is this love?

Question

ok there is this guy and he is 20 and i am 15 bout 2 be 16 in a couple of months and like we have jus this great relationship with eachother..we get along great, we do da samething at da same time, sometimes, we even say the same thing.... but da thing is he likes me and i like him but he said dat he loves me i said i love him 2 but i am not sure if it is true ok like when i see him i get nervous my heart skips a beat i can't talk right i get weak my stomach feels quezzy and i jus can't think straight..... i told the way i felt he told me the same thing bout how he felt bout me. and i can't stop thinkin bout him he told me that the only reason y he hangs out wit his ex gilrfriends is becuz he tries 2 get his mind off of me but he said some how i pop back into his head i said well same wit me i go out wit dese other dudes and like in da back of my mind i think of him..... so is this love or a crush.... pelase tell me ASAP

Answer 1

honey the age difference is to big you need someone closer to your age he is a player and likes the fact of a young girl wanting him please move on and forget him it is for your own good i know you don't like this answer but it is what i would tell my own daughter i wish you luck

Answer 2

Honey, @ 15 this can be really confusing. It is a crush & you will survive without him!! The feelings you have are normal & would be great to share with a boy your own age. This 20 year old boy does Not have your best interest @ heart. Frankley, if he was mature, he would not have started or continue a relationship with You. I was 15 ounce, I believe You should talk with Your Mom or Your Dad. Before this boy makes You believe Your doing something for him in the name of Love. Dont do it!!!

Answer 3

i'm 15 too but i think this is a crush, but then again it depends on how long you guys have been together. He's hangin out with his ex?surely there are other people( or girls) that he hang around with "to get his mind off you" as hesays he's tryin to do. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now and although we trust eachother, i (personally)feel just a bit uncomfortable( like mybe 2%)when he's with an ex. and considering his age... i don't want to badmoth him but he may have something up his sleeve( and i know that's probably something you don't wana hear but it's life) so just leave some space for dissapointment but don't expect it.

so ok girl! take it slowly coz our hearts may say something and then our bodies say another, then you get stuck between the two ( like you maybe)- goodluck

Answer 4

I don't think that it sounds like a very healthy relationship. He's too old for you, and you obviously don't have a very truthful relationship (you tell him you love him even if you're not sure?)

I don't think you should trust that this guy is just hanging out with his exes to keep his mind off of you. Sounds like a line to me. If he loves you, wouldn't he want to stay in an exclusive relationship? and if you think you might love him, why are you going out with "other dudes"?

To answer your question, it sounds more like a crush. If it was love, you wouldn't really need to ask on here. You should reconsider the relationship though. Five years is a really big difference, and I don't think you really know what you're getting into. Try to date guys who are your own age.

Answer 5

15 going on 16, do I remember that!!! From past experience, dont know your maturity level, I would say go for it, then on the other hand it is illegal in some states- satutory rape is what that is called. Be careful!! society has huge problems with that. Look at it like this, 19 yrs old with a 23 yr old not that bad right?? good luck.

Answer 6

all depends wether it'll work or not...

i met my fella when i was 16 and he was 23. were now married with 2 kids. im now 19 and hes 26. it worked for us but because we are different people but wanted to achieve the same things in life.

we have sacrificed alot to be with eachother such as friends and family but weve been through alot and have still come out of it through the other end.

if you want to go for it you do have to start to act more mature and does involve leaving a few friends who dont understand behind.

you'll go through alot but if you can see youeself being together in 20 years time- id go for it

Answer 7

What does a 20 year old want with a 15 year old, unless he has the mentality of a 15 year old, in which case there is something wrong with him and she find someone else.

Answer 8

I'm 16 and if someone that old was interested in me the first thing i would think is he trying 2 sleep with me.u do what u think is right but be care full girl

Answer 9

15 and 20 are two completely different worlds. It would be different if you were 5yrs apart and both in your 20's. He is in college and you can't even drive yet. I understand your love for him, but it is not normal for someone of his age to want to hang out with a 15yr old. Do you understand, this is not normal behavior?

Answer 10

On your part it sounds like love, but he still hangs out with his ex-girlfriends? Even with what he says about it it still seems a little fishy. You have fallen for this guy, but be careful not to get your heart broken. Best of luck, everybody needs someone to love!

Answer 11

the heart beat skipping is because he looks attractive to you...leave that part if you really wanna know if he is the one for you (love or whatever ya call), then just make yourself feel that you dont care abt him (a thought experiment)...and use your brain to see if this guy is good, really caring for you (or is he playing around with you)...I would be very careful with this guy if I were you because the guy can never feel nervous seeing you if he had a girl friend already...in one line this is a crush