should i do it on prom night?

Question

hi! my bf of 2 years said last night that he wants to have sex on prom night. i'm scared because i'm not ready, but he says he'll tell his friends that we did even if we didn't.

i know what y'all are sayin, but i love him, i honestly do, and i can't imagine my world w/out him. he was there when my dad left us, and he's been everything for me.
i don't know why he's a jerk about sex.
plz help!

Answer 1

Never let anyone pressure you into sex. I understand your feelings for him, but if he says that he'll "tell his friends that you did even if you don't", that means that he is using you. He just wants to look cool in front of his buddies.

I seriously know what you are going through, and through all of the tough times, especially your dad leaving you. But sex is a thing you need to save yourself for. If you are waiting for marriage, that is awesome. If you want to do it before marriage, that is fine too, but you will know when you are ready.

Do not let him talk you into it. Put your foot down. Sex is a private thing, no one besides you and your boyfriend/husband needs to know about it. If he is going to go running off telling his friends about it, it's not cool.

Sorry to say this chiki, but you need to dump the guy. I know what you are going through, I was faced with the same decision.

You and only you can make that decision, and you will know it when you are ready.

What if you get pregnant? Are you ready for that? I think not, sweetie.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Lady I've had many girl friends in my life and have many Buddy's over the years make jokes about how easy it was last night to trick a stupid love sick girl into giving them free sex for the promise of love, you may Kidd yourself about how much you think he should and must love you, but the fact that he said he would tell everyone you did even if you didn't proves only one logical thing, he has made a bet with his friends he will get to have sex with you, if he cares no more than that for you that he would risk hurting your feelings just for a little fun, then he only likes how you look and not about you as a person, men always want to have sex with the pretty girls first and the ugly ones last, and care nor feelings has anything to do with it, it's only a score and you better start understanding this now, i promise you that if you pass on this forced offer you may get lucky and lose him but later on you will find a man that really cares and you will see that upfront and he will thank you for staying a good and clean girl, I've been in bed with many girls and i always thought the same thing she wanted this with me so how many more came before me, and that is hard to forget, stay clean sex is for when you get married to the better man not some self centered boy, i am telling you really how it is, sorry if you can't see it.

Answer 3

Well if your heart is telling you that you are not ready, then you are not ready. You can still love him and not have sex. It's not all about sex. If he loves you he will wait. If he breaks up with you because you don't want too. Sure it will hurt, but lesson learned! This happen to me. He took another girl to the prom, and I met my husband a few months later. Glad I said no!! You will be too!

Together 14/ married 7 on 05/06/07

Answer 4

Choosing when to have sex and with whom is very important. If you think he is being a "jerk" about it (and I would agree since he does not appear to be considering your feelings at all), then you have answered the question yourself. In addition, if he disrespects you by trying to pressure you into it with the threat of telling his friends you did it anyway, he will ultimately disrespect you on other issues as well. I know you feel love for him, but stick to your gut feeling about not doing it and this will be the test to see if he really loves you. Because if he does, he will wait and he will not trash talk you to anybody. You are worth the wait!

Answer 5

The first YAMmer who picks me up in a lamborghini. I'll jump in any time... even if it's a gorilla driving. Edit: Bean, a silver one to pick me up and a red one for my souvenir would be great, thank you. So you coming as a gorilla or.... Edit: Angry Young Puwet... Let me know what your lamborghini colour is coz Bean may also be coming as a gorilla.

Answer 6

No. Absolutely not! You said it yourself. You're not ready. Why do you want to be bf/gf with a guy that would pressure you into sex and threaten you with slander.

Dump his *** and go to prom with a guy friend or a gal friend. He's the kind of guy who needs to get his *** kicked by your big brother.

Answer 7

I wouldnt jus b/c the fact i can tell ur not totally sure about it so dont not until u kno for absolute sure u want to...its not fun being poressured into it u'll hate it if its not a mutal feelings plus it sucks if u plan it ........plus he sounds rude!! and the fact he would spread it about u thats awful hell id break up with him or threaten him ne way to break up b/c he shouldnt treat u like that... i wouldnt do it jus b/c he talked to u like that

Answer 8

If he's such a great guy then he wouldn't be pressuring you for sex. He's going to tell his friends? So what? Let him talk. You don't have to give in.

I don't normally believe in threats but, if he's going to tell lies on you, I'd tell him that you'll tell those same friends lies about him and his inadequacies as a lover.

Answer 9

You shouldn't be expected to have sex if you're not ready. He should know that. If he truly loves you he will respect your decision. Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel. He'll understand if he loves you.

Answer 10

If you are not ready and he is going to lie about you trust me he does not care about you even a little bit. Trust me when I say you can do better even if you think you can't.