If you don't believe in abortion, what practical alternative can you offer?

Question

If you don't believe in abortion, what practical alternative can you offer?

Please refrain from, "people should know better when they have sex, etc", or claim they'll be adopted, because that is simply a ridiculous statement. If you're going to point out an injustice, it is incumbent that you are prepared to offer the solution.

So how do you propose we solve the specific problems of:

1) Unwanted children? Assuming we force the mother to give birth, what happens psychologically to children that nobody wants? Do they grow up loved, cared about, abused, abandoned?

2) Who will pay for the new orphanages?

3) What about "back alley" abortions? We have to accept that this WILL occur, and a dangerous "cottage industry" for illegal abortions will arise. Is this what society needs?

4) What about 3rd world nations where there aren't enough resources to support unwanted babies, where many mothers don't even have sufficient nutrition to lactate? Do we knowingly allow these births even though

The babies will almost certainly starve and die?

Interesting. People seem hard-wired to discuss the ethics, rather than offer solutions. I am disappointed, but not surprised.

Answer 1

Adoption, I have talked women out of two different abortions and into giving them up for adoption. There are millions who want to adopt babies. I think anyone killing their unborn child should be put in prison just like any other murderer.
There are two beautiful girls alive and doing well today instead of being murdered.

Answer 2

Adoption would be a great way to keep the baby alive and this way someone can have a child that couldn't have a child before. Also, the mother could try to raise the child herself with her family's help, but I know that is usually not an option. If the mother isn't healthy enough to carry the baby, then maybe she has a sister or someone in her life that could carry the baby until the baby is born. You can't always be sure that the doctors are right when they tell you the baby isn't healthy. I had a family member who was supposed to come out without a back or head when she was born. Her parents had the option to abort the baby, but they didn't want to do that, and the baby came out fine. She is now in college and is a perfectly normal, wonderful human being. If the child is deformed or disabled, and the parents can't handle it, then someone will want to adopt the baby. I've heard of people who wanted to have a disabled child. There are always other options, keeping a baby alive is worth the struggle. I know that their are women that don't agree, and those who just abort a baby because they aren't responsible for their actions and don't want to take care of a baby are the reason why there should be no such thing as abortion. Also, with stem cell research, I don't think that abortion is done to get stem cells, but I don't think stem cell research should be an excuse to abort a baby, you can get stem cells without killing a child to get it. I hope this is the answer you were looking for. Thanks for reading. As some have said above, adoption is a perfectly good option, the mother can even choose who adopts her baby. That seems much more reasonable than stopping her child's life altogether. I have heard of many women who feel tremendous guilt for having aborted their babies, and I doubt anyone really wants to live with that grief all their life. That's destroying one life, ruining another and allowing the rapist to win if the woman was rapped.

Answer 3

If people really cared about all of these horrific predicaments that little children have to endure, because men and women are not willing to listen to God's instructions to them, for the sake of these children and for the welfare of themselves and others, they would do what God says.

Marriage of 1 man and 1 woman who love each other and have sexual pleasure with only each other is what God has asked us to do.

The reasons that you listed is why He has told us to abstain from sex until marriage.

(1) There would be no unwanted children.

(2) No need for additional orphanages.

(3) No back alley abortions.

(4) The money wasted on abortions could be sent to 3rd world nations to help with food, shelter, and birth control. And also, If obedience to God was followed, AIDS and STD would end.

Additional comment:

It is very interesting how that unwanted pregnancies have increased over the past few decades. When I was a teenager in the mid 50's there were unwanted pregnancies among unmarried girls but, very few. In my High School in the mid 50's I had never heard of abortion although I am sure it was happening some place but not often. Interesting!

Answer 4

Abortion should be a last resort in cases where the mother's health is in jeopardy. In all other cases, I think the alternative is to at least have safe . If people are educated about the possibility of abortion, it doesn't seem like such a stretch to educate them about safe .

If it is too late for that though, adoption or keeping the baby is the only choice. Adoption can be hard, after carrying the full pregnancy, but sometimes the right thing to do is hard. Resources might eventually be strapped, but for now, we still have a surplus of resources. I also don't see anyone proposing that we start killing off people due to overcrowding. This is quite obviously because we value life over resources.

Black alley abortions will happen. No one should have to take responsibility for them except the people performing them and having the procedure. Will I judge them to be stupid? No, but I will argue that they can no better. Morality is morality regardless of what is easy.

Abortion is about getting out of responsibility. I am not attacking women who get them; I absolutely understand how they feel. The responsility is not just on the mother, it is on father as well. Maybe when men start acting as responsible as the women are, fewer women will feel the abandonment and pressure to have an abortion.

Answer 5

Although I am pro-choice, I have one suggestion and it's education, specifically *complete and proper* sex education. We can't stop what's going on now ("well they shouldn't have had sex" isn't a solution), but there are ways to help prevent it in the future. Abstinence only programs don't seem to be very effective. Sex education should include things like human anatomy, hormonal and physical changes, reproduction, various forms of contraception (yes, abstinence included), and health (e.g. STDs). These lessons should relate to those have already had sexual intercourse, are considering it, *and* to those who have not yet had sex. There are people who've lost their virginity, think there's no going back, and continue unhealthy sexual practices. Regarding unwanted pregnancies now, I do lean towards bringing the fetus to term, but I wouldn't want to deny the other option. Making abortion illegal might reduce the abortion rate, but that doesn't guarantee the well-being of anyone. Perhaps with a complete, proper, and readily available sex education, people would practice healthy habits (either abstinence or proper use of contraception to prevent pregnancy & STDs). Then there wouldn't be any need for abortions except for the extremes.

Answer 6

Jesus Christ, lady. I'm sorry your living in a world filled with such horror. You ought to rise above the world that you live in and come up here to heaven where children live. Anyway to answer your questions:

1) There is no such thing as an unwanted child. A child is a human being, not an animal. And even if the mother of the child doesn't want him or her, someone else always will. They can and do grow up psychologically healthy. They can and do grown up loved, cared about, and yes sometimes children are abused. But children in a normal family with a mother and father are also abused sometimes.

2) Who will pay for new orphanages? You and I. With our tax dollars. It's the right thing to do and the right place for the money to go.

3) Im pro-life. But I'm also pro-"woman having the right to choose". So I don't believe in abortion being illegal by the government. I accept that sometimes abortions will occur and that they should be done in a medical facility. The government laws should not be involved. It is up to the states to decide whether or not to allow abortion. If you need an abortion and your state doesn't allow it then you can go to another state.

4) I am not concerned with what goes on in "3rd world" nations. I'm concerned with what goes on in my own nation. Yes, we should knowingly allow these births no matter what.

Answer 7

The solution is for people to act responsibly. If you are old enough to remember, people used to drink and drive without giving it a serious thought. Over 50,000 people were being killed in traffic accidents. As some people pressured their legislators to change the laws. Today, the laws are quite severe for drunk drivers. And guess what: there is a lot fewer people driving drunk.

If we recognize that killing an unborn baby is murder, then using the excuse that maybe the mother doesn't want it, or maybe it will be abused or abandoned doesn't sound like such a good excuse. People need to be held accountable for their actions. They can't be allowed to run away from their responsibilities.

When abortion becomes illegal again, people will have to consider that before they get themselves into a situation. Some people need to grow up and take responsibility.

In simple terms: don't get pregnant if you don't want a baby, if you do get pregnant, you can either raise it or put it up for adoption, or you can go to jail. What's so hard about that?

There is your alternative.

Answer 8

I'm actually pro-choice, however I find this an interesting question and would like to give a crack at possible solutions that could be offered.

1) There are already adoption agencies in place to help find children that have no parents loving homes. However, the system definitely could use lots of work in the means, methods and findings of parents for these unwanted children.

For the many children that end up in foster homes: There needs to be better funding, and more extra-curricular activities for these children for one thing. There should also be more available information available to the public, and definitely better screening for potential foster parents or group home caretakers.

I've yet to see any foster homes that provide extra-curricular activities like: music, tennis, poetry/writing, girl/boy scouts etc..

I think offering kids in these homes more stability and a guaranteed amount of time placed in a home will also help the children psychologically. I understand that social workers do their best in placing children in appropriate places, but there should definitely be improvements to how this is done.

2) I think that the government and active supporters should help to pay for this kind of funding.

3) This is definitely NOT what society needs. But if you're going to force women to have children, then you should definitely support making changes to medical, financial and childcare programs.

4) I would say that if people are willing to support pro-life, then they should support providing care to third world countries with programs that help to provide adequate food, shelter, medical treatment and education to new mothers.

Great question!

Answer 9

Here in America, we would not only have to ban abortion, but change our way of thinking in order to avoid the problems you mention: We would simply need to reinstall motherhood as a virtue over professional sucess and independence.

This would leave the mother's hands (and conscience) clean -result in less demmand for divorce (reaching 50% now) since more kids mean distraction from fighting among coupples, and LESS abandonment: More brothers/sisters, wider family network/support leading to less isolation and depression (modern man's ilness).

Concerning 3rd world nations it isn't up to us to allowe or ban abortions. They have their own responsabilities and we have ours.

why not give life a chance?

Answer 10

Abortion is close to murdering aint it????.

That is the why the bible warns about sexual immorality.

The GOD of heaven stores arnt that empty that when people who done these mistakes turn towards him that he can provide them.

read Psalm 27:10 When my father and mother forsake me,then the LORD will take me up.

GOD loves u so much that he sent his son JESUS to die for u to reconcile u back.

John 3:16 says "For GOD so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whoso ever believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life".Ask JESUS to come into your heart and forgive ur sins and cleanse ur past with his blood.

With a simple prayer like above u can be saved.

Answer 11

Sorry but...it's story time. I was the President of the Board of Directors for a preschool with enrollment of 72. Our part-time teacher (unmarried) became pregnant. She told me during her job review. I kept that information private until we convened in the fall and she was 3 months along. The "most christian" board members, 3 of them, wanted to fire her. When I told them not only would it be immoral, it would be illegal - they backed down. The next morning, I found they had already started the gossip and people in nearby towns had already been told this CONFIDENTIAL information.

This wasn't ages ago. It was in the 1990s. I was beyond appalled. The same people that protest abortion would have FIRED this girl so she would be jobless. No doubt they were also anti-welfare.