How can you have no judgments, no passions, no biases about life. I'd like to know how to be more open-minded and accepting of everything that goes wrong in my life, without judging anything or getting angry enough to change it. Please tell me how to sprinkle cool patience over the passion of my judgment so i can be relaxed, loving and boring like you. Thank you.
2007-04-26 12:41:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ross: what you said about projection makes sense to me in a concrete way...thank you
2007-04-26 13:08:52 · update #1
Catherine you said
" I'd rather be boring and kind and non-judgmental than a jerk who's always pointing fingers at other people and telling them that they're going to go to hell for not believing what I believe or not living their life the way I think they should instead of worrying about how I can make myself a better person"
who said anyone was going to hell?....
2007-04-26 13:20:14 · update #2
Have kids. Mine have taught me all kinds of patience ☺
2007-04-26 12:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by A W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be boring and kind and non-judgmental than a jerk who's always pointing fingers at other people and telling them that they're going to go to hell for not believing what I believe or not living their life the way I think they should instead of worrying about how I can make myself a better person.
I save the judging for things that are important. Like someone doing something that hurts OTHERS. Not for being gay, or not praying to my personal invisible super-being.
I'm talking about judgmental religious people in general that say people are going to Hell. There are a lot of real jerks out there that spend an awful lot of time pointing fingers at others. The point is, whether or not your "judgment" includes telling people they're going to Hell, if you want to be less "judgmental", then worry about yourself and not so much about others.
2007-04-26 12:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I am assuming that you are a human being then I think you're out of luck. Everyone has judgment, passions, and biases. That is what makes us who we are. It is how we handle our differences that matter. Is it OK to push our own values onto other people? That depends. For instance I am a very bleeding heart liberal type of person. But I am also a Christian. This is hard when my view points almost always clash with the people around me (I live in Indiana by the way). However I know that as a Christian I have to love everyone, even if I think that they are completely wrong and the biggest idiot racist in the world. Now, this is definitely not easy and I think it gets easier with age and a lot of soul searching. But don't be so hard on yourself. Practice come critical thinking skills and try to learn to be empathetic. You will always have people you disagree with and there will always be people you don't like, that is life. That doesn't mean you have to try to convert the world to your way of thinking.
2007-04-26 12:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by glitterprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it is only natural and human nature to have bias and so forth,but it really just boils down to changing your perspective on things.
Think of these so called "wrong" things that happen as life lessons that you can look at as an opportunity for growth. We all have had "bad" things happen in our lives, but each time, I grew from it, became a better person and looking back on it, I am happy it happened.
Things change when you change your perspective. Start trying to see things in a different way.
And if you think being cool and relaxe is "boring" like "us," why are you seeking to become that way. If being judgmental serves you well, keep doing it. But obviously it hasn't worked thus why you are asking the question right.
Whatever you decide, best wishes on your journey.
2007-04-26 12:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take life one minute at a time. There is no rush to do this or to do that. Why be judgmental, it solves nothing. I have a passion for many things in life and enjoy them all. I can accept and be thankful for the bad things that happen in life because there are many lessons to be learned and you really can not enjoy the good things in life. Getting angry about things solves nothing. Worrying about things solves nothing. All that will do is give you major health problems. 1 Peter 5:7 says Give all of your worries to Him for He cares for you", that means give it all to God and He will take care of it. Thats how I lead my life.
2007-04-26 12:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that I could word it easily
but what I do , is try to put myself in the position of that person before I speak
I tend to pause a moment to listen to what I am about to say , or before I hit enter on the keyboard
will I hurt that person with my words ?
do I understand them ?
how would I feel ?
chances are that with most people , no matter how different they are to you
you will find that you can relate in some way
and you cannot judge once you find empathy for them
walk in their shoes
it feels wonderful
2007-04-26 12:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you have a really strong opinion about someone or something in your mind, before saying it outloud just stop and think, and literally remind yourself that you arent going to judge, chances are if your thinking something and its true someone else may notice it too and say it. Just think about being nice and not making other people feel bad, no matter how bad the thoughts you have are just stop and think, try it a couple times.
2007-04-26 12:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by Cara d. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is such thing as non judgemental, as in order to become one you still need to assess the situation and make a conscious decision not to judge, which is subconsciously judging (by categorising the object) but not expressing the initial opinion. I hope that makes sense!!! i believe it is ok judge as long as we do not let those initial judgements turn into prejudice or allow them to become the sole reason as to why we differentiate between others
2007-04-26 12:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by eccie83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In mean this in the most non-judgemental way, but you don't know me,or most of the people here, so why is it that you believe that people who are non-judgemental are all boring people?
I know that this question was a way to try to elicit some kind of judgemental answers to justify your beliefs, but that's OK, you'll get there if you want to.
2007-04-26 12:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being non-judgemental is not a easy task. Passions are not void.Why should there be Bias if there is an open mind.It is something we have to work on within ourselves. And in doing so, we grow.
2007-04-26 13:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by GLoW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't go there life would truly be borrrrrrrring..Opinionated people rule and make the world go around ...So you can rest knowing that you are real and make a difference! Tolerance has only brought to days realities into turmoil... Would you really want to be a puppet?
2007-04-26 12:48:11 · answer #11 · answered by blahblah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋