do you think we always have to pretend were happy enough splitting the bill, cos were cool, were just like your mates, and stop expecting romantic gestures? have we sold out our desires in the hope of getting something that lasts? when did that happen?
2007-04-27 00:04:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know exactly what you mean. A lot of men think that women don't want romance these days and I can't blame them for thinking that. Because some women push TOO hard to be "equal" to men, they have made the men think that all women want to be treated that way. I want romance, and I know a lot of women who do. In my experience, when I first got together with my husband, I told him what I thought was romantic, you know nudge..nudge, and he was VERY receptive to my needs, and actually ENJOYS doing romantic things becase he says being romantic with me makes him feel really good, like it should be. I do honestly think women have a HUGE part to play in why men are "afraid" to be romantic...If a man always opens doors for women, because he's a gentlemen, and a woman says to him "What? You think I can't open the door myself?" he's not gonig to be so quick to do it again, and I've heard those very words from women. The women that take that attitude screw us out of good old fashioned romance.
2007-04-27 00:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by korny_freak_27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the idea of romance is different for everyone. Many people think romance consists of "the grand gesture". I don't. I would take reality and the little things that people do for each other over the showiness of "the grand gesture" any day. Romance should be (in my mind) the simple gestures that make you feel special. It could be going for a walk together, calling your partner just to hear their voice or making an ordinary meal at home special by lighting candles and turning off the TV. Those are the kind of things that mean more to me than "the grand gesture".
2007-04-27 07:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very interesting question. I think women do want romance...women do appreciate a little chivalry now and again. I think it's all about first being acknowledged as a partner in a relationship-a lot of the romantic ideals paint the woman as an object-like some holy grail that must be rescued and then treated with kid gloves...I think we just want to be understood that we are strong and ambitious and self-sufficient. We can save ourselves, but at the same time, I do believe that women don't mind being swept off their feet once in a while.
I believe in romance. But I'm not a princess. When I am involved with someone, we're a team-so I'm not going to empty his wallet to impress me...I want to share a good time. The guy I am with now is old fashioned, so he really wants that feeling of knowing he can provide for me, and so he likes to pay for things, but he knows that I don't expect him to, and so we've both learned to put ourselves aside. That way, when he is being romantic, I know to lay down my independence and let myself be taken care of...and when he knows he doesn't have to baby me all the time.
Some women believe they are entitled to romance...and that's not good, because there's no surprise in it.
The world we live in now has evolved a lot, and the roles women play now are changed...but I don't think that should affect our desires for romance. It just alters the definition of romance a bit.
2007-04-27 09:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your saying girl. I fell into being a man's buddy for way too many years. I was always the girl men came to discuss their love lives with. On one hand that is a good thing that they feel comfortable enough with me to do so, but my feminine side craves for romance. I'm waiting for that big romantic gesture in my life with no pretending. That is my expectation and desire. :)
2007-04-27 07:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had some regular romance, That's what us women want instead we get dinner and bowling. What ever happened to a walk in the park and a picnic or making dinner at home, knowing that the food ur man just cooked is either going to be awesome or taste like ewe!! But that you can always laugh about later.
2007-04-27 07:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just for the record' I like to romance a woman. If she is somebody i really like' I like doing things for her. Buy her flowers sometimes' cook for her' open the door for her' little things. The only problem is finding a woman that won't take advantage of my good graces.
2007-04-27 07:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋