I'm finding it difficult to separate the two now. At first it was play, but as time goes on...it's difficult separating. I'm the femdomme...not by nature, but am involved with a submissive male which I love of less than 6 months. I'm beginning to feel this i more about lust than love for him and am having a hard time giving of myself this way for play only. Any stories or experiences you can share will be appreciated.
2007-04-26 14:04:01 · 4 answers · asked by pollyp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are in our late 40's...this is fairly new to me
2007-04-26 14:16:00 · update #1
I think the intimacy of the relationship has a large influence on whether or not you can keep it simply 'play' or if it does become a part of your lifestyle.
I can personally relate to your situation-- I started out as the sub with a friend who would be an occasional Dom when we wanted to have some fun play scenes. As our relationship grew the line between when we were playing and when we weren't began to blur.
It doesn't bother me as I enjoyed play as a sub because that is my nature, so It's almost like I can be more like myself in this relationship all the time that I have ever been before.
Enjoy it for what it is-- good luck!
2007-04-28 14:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it can be both. Some people engage in that as a mental state and their life is focused around that lifestyle. Others do engage in it as play with their lover from time to time. Personally for me it's more an occational play practice, but it might help to look online for a community of likeminded people who'd actually be able to give you some insight.
2007-04-26 21:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by kismetkritter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is done both for play and LIFE as well. It is all about 2 adults doing what each enjoys but it must be enjoyed by both parties adn discussed and agreeed upon. Do not allow any one to force you to do any thing you are unconfortable with..................but it s a life style of millions of couples. and well I have read about it a lot myself, I am confussed some by it but I try to understand every ones way of live and not criticise them for their differance.
You said boy friend is a submissive but you did not mention either of your ages so that is as far as Ill take it
2007-04-26 21:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can develop into a lifestyle --- in fact i have heard it described in that way --- while i have no stories or experiences i have met and talked to a few doms and subs --- usually female --- maybe you need to re evaluate your relationship and discuss it with him
2007-04-26 21:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋