I am thinking of getting an abortion, what do you think?

Question

my boyfriend of 2 years ran off when he heard that i was pregnant, my parents are both dead in a car crash last year, i'm going to school and am making barely enough money to cover my rent each month. I was a kid put up for adoption and look how horible i have turned out. i think i should just kill it.

Answer 1

you have to give the kid a chance. Let it live and put it up for adoption, maybe a good family will take care of the baby

Answer 2

You are wrong about you having turned out horrible. You seem to be a very caring, and thoughtful person to come here and ask others what you should do. And that takes a lot of guts to do.

I'm pro-choice on the issue. And although most would have you think that "we who are pro-choice" believe in abortions... have misconceptions to what we each believe in our own right. Some keep their baby. Some give them up for adoption. That is what Pro-Choice is all about. The freedom to choose.

Others do what they feel is best to do. Sometimes for the same reasons you seem to be contemplating the idea of aborting your baby. You don't feel like you have support of anyone, but you do.

You have community programs that will assist you. There should be a WIC program that helps you from pre-birth to birth and up. There you get pregnancy care and food vouchers for you and the fetus. Also after the baby is born - if you choose to keep him/her. Food banks that you could go to for boxes of food. You should be able to get food stamps/card that will help you fill your cupboards and refrigerator with better food choices (although there you do the shopping). You're not going to eat anymore than you already do if you were not carrying the baby. You will however probably need to change your eating habits to have a healthy baby.

Surely you have friends you can confide in and who would help and support you. Physically and verbally cheer you on so to speak. You can always get a room mate or two if that is possible to help stretch your money. You are attending school and getting an education which is a plus.

I cannot tell you what to do in the end for that is a decision for you, and it will be a difficult one to make. Regret afterwards of doing so is what most go through. Crying, depression, and so on. And adopted children do not turn out any better or worse than biologolical children do.

I hope that you give it great thought to instead have the baby and put him/her up for adoption. Call around and seek out assistance along the way. Both from your friends, and community services. And who knows - when the time comes for the adopting out - you may find that you are in a better position to afford and keep the child to raise on your own at first. But eventually you will find a loving man who would take you both - care for you, and the baby as if he/she were his own. Don't grab the first man that comes along unless he has proven to you that he is worth your time, efforts, and energy. You'll know this when he shows you that he thinks you are to him worth the same.

Answer 3

Ok, girl. Get ahold of yourself and THINK. Are you religious? If not, good. Will it bother you later? If not, also good. If the answers to either of those two questions are yes, then that's bad. Bad because you'll be impoverished because some sperm donor messed up your life. Having a baby now and keeping it will severely limit your choices. The next boyfriend you scope out might not want a girl with a child. Also in the back of your mind, you'll be looking for a father and you might make a hasty choice. Could you tolerate actually having the baby and give it up for adoption? That might hurt too much. On the other hand if you are not "too far along" and have some time yet, you could contact an adoption agency. OR you could be paid quite well for making a couple very happy as a surrogate mother. You have to shop around. It would pay off your education and maybe start a career for yourself. The adoptive parents start paying you monthly right away, girl. They pay for all the costs. There is nothing wrong with that IF you can give up the baby when the time comes. THINK. #1 Messed up life and poverty. #2 Messed up head and regrets (you might become religious later). #3 Damn good start in your young life with money for security. #4 Or privately having a proceedure and going about your life a bit wiser. With your family being gone, there won't be as many around to gawk at you as you grow bigger if you were to go the surrogate route. Lots of women are surrogate mothers for couples that neither one of them are fertile. I think $25,000 is about what the birth mom gets. I'm not sure. There are plenty of agencies. If you choose proceedure, you have to make sure the boyfriend is really GONE and out of the picture. He could hit you up legally for having the abortion or want "his half" of the money from the surrogacy. Either way, make sure he's dealt with. AND make sure you are settled in your mind what you want and what you can tolerate. Be strong and logical.

Answer 4

You would be willing to kill your own child? Do not do this. I am sorry about your boyfriend and your parents, but this is not the childs fault, none of it is, so why should the child die. Put it up for adoption, I was adopted and it worked for me. If you get an abortion, I gaurantee you will regret it. I will pray for you to make the right decision. Stay strong and do not give into Satan's desires. Jesus is there for you, all you need to do is call on Him and He will help you through this. God bless.

Answer 5

I need to tell you this it's not good to abort a baby because it's just like killing the baby and i know your not a killer and it's in the 10 commanments it's THOU SHALL NOT KILL!and if you are a really good person you'll not do that or I'm saying you will not kill a baby and even if your parents died and I know that its hard for you,you should try your best so that you can survive and if you did not kill there's no problems because your not thinking that you are a killer because you did not kill a child and this is my advice for you try your best so that you can survive and your baby.

Answer 6

i know things look dark but this is what i would do have the baby and adopt it out but put a action to the new born that in later life you wish to be able to contact the baby second to that go to centre link and get help for your self the baby and for your piece of mind put dont abort it for you will allwase think what if good luck my friend and most of all take care of your self

Answer 7

Just because you've had a bad experience with your adoptive parents doesn't mean that your child would have a bad experience. There are plenty of resources to help you carry your baby to term and then put the child up for adoption. Check out the first link below. If I can help in any way, feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail].

Answer 8

First off it doesn't seem like you are a horrible person since it sounds like you are supporting yourself and are going to school. Meaning that you are trying to better your situation and that is respectable.
Secondly, the question you are asking is a personal one. Only you can decide what you want to do. There is no right answer. You are the only one that knows your situation on this forum. Good luck

Answer 9

People need to take responsibility for their procreative activities. That means not conceiving if you are in no position to provide a good home and upbringing to a child. To do otherwise is selfish, irresponsible, and immoral. Immoral for two reasons. One, a child needs a good home in order to be happy and grow into a good person. Two, unwanted pregnancies lead to abortion.

Answer 10

Jesus the second member of The Godhead said in Matthew 19:18 He saith unto him, Which? Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness,
Although you said your life turned out bad, may i point out that its NOT "your" life, either the baby's or yours, you and that baby was bought with a price, [1 Cor.6:20] also in the ten commandments [not suggestions] thou shalt not murder Exodus 20:13 and note The Lord in the first text said the word Murder instead of kill which is more correct but in any case give the baby to someone i have in my life have no family and no one close and would LOVE to have a baby so pick someone that child belongs to GOD and is NOT yours, ask GOD what HE would have you do with HIS property, find out more free bible lessons www.amazingfacts.org talk to me also [e-mail] God bless