None of them are boyfriends, just friends. They don't know about eachother either, is that okay? I would've never done this in the past but I'm changing I guess, I grew up in a conservative home and now I feel like Samantha in Sex in the City and I'm loving it... urgh, so confused
2007-04-26 15:40:11 · 17 answers · asked by jamie kat 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I usually have more than one friend with benefits. And they know I see other people and I know they see other people. If one them gets jealous then its over, plain and simple. I always stress open communication with all my partners and practice safe sex. Just be careful and use protection and if your friends won't discuss protection and STDs then that should be the end of that friendly benefit. It's not like it was back in the '70s anymore.
2007-04-26 19:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking if it is OK to have sex with several guys that don't know about each other? #1. If you start sleeping around with guys that aren't your boyfriend, Be prepared to be labeled as a slut or whore. #2. These guys don't know about each other now, But they will. Secrets like that NEVER last!!!
#3. When the secret is out, You'll have hurt several people. These people wil be pissed at each other and YOU!!! Are you ready to accept the blame when these guys start fighting over you and get phyiscally hurt?
#4. It's great that you are enjoying being the center of attention, But don't base your role models off a stupid T.V. show, It will only cause you and others around you to suffer.
No wonder why your confused....
2007-04-26 15:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would definitely be hurtful and offensive to each of them if they found out they weren't the only guy you were sleeping with. However, if this is the life you want to live, no one is going to stop you. There are some people that would label you a "slut" or a "whore," but it's a matter of opinion. Personally, I think you should try to keep a limit of the number of "friends with benefits" you have at one time.
2007-04-26 15:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned with the question of WHY you have so many FwB's; are you afraid of a true relationship? Like the rush it gives you to have so many casual obvilious partners at once? The Trogan company must LOVE you!
It's not a crime, but come on- you know deep down it isnt "okay" or you wouldnt be asking about it... If you cant control yourself at least pick your ONE favorite guy & just stick to him for a few months anyway.
2007-04-26 16:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by tricha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously not if you keep your s*x buddies secret from each other. I would consider it okay if you got them all together and told them how they all get to share you tho. Otherwise I would say that type of person is something that rhymes with a nut. If you're cool getting and being sloppy seconds tho more power to ya :). You have problems with being easy and are selfish. At least whores get paid for what they do.
2007-04-27 06:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want my advice you should only have one because if they all find out about each other they will all leave you and not like you and u will be stuck alone which you dont want to happen but yea i would just stick with one and if it doesnt work out move on to the next just dont tell anyone because they will thing you are a slut well good luck with everything
2007-04-26 15:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by dagame94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah it's not wrong as long as you're being safe and not putting them at risk. It would be better to let them know that you have other partners though. I've actually had several friends with benefits too, but I made sure they knew about each other. That definately uncomplicates things.
2007-04-26 15:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u serious????? DO U KNOW WHAT U CAN GET? What if they r doing this to u? Do u think that u will keep these "guy" friends if they find out? Do u need sex that bad that u can't be in a relationship w/ someone to do it? If u do get a fricken vibrater. That is just sick.
2007-04-26 15:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by medinams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that this relationship is OK (I, myself, like this kind of a relationship) as long as you don't have more than 2. A lot of guys would think that a girl is a slut if she has a lot of such "friends with benefits." I think that this relationship is OK if it's more about friendship than benefits and if you communicate with your partners properly and if you're enjoying this relationship.
2007-04-28 09:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how many "several" is!! If you are just having fun, but being SAFE about it, then I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as you aren't breaking any hearts, or, most important...you don't get hurt at all. Other than that, be safe and have fun!!! :)
2007-04-26 15:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋