A cousins death?

Question

My cousin died on New years this year and his sister called a psychic. she had to be legit cause the psychic told her stuff that only she (trish) and her brother(john) knew about. so i was wondering how you can get over something like that. I m goin to see his grave or the first time on may 5th and im really nervous and i dont know what to expect. i just need advice on how to go about it all, and was wondering if you believe in psychics as well

yes I am a christian but i dont really follow the bible i belive in God, heaven and hell and thats about it. im not asking for your religious imput im asking how i shoul go about visiting a grave of someone you love and miss dearly. dont tell me not to be nervous because i am and that wont change, i just asked for help on how to get throught the day in the least painful way possible

Answer 1

Don't go to the grave with any expectations. The more expecations you have, the harder it will be to deal with what actually happens.

The thing about graves is that they usually symbolize seperation and/or distance between two people. That realization is the hardest to accept, and causes many to break down. It's not until people see the actual grave that everything starts to kick in.

Don't be afraid to 'talk' to the person. Just because they are physically dead doesn't mean that they have utterly ceased to exist. What binds people are the emotional connections they forge, and those don't end with death. So, if it helps, imagine them as having moved, and this is their new address. It takes time to get comfortable when visting someone in their new place.

Tell them how you are, what you've been up to, even how you have been coping. The more you let them know the part they have played in your life, the better your experience will be.

Like any visiting guest, gifts are always appreciated. It's better to bring something personal that symbolizes what they meant to you rather than something generic. Again its the emotional connection that's important.

Stay as long as you need, and visit as many times as it takes. Don't feel like you have to 'rush' to get used to them where they are. They have oodles of time, and rushing only makes it hard on us, not them.

And if you get caught up in the moment and forget everything I've written, that's perfectly ok too.

Answer 2

Sorry, I don't believe in psychics. Psychics, prey upon those who are hurting and need answers, by paying attention to their body language. They have a way of pulling things out of a person without them realizing it. The best time for the psychic to do this, is when someone is grieving. Its a sick psychological process. Your cousin who is alive needs to seek some counceling. She needs help dealing with her grief the appropriate way. It sounds like you need answers to. You could benefit by seeking counceling perhaps with her. Do it as a team. You both need help with this. Professional, not the scam help. Your going to see your cousins grave when you go to see it. Let out your emotions when you see it, don't hide them or try to be strong. It may not hit you until later. Grieve in your own way. Don't let someone tell you how to do it. Don't let someone give you false information. That is what the Psychic did. She played your cousin like a fiddle. Thats their job. Its a sick practice. Im so very sorry about your loss. All the best to your family in this hard time.

Answer 3

First I don't believe in Psychics but it has no bearing on my answer to your question.

The best way to get over the loss of a loved one is actually just to talk. Talk to some one who will be a good listener, maybe some one else who knew them. Talk about the one you loved and talk about your feelings. By doing this you help to set the memories that you want to retain about them and give vent to your grief.

Understand, though, that grieving is a drawn out process that tends to come in waves so-to-speak. You will think that you are over it and some little thing will remind you and it's off to the races again. This is a normal process and it will subside with time.

I'll give no religious advice but I want you to know that I'll be praying for you.

Blessings be upon you,
Chaplain John

Answer 4

I believe everyone is born with a 6th sense, some people use it and some people don't. That has nothing to do with psychics or anything, it is more like a very strong instinct, if you use it it becomes stronger and if you don't use it, you don't know it's there. It has nothing to do with religion though.
Hope everything goes well for you when you go visit your cousins grave, nothing to be afraid of it is a place where most of our bodies end up.

Answer 5

I lost my two cousins at once they were killed in a car wreck. two sisters 26 & 27 years old.
it was very hard for me I loved them dearly, I have no sisters and they were like sisters to me.
I prayed and seeked God for a long time then I realized two things:
1. they are in a better place
2. this world is full of hurt and it rains on the just and unjust alike.
just try to remember the good times you had and be thankful you had the honor of knowing them, { better a little then none at all}

as for psychics ; they are many and do speak to spirits but becareful, they are not good spirits. if your a Christan the bible plainly tells you not to have anything to do with them.

sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

I think there is 10% of your brain that we don't use, so it's possible that people have those abilities, I wouldn't call someone a liar for saying it...
And besides you didn't lose John's soul. It's just in a different place now, a different form.
When you do go to his grave, you'll see grass, dead flowers, and a stone with his name on it. And you'll cry.

And its okay, nobody likes to be sad but everybody is, that's why we have drugs, alcohol, war, divorce, catalogs, plastic surgery and pudding.

Answer 7

I believe that they exist... I believe that they can connect with the dead... but I also know that God tells us not to consult mediums or psychics..

how do you get over what? his death? or seeing the psychic....?

if you are going to his grave, remember that 'he' is no longer there... who he was is gone... only the earthly body remains. When my dad died, the only way I got thru it was with the strength and comfort I got from God alone.... death is hard to understand and 'get past' but when we realize that it has nothing to do with 'us' when someone dies, but everything to do with that person and God... it helps me to get thru it... it isnt about me and how I am hurting... but it is about God and the person that has died.... i miss them but the good memories are what matter....

Answer 8

The demons that whisper to psychics know stuff. You know that God is in control of everything, and learn to trust God, not psychics that will take your money.

Answer 9

Well, about seeing his grave- it's just his body, although it's nice you are going to pay your respects to it. He is with you now though, so don't be nervous. Just remember him as he was.

As far as the psychic, I believe some people have highly developed senses. There's nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of fakes out there, but if you say this lady is the real thing maybe she is.

Answer 10

Bring God with you through prayer....possible a rosary i suggest!