ive been in a relationship for the last three years but there isn't any action in the bedroom. last night i got this gorgeous guys number. i was thinking about deleting the number. what do you think. should i call and get me some or should i delete the number. my conscience is irritating me.
2007-04-26 17:04:18 · 19 answers · asked by hottie hot hot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me add that i have spoke to my man on several occasions about the problem. all he says is he will work on it. hes been saying that for almost a year now.
2007-04-26 17:13:59 · update #1
cant deal with the two to three minutes once every three to four weeks. a girl needs more than that.
2007-04-26 17:18:32 · update #2
clearly you are a thoughtful and careful young lady. congratulations for your good common sense!
you can solve the problem yourself by asking a few questions and having a conversation with yourself. for example:
does my boyfriend respect me?
if he is not doing anything with me, likely he is not doing anything with anything else! this is a good sign.
after three years how do i feel about him, how does he feel about me?
would it be easy for me to become deeply personal with a person i do not know? is it enough to sleep with someone in a flippant manner because he is cute?
does loyalty mean anything.?
do i really want to sleep with someone i do not know?
would i enjoy being with my boyfriend more than anyone else?
cervical cancer is now becoming very common and it is often transmitted after being repeatedly infected by the HPV virus, by different sexual partners, do i need this possible problem?
am i old enough to begin down this road?
if things really get out of control for me maybe i can or should seduce my boyfriend. would this be better than risking my good health?
should i talk to my mother, aunt, cousin or someone i really trust and respect. someone who also respects me?
i wonder what my mother would say? what did she do when confronted with the same problem? i never thought about this but my mother must have had the same exact problem.
wow this could be a really big step. maybe that's why this has not come up before.
i can only give myself in this way one time. this is a really big step and decision! doggone it!!
let me think about this some more.
i don't want to make a mistake that i could regret.
maybe it does take time to make good wine!!
maybe i will give my boyfriend an especially sweet kiss next time i see him!!
2007-04-26 18:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you love your boyfriend? Second, how do you know this other guy hasn't been around? With all kinds of STD's going on now adays, wouldn't you rather be safe than sorry? Just be honest to your man and tell him that you're young, healthy and very sexually active and that action in the bedroom plays a very important role in a relationship.
Either be with him if he's willing to help a little in the relationship or move on but whatever you do, don't play games. Don't be a floozy girl, unless that's the kind of reputation and attention you want. Is that the respect you have for yourself and how much you love yourself?
Good Luck ^_^
2007-04-27 00:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dr.Helpful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your conscience is irritating you now, it's going to kill you when you actually call this guy. Be up front with your boyfriend and tell him that you are not happy with the boredom in the bedroom.. Tell him that you two need to make some changes quick or this relationship (in which you both have 3 years invested) is not going to work out.
2007-04-27 00:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your just going to throw a three yr relationship away cuz there is no action in the bedroom? so why r u with your b/f then? if u want just sex then go for it but if u want a relationship then delete the number.
2007-04-27 00:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by medinams 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lord! 3 years without any action?
Why?
If you're even thinking about it, obviously you need to do something about your long-term guy.
No matter how nice it might be with him in every other way, a good, intimate relationship is extremely important. Why settle for less?
2007-04-27 00:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by steller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheat on a guy after 3 years for a quickie? that doesnt show much class. If you want to start playing the field then be a stand up person and break up and explain you need to see what else is out there and your bored.
2007-04-27 00:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by bighelp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're already in a relationship. Delete the number. You don't want to cheat.
2007-04-27 00:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
if you been in this for 3 years. then why now are you looking
elsewhere, if you are unhappy then do something about it
talk to him and fiqure out what need to be done. then you
can go from there to do what is right for you. but you owe
him honestly if nothing else.
2007-04-27 00:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fix one problem before taking on another. A vibrator won't give you a guilty conscience.
2007-04-27 00:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by mysticleah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a married man, I would encourage you to go get some. If you really found your soul mate, or the person you were supposed to be with for the rest of you life, you would not be feeling the urge to go out and get it on. So, therefore, you may as well.
Have fun.
2007-04-27 00:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Pavel 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋