the things he was doing then you did right to break up with him. you have to do right by you and not worry about what everyone else thinks or says. in the end you would have been the one living with the decisions you made and if you weren't happy with him and he wasn't there for you when you needed him and you feel that that is a quality you want someone you are going to be with to have then don't feel bad about the decision you have made. he should have been more courteous to your feelings anyhow.
2007-04-27 01:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Morganna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 04:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by nedeau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think u were wrong bt ifeel tht u r feeling guilty for something....u r may be felin too lonely and cnt live widout with that person and tht z y u r think wat u did wrong so ur relation has been ended but the true thing is tht you cudnt be happy with him if ur reletionship was stil goin on so dnt regret...whatever has happened,it z good for you...it z managed by god for you...coz he will never let a good person suffer a lot and u r good so pleas dont feel guily and dont blame urself...look forward for other guy and ofur ife..by the way wat happend with that other guy???184 cm highted????hmmmmm....u never told anything else????
2007-04-27 17:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, I strongly feel, that you are in the right. You have exercised, "integrity in a moment of choice."
2007-04-27 01:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be glad thsi relationship is over, that guy was toxic and you deserve so much better!! forget about the jerk, find a guy who will respect you...
2007-04-27 01:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your certainly not wrong. sometimes its hard to be there for bereaved people, especially if you've not gone through it yourself but he still should have been there to listen and be strong for you. forget him he's not worth thinking about
2007-04-27 01:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now i would suggest you drop him, you are very sensitive and he does not care for your feelings and hence it is just a one way.
2007-04-27 01:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't married to this guy?
Walk away; things won't get better.
2007-04-27 01:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by wizjp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋