Okay, I am, from what I've heard, what every man, 21-35, wants. A nice, good, loyal girl who loves bad girl sex. Yet, with nearly every guy I've dated and gotten to know, it freaks them out. Either they only see me as the angel and won't be open to any experimentation in the bedroom, or they see me as this bad girl and get dissappointed when I say I only have sex when I'm in a committed relationship. I mean, I'm sorry, but can't I be both? Is this really what men want? Or is this something every man says he wants and then as soon as he gets it can't handle it? Oh and I'm an adult female who can make her own choices, so if you don't believe what I do is right, keep your opinion to yourself. I'm not gonna change because of you.
2007-04-26 18:51:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think ideally a lot of guys want a good girl who is "a freak in the bed and lady in the streets."
but if the guy is insecure, he'll take it that the girl is experienced, and therefore must be a whore or promiscuous, or (insert negative labels here).
so, the angel that wants to be bad is a shock, and the good girl turned bad is a disappointment.
guys who are insecure want to be able to teach the girl how to work it, and are intimidated by a girl who isn't naive in the bedroom. most likely, their own performance isn't that great or maybe they are not sure of themselves. a naive girl would be much easier to impress than one who has had experience.
however, if a guy is secure with himself and confident with good self-esteem, then he will have no problem with ms. goody-goody revving up her sexual side once in a while.
and then some guys don't place a high importance on sex in a relationship.
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anyway, do what you feel. don't do it because you think that's what the other person wants. eventually you'll find someone that you can impress just by being yourself.
2007-04-26 18:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sibyl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now to your "question". What you've iterated "every man...wants a nice good, loyal girl who loves bad girl sex..."
Well, coming from a me, that's not even true in a lot of good men. The guys you're dating probably aren't the good ones who actually have morals.
Maybe if you were dating guys who actually gave a damn about your morals and values about your body your problem would be solved.
Just a suggestion :).
2007-04-27 01:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice, good, loyal girl..every mans dream, well im only 17 and my g/f says she is but i dont know. and why ask this question if you put this..."Oh and I'm an adult female who can make her own choices, so if you don't believe what I do is right, keep your opinion to yourself. I'm not gonna change because of you."
2007-04-27 02:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan Silva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men do not know their wants from their needs especially in relationships sometimes they have no clue at all. Personally there is nothing better than a good girl who knows when to be bad, sounds like you just haven't found the right guy yet. It doesn't mean you should question yourself or who you are though.
-NmD!
2007-04-27 01:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shake it off, it's what certain guys want, not all of us. I'm a guy and I'm in a happy relationship with my wife. We're able to live our lives and sex is fantastic.
What you need to do is make no excuses for yourself. You are who you are. No guy needs to expect anything from you, since you are who you are. You need no excuses or reasons for yourself. Stay true and you'll find someone respectful and caring. Don't worry.
NEVER change yourself for others.
2007-04-27 01:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men want to have sex with little commitment. It's the commited relationship part that is freaking them out. Sad, but true.
2007-04-27 02:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Stellar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you are in a committed relationship, try introducing the guy more slowly to the bad girl inside you.
Start with something like play spanking. Next intimate night, try something a bit more. Next thing you know he will be your bad boy for your bad girl.
2007-04-27 02:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep looking there is a guy out there that will date you for a while to be able to bang you and stick around for more. I imagine that there will be a lot once they read this question actually. Good luck and yes you can have both.
2007-04-27 01:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by wantajeannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very much admire your attitude and your frankness. Complete ingenuity, directness and honesty are rare qualities these days. All men, and all people for that matter, want different things. No matter what, I think that you should continue being yourself. Eventually, you will find someone whom you want and whom wants you. NEVER stop being yourself, or someone will fall in love with you for someone whom you aren't.
Best of luck.
2007-04-27 01:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't care about your life or u changing. but i can point your mistake - u shlouldn't act as a slut from the beginning and after astart being a prude. u should do it in another order. be a prude and after surprise a man when u re already in relationships
2007-04-27 02:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋