Dropping Hints?

Question

How do I drop hints about the type of engagement ring I want. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and are planning on getting married. However, we haven't really set a specfic date. I would like to slowly drop a hint or two about what I would like, when the time comes. But, I don't want him to think I'm pressuring him for an engagement within the next few months.

My boyfriends is pretty old fashioned, so my engagement will be a totally surprise. He also believes in getting me jewerly I love or admire. If I say I like something I see someone wearing I often get something similar for a present. Money isn't really and issue for him, he has a good salary.

So, anyway to be very sutle w/o adding pressure.

Sorry for the typos. I didn't realize I hit the submit before I previewed.

Answer 1

To me, jewelry is a very personal thing and I rarely change out the pieces I wear. Other than earrings, which I will usually change, I wear the same 3 rings (my engagement ring, wedding band and claddaugh ring), the same necklace, and the same watch and bracelet every single day. Needless to say, I wanted a ring that I felt comfortable with wearing and that fit my style.

My husband is a very good jewelry buyer and never bought me a piece that I didn't love. I attribute this to him being a very good observer and me being open with what I liked and didn't like. I don't see anything wrong with this - he wants to get me someting I like because it makes me happy, and I want to wear something that I like and feel comfortable in. Since we're not mindreaders, we have to communicate with each other.

I'd be honest with him and not play games with him. Just say, "I know you're not ready to buy and I know you want to pick it out on your own, but would it be okay if I showed you what I like in the way of engagement rings?" Let him decide if he wants to know. If he says, "Sure" you're in luck, but don't overstay your welcome, so to speak. Get in and get out - give him a few ideas and let him take it from there. Don't make a big deal of it.

If he says no, well then maybe you do have to be a little trickier. He may say no because he already has an idea and his mind is made up, or he thinks if he says yes, you'll turn into a bridal magazine buying freak calling every reception place in a 100 mile radius. So you'll need to think about who he may ask for help or advice when the time comes and let them know what you're into. And there's no harm is pointing out a few things that you like or admire on a casual basis when you're with him. (Again, don't overstay your welcome. A simple, "Oh, that's really pretty." or a "I really like her ring" is sufficient)

Good luck!

Answer 2

Just a personal opinion, but I really do think it's best to let the guy choose the ring. It's a very special thing that he can do, choosing something which he feels will be suitable for you, and he will endeavour to get something which you like. A mature woman will accept what is offered to her, knowing the symbolism is much more important than the ring itself.
Hopefully, too, he will know to spend what he can comfortably afford; the business about the two or three months' salary is bunk. The average price for an engagement ring is $600 to 800, though there are rings available for $100 and up.
Relax, don't pressure or nag. Three years is a long time to have invested already!

Answer 3

You can show him photographs of the rings you like. If you like a type of ring because of a certain reason, your grandmother had one like it, say so. Tell him it is important to you. The width of the wedding band is very important, in some cultures it is almost a prediction. Decide before he makes the purchase, as your wedding bands will match your engagement ring in some way.
He may be totally lost as to how to how to approach this purchase. My brother was so dumbfounded he finally asked my mom to ask my brother-in-law for help with the purchase. He didn't know where to go, how much to spend, didn't have any idea the ring she'd like, etc. He was also terrified of being cheated. It wasn't the money spent on the ring, he got her a gorgeous ring, he needed help in deciding where to purchase the ring, the type of diamond, the quality, the insurance, etc. She was a doctor's daughter and she was thrilled with the ring. The entire family spent weeks searching for a ring they thought would make her happy. It took maybe three weeks to do, although it cost my brother months of lonely worry before he spoke up.

Answer 4

Well i am in the same situation except I did something about it. Haha. What I did was look at rings on his computer and save them in his favorites. Seems tacky I know but last night he would not stop asking me ring questions. He is not curious about the size i want, what shape, clarity and all that. The other thing is I get Tiffany magazines monthly and I sit them on the table and I always catch him looking, haha.

Answer 5

I kid you not, I posted a photo of the ring I wanted to his bathroom mirror (and I got the ring I wanted). He just wouldn't admit it to me because he wanted it to be a surprise.

The proposal was still a surprise, because he never did tell me if he got the ring.

I had a friend call me crying once - she said the ring her boyfriend gave her was "so thin she could bend it with her mind". From then on I swore I would make sure my man would be clear about my taste and not left to guess.

It may take some of the "fun" out of it - but it's better than trying to tell him he spent a lot of money for YOU on something you don't absolutely love.

Answer 6

All adult men are distinctive. some dont even drop tricks in any respect...they do no longer something. Others drop tricks via being a finished jerk. lol i comprehend this is frightening, yet in line with risk you will desire to easily tell him you like him. Or discover out if he lieks you. tricks would desire to be perplexing, and would desire to postpone the a possibility relationship your hoping for...have faith me, adult men do no longer oftentimes get the "hint" lol

Answer 7

If you know he's going to ask, just put it all on the table..."I want a fat Tiffany's ring with the little diamonds on the band." Or tell his best friend!

Answer 8

Get some catalogs and when you two are sitting around, having coffee, watching TV, etc. start looking through them...very casually. He will get interested and just start pointing things out that you like and don't like.

Answer 9

Since he loves you and you love him, you have to ask him what he wants to give you by his preferences for engagement ring. There is nothing wrong for people in love to ask.

Answer 10

In my opinion, the engagement ring represents the beauty he sees in you. The ring may not be something you would choose for yourself, but as he's asking you to marry him, the ring he picks for you is the one he sees you wearing. Thus, it will be the most beautiful ring you'll ever wear...even if you didn't pick it out.