Last name laws???

Question

I know I am in a bad situation xo please keep the negative comments to yourself. I am recently divorced and have children with my ex. I kept his last name, so I would have the same last name unless I remarried. Problem: I am pregnant and the father (not my ex) originally said he would be involved and I have not talked to him in 3 weeks. Should I give the baby his last name anyway, my ex's last name (which has been my name for 10 yrs), or my maiden name?? I am in Alabama.

Answer 1

If I were you, I think I would give the child the last name that you are currently using now. Just because you use the same last name as your ex does not mean that he has to assume responsibility as a parent in any way. When you fill out the paperwork for the birth certificate, you can choose to not list a father at all, or you can list the father, and just not use his last name.

How far along are you? If you are not close to the end, the father may feel like he'd just be bothering you to call all the time, or it might not even occur to him that you'd like to hear from him. He may think that there's nothing for him to do during the 'in-between' part, and is waiting until your final weeks to get back involved (which sounds silly to me, but guys are weird). If he comes back around, and acts right, you can choose to give the baby his last name, but ultimately it is your decision.

The only one of those options I would steer clear of is your maiden name, unless you decide to go back to it. It just doesn't seem sensible to me.

But whatever your decision, be careful about it, don't make it on the spur of the moment at the hospital.

I choose to give my son his father's last name, even though his father and I are not yet married. But we plan to be, and when we do, I will change my last name to his.

My friend has a toddler and is in the middle of a divorice, and she's going back to her maiden name, but leaving her daughter with her ex's name. She says she wishes she would've kept her own name from the beginning, and hyphenated the baby's name.

Another girl I know has 4 kids, and was only married to the dad of Number 1. After the divorice, she went back to her maiden name, and each of the other 3 'baby daddies' promised to be there, and so she gave the babies their last names, but then the guys all split. So there are 5 people living in that house, with 5 different last names.

Good luck in your decision, and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Answer 2

I am not sure on the laws sorry! I would give the baby your current last name. I would think that is legal being that it is your last name and has been for years. I would not give the baby his fathers name unless he will participate in the childs life. Your maiden name is always a good choice too.

Answer 3

Choice is truly yours. But, it is between your last name (the one you have now, since it is legally yours) and the child's father's last name. You can't give the baby your maiden name because, unless you got it changed back, the name is not legally yours anymore. See if the father is going to stick around, if he doesn't give the child your last name. If he does, give the baby his last name. Or you could hyphenate it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You should change both you and your baby's last name to your maiden name, my wife is smart enough not to take my last name. For some reason, when a woman takes a man's last name they usually have bad luck with their marriage.

Also I'm Chinese, that's why we don't like having daughters, since they become traiters to their father, by taking someone else's last name. My wife is a good daughter to her father.

Answer 5

Give him the fathers last name.Never denie your child of knowing who there real parents are.If he dosent want anything to do with the child you should still go after him for support.The child having his name will help in this matter as well.Don't let pride Fog your judgement on this.If the guy is worthless your child will have the right to know that just as much as if he's a celebrity.The truth is always best. If you hide it,it may come back to haunt you later on.If its a boy I'd name him what ever his name is JR.

Answer 6

You can give your child any first, middle, and last name that you choose. You can make something up, pick something out of the phonebook, or use your last name, his last name, your neighbor's last name, etc. It's really ultimately your choice, but it sounds as though it may be best to give the baby the last name that you are currently using.

Answer 7

Oh yeah, I wouldn't give up my maiden name, it's bad luck to have the same last name as your husband. You should change your baby's name to your maiden name instead, just incase he won't stick around.

Answer 8

I don't know the law, but I would give the baby the same last name you all have and just not list the dad on the birth certificate.

Answer 9

Unless you're married to this new guy, I think you can give the baby any last name you want.

Answer 10

OMG - in simple terms "positioned the fiance" on the beginning certificates? What correct to the youngster? would not the youngster have the main suitable to comprehend who his father is?? you're pregnant, however the organic and organic father has rights to boot. Legally and ethically - you may the two call no father or the organic and organic father. you may then ask the organic and organic father to terminate his parental rights and your fiance can undertake the youngster - legally.