I have been dating a certain woman for a few years...we have had our ups and downs and a few months back it seemed like things changed but recently its been heading back to the way it used to be...I didnt like that and the last time...I left. My problem is that we are heading towards that part of the relationship I really dont like and Im getting those feelings that make me want to leave. Im away for college until after this fall and I feel like when i go home nothing we talked about changing will have actually changed....we dont really talk, we dont really have sex (she says she wants to work on it but everytime I suggest we try getting help..it never happens). I do not know what im doing..honestly....because I have tried and it seems like im not getting anywhere..emotionally, physically. Last time I left it was hard.....so how do I say to her that we are going down that road and if we go down it again..im not sure im staying around? She says all the right things but doesnt do them...
2007-04-27 00:27:14 · 6 answers · asked by stickitywit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think we are a good team its just we seem to be regressing...I dont know what is happening.... I feel that if I leave this time it will be for good because I know myself....she is not someone I want to put out of my life but if she doesnt want to be there then I have no choice. I will ask her to explain to me what is happening on her side...if she has a problem or maybe someone else...I will ask to get to the bottom and tell her that we can not keep patching up the same problem over and over again.
2007-04-27 12:58:54 · update #1
Tell her, not us!
2007-04-27 00:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by NJGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm how much do u love this girl?relationships are never easy .....u havnt really explained enough i feel...but u do have the caption weird position .....and if in college u must be young so i feel maybe she is uncomfortable with this position u need to talk to her and find out why she feels this way and give her confidence....the two of u are young its all a learning and being patient experience....but u know u dont talk about your day to day life?your friendship the way u are and feel when your together...now u have to weigh up i think do u love her ? and if she loves u give her time she will do in her own time sometimes the more u say something it gets into there subconscience and they keep worrying am i doing it right does he want this does he want that instead of just relaxing and enjoying and loving eachother....so anyway u have to weigh up the situation because some things can be worked on and sometimes to there are sacrifices.....nothing is completely perfect...
2007-04-27 01:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by yvette w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no point in staying where there is no growth but apprehension and unhappiness if you thinkyou love her too much tell her to put her house in order while you away in school then come back and make it work but if you know it aitn worth it just leave relationships ought to be something special not a habit of breaking up and making up
2007-04-27 00:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by miss-law 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if things go back to the way they were, you are going to leave, and do it!
2007-04-27 00:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should have a long talk and see what your goals are, maybe it really is time to call it off and move on before it gets any harder.
2007-04-27 00:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Robert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think she's right for you. these things happen and finnaly show after a while of going out. she's not your type i guess. talk to her about it. see what she's thinking
2007-04-27 00:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown Artist~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋