He tells me that he still loves me and that he didn't intend to break up with me and that this new relationship he has isn't going to last long. I still care about him but I'm so sick of getting hurt by him. I have kinda found someone else but not too sure... I still care about him but he's so confusing..what do i do?
2007-04-26 15:16:45 · 23 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, go get a nice cup of hot tea and then come back here and have a seat. I'll wait.
Back? Ok, good. Now, listen.
Let's look at how things have gone with him so far.
>>> "he didn't intend to break up with me"
Well, guess what. He broke up with you.
Lesson one: Don't pay any attention to what he says. Just watch what he does. Actions speak louder than words.
>>> "this new relationship he has isn't going to last long"
Lesson two: He wants to string you along. Why is he still in it? What is he telling her? Maybe he can have you and her too, or you after he's "had" her or so he thinks.
>>> "but I'm so sick of getting hurt by him"
Lesson three: He will cause you more pain. It's not the first time, is it? Of course not. I know it and you know it. It will not be the last time either if you get back with him. You know deep down in your heart that this is true. How much more pain do you want to feel? How many "one more time's" will you give him? Hasn't he about used them all up by now?
>>> "but he's so confusing"
Lesson four: If he can keep you confused, he can keep you from making a decision that he will not approve of or one that will be in your best interest. Please refer to Lesson one.
>>> "I have kinda found someone else"
Lesson five: The best way to get over someone is to find a new someone.
Ok, no homework but be ready for a test on this tomorrow.
Now, finish your tea and go brush your teeth.
Best Wishes.
2007-04-26 15:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy to have some guy pulling your chain and promising you a future while he is with another girl. You will need to count your losses and move on. I hope the next guy treats you well but you have to learn to tell a guy what is acceptable to you. You don't want to go through life getting played and abused all the time. If this is a pattern for you, get some counseling. All of us could use some relationship coaching. Best of luck to you!!
2007-04-26 22:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sick of getting hurt by him = you already know the answer
DUMP HIS AZZ!!
for good!
you can bet the "new gf" probably doesn't know he's still getting with you too...he's a liar and a loser..if you love yourself, tell him to step off...and then don't answer his calls or messages anymore...you'll be sorry if you keep him around, you'll see
2007-04-26 22:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really make him an ex, and forget about him. Go on to new friends and new relationships. Saying that his new relationship won't last and that he didn't intend it means that his intention is to keep you available in case the new girl doesn't work out. He is bad news, get him out of your head,
Good luck
2007-04-26 22:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget that jerk! If he truly loved you then he wouldn't be with another girl! And the fact that he admitted that he didn't care about the girl he's with now is just pathetic. Go find a guy who can't live without you
Bless your heart
2007-04-26 22:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by The Voice of Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the outside, it doesn't seem very confusing at all. If he wants to be with you, he needs to immediately break up with this new person. Three's no such thing as "not going to last long." If he doesn't want to be with you, then you don't need him. Walk away....better yet, run.
2007-04-26 22:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him think you are moving on with your life. Limit contact, always act too busy. You deserve better, but this could make him come around and make a decision. Don't sit around waiting for him to dump his new fling. And for heaven's sake don't give him any.
2007-04-26 22:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Spirited Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on!!!!! Leave his butt to the other girl, let him be her problem and not yours.
He sounds like a manipulator, dont fall for it. This fool wants to have his cake and eat it too, and by you even considering it, your basically feeding him the cake. Get my drift.
Honey move on, and find you a man, and not a boy
2007-04-26 22:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_treats_4_u33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new bf that way you will know for sure what you want, if the new one treats you right then why go back to the old one who dumped you in the first place
2007-04-26 22:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is feeding you a line of bull s h i t, honey. Do what you can to get over him. If he is seeing someone else, he is over you. He may just be looking for hook-ups. Stay away from him.
2007-04-26 22:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋