I am 14, And my boyfriends 16. We've been together almost 2 Years now and we haven't had sex. He keeps bringing it up. I'm afraid if we finally do have sex he might leave me. i love him very much. he said it wouldn't hurt. I'm just not sure what to do.?
2007-04-26 12:40:10 · 31 answers · asked by Abygail S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep saying no ---- if he does care for you he will stay with you --- im sorry though at that age most guys are only after sex ---- best wishes
2007-04-26 12:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple If your not ready your not ready. Plain and simple. If he loves you and cares enough about you he can wait. And if he keeps bringing it up, and it seems that sex is the only thing on his mind remember he's a guy and guys usually think about that alot. He's 16 he's probably hitting puberty. Your so young yet wait till your ready to do it and make sure it's with the right guy. And sex can hurt don't let him say that it doesn't. How would he know he's a guy. For some women it hurts and for some it doesn't, you just don't know. And if you are scared the he might leave you after having sex with you, think about if he really is the guy you want to be with then.I know you love him but think about it.
2007-04-26 12:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg your so young! don't do it yet, it's stupid... you should totally wait for when your totally ready, which right now your not, since your asking this question. never let a guy make you do something you don't want to do, if he loves you, he will wait for you. the stupidest reason to have sex is because you are afraid that he will leave you. just do what you feel would be best for you, and even if it may seem that a lot of people are having sex, they really aren't. also, you should think about what you are going to do if you get pregnant. if that sounds like a crazy conversation to have with your boyfriend, then don't have sex.
2007-04-26 13:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one... I am 49 years old now but the love that I felt as a teen has left an intense feeling/memory that over shadows anything I have experienced since. There can only be one first time. That is your hymen or virginity is something you can only give away once. Even if it could be put back it wouldn't be the first time ever again. Ask yourself-will you be with him in five years? What will you be doing? Try to satisfy him in a less intrusive way maybe? Lol-I have become my dad...
2007-04-26 12:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by pete p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex, DON'T. You probably will regret it later if you aren't comfortable with it in the first place. If he really cares about you, he won't pressure you. If he keeps bringing it up and won't take a no from you, you need to find someone else. I know that might be hard, but a guy who really loves you won't make you do something that you aren't comfortable with. You shouldn't decide to have sex just to save your relationship, it should be something special that you want to do to. Just do what you think is best for yourself.
2007-04-26 12:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by katielou6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him, that's what to do :) You're 14, and he would be breaking the law. He keeps bringing it up because he's selfish. He has no idea whether or not it would hurt, because he has never had his virginity taken by a man, as a 14 year old girl. It might hurt, and it might not. Put it this way, if you were my daughter (and I'm 28 - if I'd fallen pregnant at your age, I'd now have a child about your age) I'd kneecap and scalp and castrate him if he had sex with you. Please don't do it, please!
2007-04-26 12:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by dorothy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him if you are uncomfortable with it. Tell him that if he loves you he'll respect your feelings and stop bringing it up, since you aren't ready. If he leaves you because of that he wasn't worth having in the first place! You definitely deserve a better guy.
Even if it doesn't hurt physically, it's a big emotional investment. Make sure you are ready.
2007-04-26 12:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by amazing but clumsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you are way to young to be having sex. 14 years old is really young. Do you want a baby.... I mean seriously think about that!!!! Most men just want in your pants. Tell him that you don't want to have sex. If he loves you he will respect that desicion. And yes it will hurt some it dont some it does and some it about kills. No SEX until your older!!
If you do, do it. Remember this "No Glove No Love"!
2007-04-26 12:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Wait For You 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it WILL HURT! Why is he lying even about that? Let him go if he wants to explore. You will have many chances for making love the first time. You want a guy who will be honest, tell you it will hurt, but that you guys will work together on making the second or third or fourth time the BEST Experience of YOUR YOUNG LIFE!
2007-04-26 12:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont think you should give up your virginity until you are surely ready, because in the long run you are gonna regret it for not waiting. if he cannot wait then that is his problem, you should not have to be pressured into sex after so long of being with someone. has he had sex before? if so then you should be careful with your body and use protection.
2007-04-26 12:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was afraid of him leaving me too, but just ask him, if we have sex you won't leave me, right? Also if you've been with him for 2 years he better not dump you and if he hasn't already dumped you then you know that he isn't ther for the sex
2007-04-26 12:44:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋