Hi im 16 and iv been with my bf for 2 years now and latley couple months we kept fighting and being on and off.... also we were two different ppl but we both r crazy in luv..... Now we both decited just to be frineds and we are now but im going crazy missing him and i know its hard for him to but it seems like he wanted to do something or wants to do something that he couldnt do while he was with me i just dnt know what to do.... Were frineds and i wanted this to but im sad because i miss him asa bf but i dnt want him back ..... Aghh i dnt get it what should i do???
2007-04-26 19:30:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's any comfort, a lot of people with a lot of experience can't pull off the transition from lovers to friends. It's always very difficult. It's also as natural as breathing that you're going to grieve this loss, and there's no healthy way to avoid it. It's the cost of falling in love in the first place, and the crazy thing is that most people are willing to pay it even when they know how high the price is.
I'm sure other answers will tell you to exercise, think happy thoughts, put it behind you, etc. Exercise is good, but unfortunately there's no healthy way to bypass the process of grieving. Spending time together as friends makes the process more difficult because the reminders of what you had are in your face. When you can look at him in a more neutral light it's somewhat easier to be friends.
2007-04-26 19:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People out grow each other from time to time. You however; are learning a valuable lesson; never close the door, unless you mean it. Now that you two are no longer a item; but only friends; stick to it.
Perhaps it will work out for both of you as friends; or as a couple. In any case, when we break up from someone, if it was true love; you are more than likely to have residual feelings; that in time will fade away.
2007-04-27 02:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let time take its course for now, if you keep pushing you will push him away trust me, your young sweetie have fun it WILL get easier. lots of luck.
2007-04-27 02:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat ur heart tells u 2.
2007-04-27 02:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋