WHY??? She says he doesn't pay attention in class. .... As if it's MY fault??? She wants me to talk to him about it.
I don't call HER and whine: "Your student won't go to bed on time. You need to have a talk with him about that tomorrow in class!" ... Why is this my problem???
2007-04-26 14:48:39 · 26 answers · asked by Antny 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I got the same thing with my daughters kindergarten teacher. She isn't where she should be, she's falling behind and I'm really puzzled". So I responded with "Well, you're the teacher here... isn't that what my taxes pay you to figure out?" Like, she's that inexperienced, she's never encountered this? Please. She wanted me to figure it out for her. Next year, new grade, different teacher, and now it's a whole different ballgame. I love her teacher this year. My daughter is doing much better. I also got a tremendous amount of support from the principal. It doesn't hurt to ask your pediatrician about it. They can tell you what normal behaviors for the age are, and how to address inappropriate ones. You do need to take an interest, and you do need to talk to your son about it. Good luck!
2007-05-03 15:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ma sure the teacher did talk to him telling him to pay attention. Teachers usually will go to the parent after they can not get the child to listen. The problem is if he does not pay attention he will not learn and he will think that he can do this as he gets older, I know your a parent and do not want a child that is 30 when he graduates high school because his parent didnt take out a few minutes to make sure he learns.
2007-05-01 16:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your problem because he's your son which in no way compares with being his teacher. Does he stop being your responsibility when he steps into the school building?
Teachers can only do so much during a day with 20-30 kids to handle. Sometimes they've tried and tried with a child and feel that the best thing to do is to have the parents reinforce what is being said in school.
If you act like his behavior at school doesn't concern you, it only gives your son license to be disobedient in class.
She may also be concerned that there is another reason for his not paying attention that you, as his mother, may have more insight into.
Personally I'd rather know that my child was misbehaving so I could help correct it. A child reflects their family, so I want my kids to be good representatives.
2007-04-26 21:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by jess 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The teacher called you because she is concerned about your child. Your values at home are the greatest influence on your child. They pick up on your attitudes and ultimately what is important to you is what becomes important to them. The feeling you have toward the teacher and your views on the importance of education will also be passed onto your child. She isn't indicating that it's your fault, but looking for your help in instilling the importance of paying attention in class.
2007-04-26 22:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by omgithinkiknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's calling you because she has no authority to do anything else. Plus, your child may be distracting others in the class. Teachers have a very hard time when parents aren't willing to help. Try to talk to your son what could it hurt? Maybe it will help for the two of you to be on the same page. After all your son is the one who will lose out if he doesn't pay attention in class not the teacher. She is giving you the opportunity to help him help himself. My advice Take It!!!
2007-04-26 21:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by candy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you child is not paying attention in class, ask her to have him tested for a learning disability. Have her get him check.
He may need help. Do not put him on drugs, until he is tested
good luck
I read some of the response above
Not Paying attention is class, does not mean he is acting out or causing trouble. You child may need help. I would ask to have him tested if he's not paying attention in class. You and his teacher are his best defense.
2007-04-26 22:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you for real? Of course it is your problem... this is your son! You need to know - and should WANT to know - how he is doing in school. It's certainly not about casting blame, it is about doing what is best for the child. And the best thing would be for his parent to care. This is a perfect example of what's going on in our schools; absentee parents and invisible children. Very disappointing.
2007-05-01 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Amy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are the parent. If your child is acting up in school it's your responsibility also. You and the teacher are a team. You guys got to do what's best for your child when they are in the classroom. When your son is at school it's not just the teachers responsibility it's also yours because you are the child's parent.
2007-04-26 21:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Steelers Fan 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because he is your child that's why she's calling you. It is her job to inform you of any problems any of the students are having. I would want my child's teacher to do the same thing. If I didn't get the phone call, I would be irked. The idea of a teacher parent relationship is so you can both work together to help him out.
2007-04-26 21:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
You're right about the whole, you don't call her thing... you can not effectively discipline a child at home for something they did at school.... however, she probably could use some suggestions from you as to how you encourage good behavior, or she thinks that if your son knew that she was communicating with you, he would try harder in school. She's not saying it is your fault, nobody is at fault... she is asking for your help!
2007-04-26 21:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by daisy_may95 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋