my sisters son has a problem at school. he in in 5th grade and there is a bully constantly punching him, harrassing him, stealing from him and lying to him. this bully has also hurt many other kids and the teachers are well aware but the kid seems to have no reaction to punishment and truly does not care. the bully also has had a history of animal cruelty. the ONLY option now is to teach my sisters kid to defend himself.
however he is kind of afraid to fight in fear that he may miss when he throws a punch or something go's wrong and he loses the fight. he says its just that there is something holding him back. he said when people pick on him he gets passive and nervous and not mean and angry. so how can i teach him to get angry and to fight to defend himself? i hate resorting to violence but its the only way. the bully exibits behavior of a true sociopath.
2007-04-26 14:36:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Karate's a good idea, but a better faster one in his case would be self defense classes, like women take to learn how to handle attackers. They would stress things like exhibiting self confidence (not coming off weak or vulnerable, which is like wearing a bullseye to a bully), and they would get right down to the nitty gritty in terms of defending oneself.
In addition, I would call the authorities and lodge a complaint against this kid, his parents, whatever. Perhaps make a call to child protective services. In all likelihood this kid has a horrid homelife and needs some serious intervention. He really does sound like a sociopath in the making; if he doesn't get help he could end up a serial killer or something. Someone needs to be held accountable for his behavior and someone needs to take steps to help him alter it. It's going to be an uphill battle to get something done, but better now than later. Best of luck.
2007-04-26 14:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by hoff_mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 10 y/o just went through this, when I offered to go to the school and talk with the teachers or principal my son said no that it would only make it worse. So I made a pact with my son, that as long as he could handle the abuse I would stay away from the school, but my son has two choices. One was to stand up for himself whether by fighting for himself or by going to a teacher. I told my son the next time the bully called him over during lunch or grabbed him by the book-bag in the school yard just to yell at the top of his lungs get off of me, or stop touching me. Or two to draw attention to his situation. I told him that bullies abuse people who don't stand up for themselves or are too ashamed to draw attention to themselves. I also told my son that one day he would get tired of the abuse and defend himself so why stay in fear or prolong the inevitable. My son is not a fighter which I love, I told him that just because he has a fight whether he "wins" or not standing up for himself is something that he needs to do. Physically or passively.
2007-04-26 16:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by sjchristian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Enroll him in KARATE. He'll learn how to carry himself with confidence and will probably never actually have to use it. But for right now, I'd be calling the parents of the other victims and making an appearance with them at the next school board meeting. This school bully behavior just shouldn't be tolerated.
2007-04-26 14:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This little punk needs to be suspended for the remainder of the school year. Maybe if enough parents could get together and have a conference with the principal, you could achieve this. Some kids are like your nephew, and understand that resorting to violence is not the correct way of handling this kind of situation. I know it's tempting and that you (and his mom) are probably very tired of this happening, but hopefully with more adults complaining, the problem can be solved.
2016-04-01 09:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sisters son needs to enroll in Tae Kwon Do and kick this other kids butt! I have an 8 year old son and have always told him that if someone hits you, hit back! I know some parents don't agree, but kids need to show the bully that they aren't afraid to stand up to them. If they cowar, the bully will always use them as a target. Believe me, I know from my own childhood experiences.
2007-04-26 15:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My younger brother was your typical stereotyped geek growing up. If someone picked on him long enough he would cry uncontrollably. You could ask a million times "Who did this to you?"...and not one word would come out of his mouth. The ultimate came when he came home with a burn on his hand inflicted by two bullies. He has a scar on his hand to this day. I will never forget the hysterical phone call I got from my mother. I opened up the Yellow Pages and looked up "Martial Arts." A couple months later on his birthday I gave him a one-year membership to a reputable Kung Fu/Karate club. Nobody touched him after that. He was not violent to anyone. He just walked and acted like someone you did not want to cross! I wish that my parents would have beaten me to it.
2007-04-26 17:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Alletery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teaching him self defense is a good idea, it sucks but for now its all she can do. you need to go to the principal and if that doesnt work keep going up from there. the superintendent, the school board, than if that doesnt work you'll have to get a lawyer. its not something to take lightly, we know how people like this bully turn out.
2007-04-26 14:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to swing back and if he misses swing again and if he gets beat up anyways well at least he wont end up looking like a wimp and that bully will think about again before picking on him. If you cant get your son to do this it will escalat into a bigger thing
2007-04-26 15:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by cynthgzmn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think violence is ever the only answer.
surely your sister is not the only parent concerned about this bully. you must act like adults and get together and fight against bullying in school otherwise it will always exist. one cannot resort to childlike behaviors and think that violence is the only way. i dont think it is good to instill violence and hatred into a kid obviusly kind. you are only doing him more damage, not helping him.
as human beings we are more naturally the type to not resort to violence. there's always a hesitation when one feels violence is an option. obviously, it is natural to not want to fight. therefore, obviously fighting is not the answer. like i said, get parents together and have this kid taken care of bc every child has a right to be safe wherever they are. and it's the parents duty to ensure that safety for your child. causing more violence does not create safety but more danger.
2007-04-26 14:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Blah 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Send the school a good artical about the VT shooting and tell him/her if it doesn't stop your taking it to the police..
School boards like to hear this kind of stuff.. The administration isen't doing their job!!..
And get your sisters son in defense courses..
2007-04-26 14:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by tiny b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋