What about dating ? ;
Use of contraceptives ? ;
Kissing ? ; and
Other acts of affection; do they go against christianity ??
2007-04-26 10:13:23 · 24 answers · asked by bornonaplatein1988 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lets go the God's Word and see what it says.
Leviticus 21:14 ....but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.
Its never easy to to discipline our lives without Jesus, as a matter of fact, we will always fail without Him.
Don't fall into the lie that sex outside of marriage is OK, because many do .
never comprise who you are, any act of affection which brings sexually desire out side of marriage goes against the Word of God, and we must guard ourselves when the "heat" is turned on.
Throughout the Bible, it speaks of affection for each other, read about the affection Jesus showed toward others, he left us examples to follow.
Not all Christians unfortunately follow Jesus teachings, and because of that are lacking greatly in many areas of their lives. Go to God's word, read what is said about virginity, dating and acts of affection, the truth is plain, we just have to see it, always ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to help you to understand His word, it will become clear.
2007-04-26 10:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Edith H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is a personal choice. I am a virgin by choice mostly because I want to go far in school and I really don't need that source of affection in a relationship just yet. More important things. It's more about the values you carry. What do you want in your life? What do you want to make a relationship out of or into? I mean really, just think long and hard about your life. Forms of birth control are only against the Catholic religion. Dating and kissing and the other forms of innocent affection aren't against any. Hope I helped you some what!
2007-04-26 10:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is the highest form of dignity after all once you loose it you never get it back,dating should be fun and not pressure,Kissing and other acts of affection is a part of christianity once done in the right order.
2007-04-26 10:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by swami11 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is simply not having had sex yet. It is neither something to be proud of or ashamed of.
Dating is a way for two people to get to know each other.
Contraceptives should be used to prevent disease and pregnancy.
Kissing is a way of showing affection.
It doesn't matter if any of it goes against Christianity. Christianity is an old superstition. You have a brain. You can figure out for yourself what you should and shouldn't do.
2007-04-26 10:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I stayed a virgin until I got married because I wanted to please God and also out of respect for myself and my future husband. Of course opportunity is there- you just have to recognize and stay away from it as much as possible.
Dating? You need that to get married!
Contraceptives? My hubby and I aren't ready for kids, so we utilize them. If we did get pregnant, we would be ecstatic, but also very stressed. So we're waiting a little bit longer.
Kissing? It's lots of fun! You have to practice that wedding kiss sometime :0)
Affection? Everyone needs to feel loved! My hubby and me were always holding hands and cuddling when we dated, and we still do now. The difference is that now that we're married, the cuddling can move to the bedroom :D
2007-04-26 10:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by danni_d21 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it goes against christianity. Christians believe in their faith , and with that, they take the no-sex thing seriously, because it's in the bible.
Frankly.. It doesn't prove anything to me. I was raised catholic, but I currently do no associate myself with any religion. Before I go on about this.. I'd like it if you take any notion out of your head that I don't believe in God, because I do, plus more.
Waiting until marriage to have sex does not gaurantee a solid relationship. I feel that saving sex for marriage is such an over-dramatic and romantic statement that you will "save yourself" for your partner, like people are more in love with the idea then the act itself. Let's say you do save yourself for marriage.. what then? You have sex now, you're stil going to have problems if you and your partner don't communicate well. How does saving yourself make everything better, besides the fact that you'll have one amazing honeymoon? I take that back, if you really love the person your marrying, it'll still be one amazing honeymoon.
I just don't know what virginity has anything to do with anything, when there are things so much more important and essential to worry about. I really have no reason to believe that virginity shows dignity.. because what truly shows dignity are traits like honesty, integrity, patience, communication, and trust. Those are things that many couples lack these days because they're soo into the bull that is romantic menusia. People bicker, people disgree, it is so much more important to figure out a way to communicate before you get married, then to save yourself before you get married. It's not that hard to understand.
Yes, I've slept with men before my current boyfriend now, but who really needs to care. I don't. I love my boyfriend, which is why I feel like I have a right to answer this question. He and I have sex often, but at the same time we love each other so much that we know we're getting married. Don't ask me how I know, I just know. I feel my relationship with him has been far more successful compares to my friend's, and people we see in the media. We've been together for 5 years, that's an eternity for celebrities! And even longer then many relationships young 20-somethings have , like me. Bottom line, if you truly love someone, sex does not compromise your love. In my experience, a long and lasting relationship has equal parts love and lust.. if you quickly run out of steam with your partner but find out while you're married to them.. that's your probem. No one told you to wait.
Jessica and Nick Lachey are great examples. Waiting until marriage does not prove anything, and it will not save a marriage.
2007-04-27 04:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by delicate.things 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of my daughters are still virgins! one the youngest is 17 and I doubt she loses hers before marriage, the oldest is going on 20 and is in the Navy they can do as they will but so far they haven't found what they want in order to give there virginity up!
Really I couldn't tell you why they still are virgins but then they are both very spiritual as well!
2007-04-26 10:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Silent watcher of fools 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you or your family are very much religious then its bad for you because of beliefs but you should feel bad for a kiss or hug those things are considered something normal. contraceptives stop you from having kids and better of any type of STD. think before you leap.
2007-04-26 10:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Mariela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither, those r things tht u wanna keep ..
if u have a diamond, u giv eit to who eva passes in the street ? no! u keep n n IF u wanna give to sum1 tht person has to be really really close n secial to ya !!
this is the same thing.. its not like a bar of chocolate tht u can jst go out n get another one, sumthings in life are valuable !
2007-04-26 10:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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"May Jehovah bless you, O righteous dwelling place, O holy mountain." Jeremiah 31:23
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2007-04-26 10:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by mygrandmaker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋