What do you guys look for in a girl honestly? Would you date a girl who already had children if she had never been married previously? I am just curious. I am a single mother of two baby boys, and a convert to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. My friend (a less active member of the church) says that she doesn't think most nice born and raised LDS men would consider dating me because I already have kids ect. I never considered my children to be any thing less then gifts from God and they are the biggest blessings in my life. I just want to know if you guys are truly that judgemental. I don't think so but I wanted to hear it from you. Let me know your take on this...
2007-04-26 17:27:03 · 11 answers · asked by McLovin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am no longer single, but I used to be LDS. I dated a girl with 2 kids. When we broke up, for a while I missed them more than her. Any respectable man won't truly care if you have kids.
Looks are important, mostly how you take care of yourself and how you make others feel. One thing that made me fall in love with that single mom was that she quite obviously loved her kids to death.
2007-04-26 17:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by DavidSummerly 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's not that any of them are judgemental, it's the same with all guys. There is a fear of the instant responsibilty that having children brings. It's not only you that he has to be able to care for, but your children as well. Unfortuantley most younger men are not going to be up to the task, and as a result might not take the time to really have a deep relationship for fear of that responsiblity. I would just be yourself and have faith and the right man for you and your family will come along. And he probably will be a mature man with a little more stabilty than someone in his early-mid 20's. And as far as blended families i wouldn't worry to much about that...families are forever, remember that-it doesn't matter who the child came from, but just that they are loved and part of an eternal family:) Try lds singles online and just know that the right guy is out there!
2007-04-26 22:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by pono7 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You'll have better luck looking for a fellow male convert in a similar position. It's not about judging you as bad. What they (if never married and young) have been trained to want is a virginal, untouched, unmarried young woman, so that the experience of marriage and kids is new to both of them. Don't take it personally. A convert or a divorced LDS man is more real to set your sights on. They are out there.
2007-04-26 17:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am LDS, but not single. I know of many friends and acquaintences who have married LDS girls who already have children. They al lead happy, normal lives. There are guys out there who do not pre-judge whether you have ahd children previously or not. They are looking at you and your values, beleifs, morals, etc and if you are the type of person that they are searching for, then it could happen.
2007-04-27 03:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear. :)
I know you can be worry about it, but you shouldn't.
My friends (lds) some of them worry because they want their own families but others not, it depends in the person and in their personal goals, but when love knock their door they won't care about it.
One time one of my bishops told me, If you still active and progressing the Lord will provide you a good man. I'm still single (lol) but I know it will happend just keep your faith up and also do all thing according to the Lord's will and when the special one comes you will be ready for it.
One of my Mom's companions in the mission, married a good guy even though she had 5 kids!! they love him so much and he is a wonderful dad for them (even for me :))
Just don't worrie about it and the right things and everything will come, remember the our father always blesses us.
Just jeep you faith up.
BTW anyone interested? lol j/k
2007-04-27 08:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonik 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me (a 30 year old single member of the LDS Church), it would depend on the situation. If I felt she was really "the one," it wouldn't matter if she had kids or not. For others, it might make a difference, or it might not (it would, I imagine, depend on the specific guy).
2007-04-26 23:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rynok 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Try to attend as many singles events as you can. Chances are, you'll find some worthy priesthood holder to take you to the temple. And if not, you still have fun with others who are not married, and maybe with children.
2007-04-26 19:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 18 so I'm kind of in the minimum of the age range you are referring to, but I know enough to know that it wouldn't really make that much of a difference to me. I wouldn't judge anyone right away based on their past. I'd get to know them first, and if I like the person that they are now, then that's good enough for me.
2007-04-27 02:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not single. I would say go to singles activities and make friends with people there. who knows maybe you'll find someone who is more open minded about you already having kids.
gw
Edit: Thanks for the fool who gave me a thumbs down.
Way to go!!!
2007-04-27 05:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am too old but I bet there are plenty that would be interested in you as long as you keep yourself interesting.
2007-04-26 17:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋