im 15...and a female...i live in new york and my boyfriend lives in florida....me and him known each other since pre-school and whenever i used 2 see him i used 2 get those feelings...and him the same for me...then he moved 2 fl about a year ago...but we still stayed as friends....he came to ny for break and now were taking it that step foward...wut you think?
2007-04-26 13:12:57 · 8 answers · asked by =] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl you 15, you don't need to be in a long distance relationship. Girl you better enjoy being 15, you can't trust him at that age.
2007-04-26 13:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by SexyBlackFasho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long distance thing is very difficult...both of you are going to meet a LOT of people that are a lot closer...and even innocent things will start to feel like your doing something you shouldn't...then resentment...then goodbye....
so...if you want to try and commit to each other...you have to start by understanding what that means...you'll need to communicate often...and never ever ever hide anything...
anything...you see a guy you think is cute...TELL HIM...then tell him how he's cutier though...
all relationships are about communication...long distance, short distance...it's all the same...always share everything...and you might make it till you don't have to be apart....
good luck darlin...
2007-04-26 20:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Clif S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are a great way to tell if 2 people should really be together ot not. It sounds like you two should be. If you both give it time, it will work out, and you two will be closer together afterwards.
2007-04-26 20:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by benji 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The expections in a friends-turned-lovers relationship changes dramatically. If you happen to be one who gains sense of security through time spent together, chances are, you're gonna stalk him sooner or later. In such situation, how good can the quality of time spent together be?
2007-04-26 20:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by feRrine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My distance relationship from high school never worked out. It was torture. I recommend highly not getting the fire burning until you have better means of addressing it. It gets expensive and limits who you talk to at school.
2007-04-26 20:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me, I know from experience(I'm in a long distance relationship now) that it's gonna be tough.
For ideas you could try:
"virtual" dates--this is when you both agree to go to the same movie on the same day, each of you in your home town, then you call each other that evening and talk about the movie, it's not the same as going to it together, but it's the next best thing
movie night at home--you both rent the same movie and call each other and watch it at the same time while on the phone, it's like they're right there, even though they're not because you can hear each other laugh or gasp or whatever during the movie
chat online a couple nights a week since you live so far away and frequent phone calls could get costly, and your parents might not like that, lol
Call every once in a while too though because it's nice to hear that special someone's voice every once and a while ^_^
Make sure you tell your parents what you are planning to do too, just so they know, and because parents really should be informed about these kind of things...
Try to see each other when you have the opportunities come up where you can see each other, the virtual dates and talking online are nice, but nothing can replace actually getting to see him and be with him
As hard as it may seem, take it slow when you see each other, because say it's been a year that you've been "going out", you still have probably only seen each other a few times, and though the virtual dates seem real, you two still haven't been around each other in real life as long as you would have been if you lived in the same town for that year.
Have cute flirty conversations when you talk, act a little playful, if he asks you what you are doing, reply something like "oh, not much, just talkin to this really cool guy I kinda like.." and when he's all "hmmm...and who's that?" be like "hmmm...welll.....he...is....YOU!" lol, me and my BF are always doing that to eachother, and as long as you're not always doing that it'll be cute and fun and it'll become like an inside joke.
Bottom line: try and have as much fun as you can with it. Talk it all over with him and make sure that both of you are mature and ready for a long distance relationship. Make sure you're not going to get too lonely or sad over the fact that you don't get to see him much, and make sure you're going to be able to be faithful to him and not be two timing him with someone who lives close to you. Also make sure you trust him enough that he won't do that to you since you're so far away. You might want to talk that over with him as well, talk about whether you want to keep it exclusive or if maybe because there's so much distance that you two will be together but be free to see others once and a while. It depends on what you two are both comfortable with and what you agree on.
Make sure it's not going to be too painful, think it over, do you like him enough to pass up all the guys around you because you're dating him? Have him ask himself the same thing and then talk it over later.
Key to remember: Long distance relationships won't work if there isn't any good communication skills between the two of you, you have to be able to talk to one another about your concerns about the relationship or you could form resentments or become sad or lonely or feel alienated because you are unable to speak with them about something that feels important to you.
Think it over real hard and do what feels right. It might really hurt to let go, but if it's going to feel painful, like you're hanging on to a lost cause, it might be easier to just try and move on.
So far my relationship is working out. I'm 16 and so is my BF, we talked it all over, I had moved and was now 3.5 hours away and we weren't sure if we could do it. We decided, though, that we both really loved each other and didn't want to give up without trying. It's been almost 7 months and so far we are both very happy and very much in love and hope to get together for a bit over summer vacation.
It all depends on you, him, how much you both like each other, and how much effort you are both willing to put into your relationship.
Hope everything works out for you!
--Ashboo
2007-04-26 20:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ashboo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah u could go wit him as long as he visit u and u visit him during break but relations like that dnt last
2007-04-26 20:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have met him before so i'd day go ahead & remember to keep in touch.
2007-04-26 20:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by xkathiee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋