I'm 40 and I met a girl whos 23..should I ask her out?

Question

She seems to really like me...she doesnt know my age and when we met she gave me a huge smile ...sparks are flyin over here but I am concerned about the age difference. I dont care about age difference..obviously, cuz im the older guy..what do young 20 something women think about it?

Im not looking to get married...I do realize that it isnt going to be forever...but a couple of fun years would be nice....is that too much to ask?

Answer 1

some girls are attracted to older men..You should ask her how old she thinks you are? see what her 'guess' is..and then let her know you're 40* Some ppl say life begins at 40* perhaps she's looking for a guy like you* Mature, not like the young 23yr old college kids...someone who knows what they want etc*
Best wishes..but be honest with her and let her make her own decision when she finds out your age.....it may not be a problem for her*~

Answer 2

There are all kinds of stop signs and red flags popping up all over the place here ,,,, Why would you want to dabble in diapers ? ,,,,

There are all kinds of things to consider here ,,,, First off you are old enough to be her father ,,,, Would you date your daughter or would you have your own daughter date an old guy? ,,,, You are beginning to enter the age range where you are starting to wind down in life ,,,, At her age she's just starting to wind up ,,,, You would make her old before her time ,,,, Another consideration is whether there might not be something wrong with you ,,,, I mean what's wrong with you that you can't relate to women your own age? ,,,, The phrase "dirty old man" enters my mind ,,,, If you are going to rob the cradle then why stop at 23? ,,,, Why not go younger like 20 or even 18? ,,,, There's not much difference ,,,, They are all still kids and still impressionable and easily taken advantage of,,,, I'm also wondering why you weren't up front with her about your age when you first met her ,,,, I'm sure there was plenty of time and opportunity to tell her ,,,, Things just might be very different if she knew ,,,,

Of course it's common knowlege that almost all guys from say 14 or 15 years of age up to their 30's and 40's and even beyond that let their glands and egos do their thinking for them ,,,, Some even have this problem their whole life ,,,, They are always ready to rutt with the first thing available regardless of age ,,,,

It's more than obvious what the old guy is after when you see an old man and a young girl together ,,,,

Your post seems to indicate that you are worried about appearances ,,,, Well you'd better take a long look at your situation and get real ,,,, The only thing that saves you from being a pedophile is that she's over 18 ,,,, Her being 23 doesn't make her the wisest person in the world though ,,,, What do you think her parents would say if they knew she was dating a guy old enough to be her daddy ? ,,,,

You'd better give this some serious thought before you go any further ,,,, The young stuff is for the young ,,,, You might be able to keep up with her for a while but you are the better part of 20 years her senior so you wouldn't last very long and you are still getting older ,,,, The reason why they don't run horses in races after a certain age is because they can't keep up with the young ,,,, Leave the kid alone and find someone more your own age ,,,,

Answer 3

No, you shouldn`t! 23 is too young for a guy 40. Think about it...you have the evening to yourself and want to listen to music...chances are that you might like country and she will probably like club music(rap). If yu are 40 you should go out with someone between the ages of 35 at least to about 45. Sorry, just my opinion but at age 40 you should be looking for the same maturity level...and it is a well known fact that a human brain is not fully developd `til about 25 yrs. of age.

Answer 4

Personally 40 is told old or me and im 22 but i am dating a 33 year old so 11 years older is enough for me however if the age difference doesnt bother her then it shouldnt be a problem.

Do you look 40? Because some older men are very attractive and they also do not look 40.

Answer 5

If I'm not feeling anything for the guy, I would be creeped out. But since you guys have sparks, go for it. Or just drop hints that you're older. She'll either ask how old you are or say okay and just let that be a mystery 'till later. Some of my friends and I have dated older men and age is usually not that big of deal. Good luck!

Answer 6

Most young girls like older men...i speak from experiance(i am a young women that has been with a older man for the last 10 yrs.).If you get the vibe she likes you then go for it.What do have to lose.I am sure she digs you in many ways...Age is nothing but a number...the feelings for one another is what counts the most..as long as you both are ok with the age difference go for it!!!Never hold back..you dont want to let something good to slip away.oh and be honest...if she likes you the age shouldnt matter anyway.

Answer 7

Ok dude, take a deep breath and listen closely.

The best "rule of thumb" for the youngest that they should be is
...
1) Divide your age by 2.

2) Add nine years. BOOM! There it is.

Here's what you need to do. First, tell her how old you are and be honest with her. See what her reaction is.

Don't set yourself up for a heartbreak. She's young, pretty, maybe even hot, energetic, and she doesn't even like the kind of music that you listen to. Stay on guard and don't take things so fast. Give it a couple of months and see if you and her still have an interest then. If so, then test the waters s-l-o-w-l-y.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

From someone who always dates much older guys.... I think age is only a number, if there is a connection as long as she is of legal age it should not matter. Us women mature faster than men so we usually have to look at older guys to find someone on our level. The age gap will only be an issue if you allow it to become one. Go for it!

Answer 9

You are talking about going out and not proposing marriage, right? Geez people, to each his own. She may have her preferences of who she wants to be with and perhaps it is you and what you are. At 23 she should be able to make her own decisions. She is post college age, not some innocent schoolgirl being taken advantage of. Going on a date doesn't carry the same weight as say, having a baby, which is something that wouldn't raise an eyebrow at her age. Good Luck and I hope you both have a good time on the town.

Answer 10

I don't think most women care. In fact, I think the older, the better for women. I mean my aunt is married to a guy is around 20 years older than her. They're happy together and my mom and dad are 10 years apart.