why am i a married/taken men magnet?!?

Question

the majority of the men that hit on me are taken or married! im soo tired of it. i dont cross the line physically out of respect, but the majority of my coworkers seem to create or want to create an emotional bond with me. i unfortunately sometimes let that emotional connection take place, please help im not a homewrecker!!

Answer 1

you must be a good listener and a Petty girl and sometimes we like attention from men and married men or women take any act of niceness as a emotional thing if you know you attract men in this way maybe you could tone down the men frienship before it strats just by saying look we are co workers and you seem to have a nice wife maybe when Im dateing againg we can all go out to dinner if that dont sork just say look im just a co worker not your person you need to talk too so mush what does your wife think about the whatever subject the guy is wanting to talk about maybe find some girfriends to talk to at woke stay clear of weeding bands do what you can on your part you may not be a homerecker but sometimes the etrayel of a casual close friend affair can take conversation and things away form the wife other than sex a verbal affair is as hurfull to a wife as a sexual one take care my friend just watch how you respond maybe you like the attention more tan you think and men sure love to be talked to by another woman for attention debbie c

Answer 2

Been there, done that!

You are most likely sending out messages that say, "I'm willing to fool around if you are."

Of course men ALWAYS are. You have to be careful that innocent friendships don't turn into, "Let's have a relationship," situation. Don't let them get away with any physical contact. If necessary, you may have to tell them you are not a home wrecker.

You are undoubtedly quite attractive if that's the kind of attention you are receiving. Be really honest with yourself and ask, "Am I doing ANY THING AT ALL that could be taken as provocative?" Sometimes it's not what you say, but how you say it. Do you put a friendly hand on a shoulder? Any other physical contact and it sends out signals that you are just waiting for someone to make a move.

Examine what you wear; modify your behavior, and make sure you are NEVER ALONE with one particular co-worker. Gossip takes off from there.

Like I said, "been there, done that" but went far beyond what I should have.

Answer 3

i think you need to look at a couple of different things here:

1) are they all asking to sleep with you or trying to get romantic with you?

2) what kind of signals are you sending out ? i don't mean are you wearing tight shirts or anything like that but sometimes people can mistake a womans flirty nature as more than it actually is.

3) a lot of men are drawn like bees to honey when the women is someone who is fun to be with: by that i mean the women laughs a lot and is nice and sincere : if you fall into this catagory then you will ALWAYS have men swarming around you and short of a fly swatter you really won't get rid of them unless you turn into a ball crunching, bad breathed evil *****. you get the meaning


you should be happy that they like you that much. it means you are an awesome women! you should be proud.

and to cool them off it's easy. just start talking about how much fun you had with the guy you were with last. it will really help cool things down. also if that doesn't work, just mention herpes a couple of times and it will def do the trick!

Answer 4

I have the same problem but I'm a guy, especially if there is alcohol involved. I was at a party just last weekend and had three married/involved women hit on me, while their partners were right there. It made me uncomfortable especially because two if the guys are good friends of mine. Alot of arm caressing and eye contact but I know I was not doing anything to lead them on, i was just being nice and considerate. The funny thing was that the single girls there made no real efforts to hit on me, just casual conversation but no real flirting. It's a lose/lose situation and I always hear that I'm "such a great guy" but I'm still single. I feel your pain but unfortunately I don't have any real answers except that the old saying "the grass is always greener on the other side if the fence" applies to us. We're the ones on the other side of the fence, by ourselves.

Answer 5

Let them know that you're not interested in them or the stories about their life that they have to tell you. Let them know that you don't want to have an emotional connection with them because their wife may get the wrong impression of you. Every time you see them coming near you, walk away or pretend to be doing something.

Answer 6

The same thing happens to me. I think the married/taken men just want a side dish. don't let them in! I never did and proud of it. They respect you more when you say no and send them to their wife!

Answer 7

They probably find you to be very vulnerable- lots of men (especially those who are older, I assume) can easily sense this- if you are even the very nice type who doesn't complain too much, you can be seen as vulnerable also. Just say "no" and don't believe a lot of the things they say until you believe them. Just respect and be confident in yourself.

Answer 8

There are plenty of cheaters in this world. They usually prey on young naive girls. I don't know if that describes you, but generally speaking they do. Just don't fall for their lines. Believe me, if they will cheat on their wives with you, they will cheat on you with someone else. I've seen it happen plenty of times. Next time one of those jerks ask you out tell him, "Yes I'll go out with you, if you give me your wife's phone number, and she says that it is okay!"

Just remember one thing, they only want your body, and they will say anything to get you in bed. They will tell you how horrible their wife is, or your boyfriend is. They will say that they haven't slept with their wife in years, when she is at home pregnant. They will tell you that they have an open marriage, etc... They try to gain your confidence by acting interested in your life, so that they can worm their way into your bed. They are vicious manipulators. Don't fall into their trap. Just think about that poor woman at home that loves and trusts her husband when he doesn't deserve it!

Answer 9

Why would you become something like that. You'll be the girlfriend they will never take home to show off with their parents you know. Steady relationship is also out of the question and in the end you'll only be the other woman breaking up the relationships you'll never have. Think twice before you become the subject the buzz is all about. Quit living on dreams like that, they can get you In a lot of trouble if not get you killed.

Answer 10

lets do the check list,ok

do you have boobs
are you not there wife
is his wife not in your vacintity
do you were purfume
do you wear high heels
do you look a man in the eye when you talk to him
are you a female
are you friendly
do you breath oxygen

if you answered yes to any of these questions you are surley a man magnet