Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years now... However, all of a sudden my attention is diverted into one of my close friends...yeah i'm actually falling inlove with him...i think im not falling..im inlove with him... But considering that me and my bf have been together for 3 years, i cnt just dump him... Now, i cant really determine whether what i feel for my bf is love or pity... Yes i do care for him a lot.... and i dnt want him to be hurt that much...most especially now for he is undergoing problems that concerns his family.
With regards to my close friend, though how i try to suppress my feelings for him...still it always linger to my mind...Gosh....im definitely confused.. What should i do...??? Can you please help me?
2007-04-26 16:03:51 · 12 answers · asked by yhen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aside from not wanting to hurt your long-time boyfriend, how committed are you to this relationship? After three years you're past the madly in love stage, so is it worth pursuing any longer or have you hit the wall? On some level you're obviously disengaging from him, and it's going to take some real work to repair the relationship.
If you do decide the long-term relationship has run its course, then come back and ask about how to end it. If you do decide to end it, I'd suggest you re-examine this new infatuation, because it may be more of an emotional escape hatch than a real "true love" experience.
2007-04-26 16:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats quite a problem, you like this other guy but you dont want to hurt your bf. If you have feelings for your friend and you plan on pursuing it, dont hide it behind your bf's back. Just make a clean break. Nobody likes being cheated on. It is better just to break up and move on.
2007-04-26 16:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bugs B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 12:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by kirk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not hard to figure out. if you care for your boyfriend a lot then your not in love with him. his family problems are none of your business. you have to do what makes you happy in your life and make your heart at home. if you just care, then leave, but if your still in love then you need to drop your friend and get your mind right. hope this helps.
2007-04-26 16:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by billy o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to suppress feelings for your "close friend", and keep your relationship with your boyfriend, stop all contact with the "close friend".
If he's truly a friend, he will understand.
2007-04-26 16:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dun see both guys for sometime then go to the one that you misses most during that time, u will then know which one you really need and love.
Gal time to make up your mind.
2007-04-26 16:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Yuu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, leave him. The longer you let this fester, the tougher and more painful it will become. If you care for him at all, you have to set him free. You have to give him the opportunity to find someone else to love.
2007-04-26 16:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sodo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it time, if you are unsure, they don't know your debating about this your young, and you are in no rush, but if you rush you might make a mistake that you will regret possibly for the rest of your life, whatever you do make sure that the answer it what you want, not what is better for everyone else.
Hannah~
2007-04-26 16:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with your boyfriend.. but maybe just after his family problems are solved, what do you think? you could also end up as good friends still?
2007-04-26 16:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, be honest with yourself and your bf. he deserves it, you deserve it and for heavens sake yor friend deserves it. don't cheat that only leads to more problems. be gentle and don't use the let's be friends line.
2007-04-26 16:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋