All joking aside, I think something is wrong with me. I've been feeling really down lately ever since I was denied (for the 3rd time) for financial aid and I have no way of getting a job which means I have no income.
Aside from that I've been talking to this guy for 4 months and he lead me on to believe that a relationship was possible. I'm african-american and so is he. The reason why I bring this up is because his gf is hispanic and that's even more insulting to me.
I'm 19 and he's 17.
My brother is headed to Iraq this June. It will be his third time going over. Because he recently split from his wife my mom must travel over to North Carolina to house sit which means I'll be here in California with just my father, and my sisters (one is 30 & the other is 17). This is scaring me.
My life at this point is way too much and I don't see any escape from misery. I feel like I'm slipping into the abyss. It's been this way since Dec. 2005.
What can I do to get my old self back?
2007-04-26 17:13:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just relaz, time heals all wounds.
2007-04-27 16:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all I think your depressed so you need to talk to someone and tell them how you are feeling!I'm sorry to hear about fin.aid,maybe you could try a different type! Do you live at home? What's the problem with finding a job? As for your "friend", he's a player ! Move on your better than that I am sure!He's to young anyways !And, I'm sorry to hear bout your brother. This war is a mess! And it's a scary thing! Maybe you can go with your mom and start over there! Find a job< a nice guy, And bond with mom.And I think you should talk to your parents and maybe go to the Doctor and find some meds just to get back to basics! Suicide is a high rate in young people, And I would hate for you 2 B a statistic!!!!!!
2007-04-27 00:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by raven 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that you are correct. Something is wrong with you. You appear to lack the kind of strength and wisdom that comes only with maturity. However, it is a relatively minor problem that can be fixed, if you are willing to work at it. See, life is full of ups and downs. Just deal with them! Then get on with your life. While not trying to be unkind to you, but helpful instead, yet quite frankly, it is time for me to show you some "tough love" here. So then, I would advise you to just grow up! You need to learn some coping skills, in my humble opinion. And, remember this: That which doesn't kill us can make us stronger. Guess what? If the situations you described are the worst that ever happens to you, then you had an easy life. At 19, you are very young. As you grow older, you will find that life will throw you all kinds of curves. What happens if and when you ever experience the death of a loved one, such as a parent, sibling, or child? Suppose that you someday go through a bitter and expensive divorce. What happens when you suffer financial disaster and then you are in dire need? It is wise to build a good support network of family, friends, associates, and so on. Be resourceful and strong. Nobody has all the answers. However, in such cases when you don't have an answer, then you should be able to find it somewhere. This is where a strong support network kicks in. It can help you to find answers and give you other help that you need.
2007-04-27 00:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by sopcwebservant 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have a few things going on in your life that are a challenge for you to deal with. Get used to it! You are not slipping into an abyss. You said it yourself. You are stressed over money, feeling rejected by a boy, racist and worried about your brother.
What do can you do? First, your old self, is your childish self. The self that has no worries or cares, but you're growing up. You're going to have to find ways to deal with everyday stresses of life. Find a hobby or something to do to get your mind off things after you start taking care of your responsibilities.
Stop making excuses for your money problems. Why do you have 'no way of finding a job'? That's very unlikely.
As for the boy, so what! He doesn't sound like much of a catch anyways, leading you on like that.
Your racism. You better get an education.
Your brother, well, he chose to go join the military and while it may be frightening for you to think about, that was his choice and something he wanted to do. Push it out of your mind. Don't focus on it.
2007-04-27 00:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need 93 vitamins and minerals. Take 2 tbls. apple cider vinegar in a glass of water before a meal. Drink 6-8 glasses of pure water daily. Hair and nails will become long and strong. Vinegar will give you that extra energy that you need daily. 17 year old boys and men mostly think with their penises. Do not feel sad or depressed. Change your life to: I can, I will, I have done so. Thinking negatively will only bring more negativity to your doorstep. Think beautiful thoughts about love and friendship even if its for only 10 minutes daily. Think about what is going on in Africa. Are your problems that big?
2007-04-27 00:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by glenda576 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I know exactly how that feels. I dealt with depression almost my entire life for different reasons. You sound like you're going thru something like I did. Things seemed hopeless & dark... and it did feel exactly like I was falling into an abyss. I worried about everything to the point where I actually made myself physically sick with stomach problems and those weird aches and pains that depression brings on.
What helped me was just going to a therapist and talking things out with him... My doctor also put me on an anti-depressants for about a year. Just talking to my therapist was great because it was awesome to talk with someone who was completely objective. He never judged me, he just listened and actually helped me put things into perspective. Sometimes talking things out with family members or friends can make a person feel extra-psychotic because they just add so much stress and emotion where it's not really needed. The anti-depressants helped a lot too! They calmed me down, so I could think about things rationally and gave me the ability to organize my life. Just talk to your doctor, he/she will help out.
Well, now it's been about 2 years since I saw my therapist and 1 year since I quit the anti-depressants. ...And I'm still fine. Once I was calm and had a chance to prioritize my life, things just kinda fell into place! Just remember, it's OK to ask others for help... sometimes you just can't fix things yourself, no matter how hard you try. ...And things may not change overnight, you have to give things a chance to work.
And last but not least... Hon, dealing with someone who already has a girlfriend hardly ever turns out great. Almost everyone who has been thru that will tell you the same thing! Just think, if he's being dishonest with his girl now, he will treat you the same way. There's way too many men on this Earth to spend your time on a dishonest person who can't make a decision that he really wants you. Trust me, you can find someone who looks just like him & will treat you a heck-uv-a-lot better! It's just not worth it! Once you get your life into perspective, you'll see it!
2007-04-27 00:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Leia 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow, you're experiencing a lot of stress. It must stink having all of those problems and things to worry about. It really sounds to me that you're slipping into serious depression. If at all possible see a therapist. If you can't due t financial reasons, i would just have to tell you to do whatever it is that makes you happy, just kinda relax and try not to worry about anything for a while until you refresh your mind. I hope you get your old self back.
2007-04-27 00:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by Violet 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all, why can't you get a job? Did you graduate HS or did you get your GED?
You cannot control the way others behave, but you can control yourself....So think of some ways to improve your life, or you can slip in the abyss. It's your choice. take care.
2007-04-27 00:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by oramac 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not a thing except to accept life as it comes. Reliaze that even though things are difficult for you now they will get better. We all go through difficult times and most, but not all of us come out of the situation a better person. Excuse me but I just sneezed all over my keyboard, need to clean it up. Believe it or not, your life will get better.
2007-04-27 00:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It couldn't hurt to seek God. also loose the boyfriend he will get you nowhere. find someone positive minded and successful. it is a fact that when you surround yourself w/ positive minded successful people, you will be sucessful also. they show you that it is not as hard as it looks to get where you want to go. I know from experience. all my friends are teachers, nerses, x-ray technicians, doctors, and resturant owner and I am majoring in Radiography and hospital administration with minors in art, earth science, and math.
2007-04-27 00:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kristenite’s Back! 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋