it's been a year and my partner really changed.. he said it was because of the influence given to him by his peers.. and now i miss the sweetness he usually shows me the first time he had me as his girlfriend.. i've told him so much about it but he just gets angry and says his sorry but never do anything at all..
2007-04-26 22:29:14 · 17 answers · asked by natalie marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that it's not ok to forget about being sweet to your partner because #1) you haft to remember why you liked that person in the first place and that might involve their sweetness and their generosity, and #2) it's not right for them to change just because of the pressure of their fellow peers, cause basically they're saying that they're embarrassed by the way they treat you, and the way you treat them while in public, and/or around people. my advise is confront the person and if doesn't work then they're not worth it.
Good Luck!
2007-04-26 22:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That could of been what is called the "honeymoon phase". It happens, but I am not saying it is right. It's normal for a person to not be AS attentitive and sweet as when you first began dating, but it should never stop! My boyfriend tells me each and every day how much he loves me, how beautiful I am, and how much he appreciates what I do for him and me as the person I am. And I never tell him to, nag him, cry, I do not do anything to make him tell me that other then him just wanting to. But that is in my case, and I just think I am extremely lucky.
But there is no reason he should stop being a sweetheart to you, he should of wanted to be sweet to you despite what his "peers" said, it sounds more like a decline in appreciation for you. Why not tell him you feel that his change in attitude toward you looks like he no longer appreciates you. If he keeps saying he is sorry and doesn't atleast make an effort to fix this, then I just would go. There are tons of men out there who would die for a cute, sweet, girl to call their own.
2007-04-27 05:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not OK. I am 65 yrs old, male, and here is my 2 cents worth.
When your boyfriend stops being sweet to you, it simply means you are not important to him anymore. To have a good relationship, it takes trust, caring, love, thinking about the other, and talking about things; everything!
If he won't talk about it, then your relationship is doomed. Look for another boyfriend. He will find any "excuse" to not talk with you, making promises, but not doing anything about it. You are not that important in his life anymore. I'm sorry.
2007-04-27 05:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by fredg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to my partner, too. I found out that the sweetness was just a fake put-on in order to win me. After that, the real him came out and stuck around, permanently. I was grieving for the old him to no avail. Don't get your hopes up on this one.
2007-04-27 05:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this but you need to move on. If he has changed this much in a year, try to imagine how it will be in 10 years. You need to find someone who will treat you nice. We all change to a certain extent but you need to decide if you can run the risk this early in the game.
2007-04-27 05:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! It is not okay! A relationship takes lots of hard work and you are being taken for granted! That is bull about his peers and I think you know it. Lose the loser.
2007-04-27 05:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by munchkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two have fallen into a rut. Find something to help you break out of it, or this relationship is going to fall apart at the seams.
2007-04-27 05:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah the typical wtf are you whipped? Your "boy"friend needs to learn to be sweet behind closed doors. Not treat u like **** or cold shoulder u in front of the pack but not be all touchy feely sweet and stuff. But when you two are alone he needs to learn to turn that switch. So it also makes the woman want to grab the man and get each other alone too ;-)
2007-04-27 05:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bothering you alot then you need to communicate that to him. You might suggest to him that you guys take a break, maybe see other people, it might be he isn't IN love. If he IS in love with you he will want to keep you.
2007-04-27 06:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by awjandbjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...you are decribing a perfect marriage scenerio.
I think u have had each other for toooooooooo long. U need a change or simply marry.
2007-04-27 05:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by Toon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋