Female R and S regulars?

Question

I have a question for you. Now, I am not judging, I am just curious about your opinions. What would you do if you were raped and a child resulted from that? Would you still be pro life?

Am I pro life? Put it this way. If i were ever raped and a pregnancy resulted from it, I would raise that child with the same love and care I give to my own children as it's not the child's fault and the child should not be made to suffer for how it was conceived. That doesn't meant I want to say that to other women, because every woman is different and has her own unique circumstances, but personally I could never ever get an abortion or give up a child of mine for adoption.

How do you as women feel about this and what would you do?

I just stated it's NOT the child's fautl, but I also stated that I am not every single woman. And how do you know I have no experience with this? I'm not trying to bash women who have, I'm stating my own personal way of dealing with it, and I'm asking how other women would. Don't get up in arms over something that isn't there.

No, I did not get raped. I was discussing this with my sister and I wanted to know other's opinions.\

Answer 1

I was raped at age 14,I raised the most beautiful daughter in the world.

Answer 2

i knew a girl who was raped at 17 and got pregnant as a result. Although she wanted an abortion, she was convinced otherwise by some pro-lifers who offered to support her throughout the pregancy. As soon as she was passed the first tri-mester, they abandoned her and moved onto the next person. She was still trying to deal with the ordeal of the rape, and everytime she looked inthe mirror, she was reminded of it. when she was 5 months pregnant, she commited suicide.

You can sit there and say "I could never ever get an abortion or give up a child of mine for adoption" but until you are in the situation you can't say for sure.

I am pro-choice, it is up to the woman involved and she should make the decision herself. However, I do not think that abortion should entered into lightly, as ther can be severe emotional issues.

I know of women who use it as a method of contraception, which is wrong.

If all hospitals gave out the morning after pill, which prevents pregancy from occuring I'm sure the abortion rate would go down.

Answer 3

Whenever the question of rape comes i always amaze seeing the ratio of rapes in western (so called civilised world)...i feel it bad but i want to put a question "have u ever been raped what is ur nationality" to see a statistics of this crime....Any ways about your question it varies from culture to culture like i am an asian here the first question is the shame the life will be hell for both the mother as well as the kid, in the culture u live people dont care much to these things thats y a daughter is proud to say before her father and brother that she is pregnant from the boy friend and no one minds it.....so in such situations u can find many woman who wont bother to raise a rape resulted child........and same way the child if born and raised has less chances of getting phsychologically abused then a child born this way in asian countries specially like india pakistan bangladesh srilanka etc.......I think Quraan mentions a period of about 4 months (not sure but some period is mentioned) after which Allah puts spirit in the childs body in mothers womb...my presonal view is that even if its a rape resulted child u like or not but u cant kill him or her after this period when Allah put soul in him cuz it would be killing now........before this period u probably have the option to go for abortion cuz till that time there is no soul only meat and blood......you may do more research on these verses and issue of abortion with some good muslim Muftis......My concern is only on the physchological side thats y i m saying that it will vary from case to case basis...the mother knows at first place whether she could bear the phychological pressure or not if yes she may go for if no she wont.....on second she should think or may get counselling wheather child will be effect phsychologically?? if yes better not to make the life of child as hell if no again its upto her choice......by the way a joke coming to my mind.......in USA a question came in exam please state your fathers name.......majority of students cheated the name from other students copy.

Answer 4

i'm pro-life, but make allowances. if i became pregnant as a result of rape, yes i would have an abortion. there's no way that i would be able to look at that child every day and not think about what had happened to me. and as far as adoption goes, i simply couldn't carry a child for 9 months knowing how it had come into the world. i have been raped and i know for a fact that had i become pregnant there is no way i could have done it.

rape, incest, molestation, etc. are the only allowances that i make when it comes to abortion.

to clarify my situation, i had a pregnany scare after i was raped and my immediate decision was to have an abortion.

before this happened to me, i was 100% against abortion. i never would have considered it under any circumstances. i even told myself if i ever was raped, i would keep the child. this is not a question you can fully answer unless you have been in this situation before.

Answer 5

I feel that no matter how that child was conceived, it is still a child and deserves life as much as anyone else. I do not deny that carrying a child of a rapist in one's womb would be very difficult and painful, however, two wrongs do not make a right. There are places that a person can go to get help with this; group therapy, counseling, psychologists, etc. If you feel that you cannot raise the child there are people in this world who would love to have a child to raise that can't have one of their own. Abortion should never be an option.

God bless,
Stanbo

Answer 6

ProudMuslimah...honestly, some people might not like it but I am a practical person.

If I am raped and was pregnanted. Of course, no one wants to kill a child. I will see the condition, Islam allowed abortion at certain period and I will do it unless its too late.

Because, by giving birth to a child due to raped, we will have some sort of psychological problems later. Subconciously we might not realised but at times you may seem hatred to that child when life is not going your way.

Believe me, I've seen and rescue few mothers and child which is in this situation. End up I took 2 as foster child and the few need to send for adoption. Not all woman can handle the post natal depression.

Raped woman, usually will have post natal depression for this kinda situation..and they need support. Yes they are support group but I guess not all are willing to go or at times don even know that it existed.

In country like mine, where society views are taken seriously, some woman just cannot handle the situation and stigma.

So its best to look out for the future too.

Answer 7

I have to ask if you really think that it would be possible to raise, let's go with him, with such love and care. Rape is an extremely traumatic experience. You may say that the child is something beautiful that came out of it, but it would also be a constant reminder of what's likely the most horrible experience of your life. And what if the thought crossed your mind that some behavioral traits might be genetic? Would you be able to look at your son without a tinge of fear, especially as he gets older? Or if he started to look like your rapist and you had to look at him every day and love him. I don't doubt that you would raise the child, but can you honestly say that these wouldn't come into play at some point? And if they did, I won't try to convince you of abortion, but wouldn't adoption be kinder?

Answer 8

I have been raped. I didn't get pregnant. If I were to get pregnant from a rape, I have thought about it and this would be my response:
That child is half ME (genetically speaking). How could I possibly blame the child for its father? How could I possibly not pour out love to that child?

Abortion is murder, and two wrongs don't make a right. A child coming from a rape would mean that God is turning an evil event into a positive and hopeful one. Life is beautiful and precious.

Answer 9

Good on you!
I would NEVER have an abortion!
And i believe as you do that the child had no part in how it was conceived,and therefore should not be killed for the vileness of its father. I too would definitely carry the baby to term.. what i am not so sure of that in that situation is Would i be able to raise it as i do my other children? so perhaps i would put the child up for adoption so that someone could love it as it deserves to be loved. But i would have to be in that situation and see how i felt before telling you that is what i would do. I would hope i was given the strength to raise it, but if i just couldn't, i would as i said let someone else have the chance to love it, as it deserves to be loved.
I am glad that not everyone in this world is so happy to MURDER a baby!I bow to the divinity and love in you!
Blessed Be!
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Answer 10

I personally would never get an abortion either. The child did not ask to be conceived so why punish it? I do believe however that it shouldn't be up to me what another woman does with her body. I will talk to a friend in this instance but I will not push my values on her. It is ultimately her decision and she is the one that will have to live with that decision for the rest of her life.

Hugs

Answer 11

For a young woman who is in no financial condition to raise a child, I would not continue with the pregnancy. BTW, the foetus does not 'suffer' as you said. They do not feel.

I would have to give up all my plans for the only life I am ever going to have, all because of the selfish actions of another.