I freaked him out when I told him he should've told me he was helping her sooner than he did. He said he doesn't like feeling like he has to report everything to me right away. I apologized the next day and he accepted it, but hasn't called me yet. How much space do I give him? Does he owe me an apology?
2007-04-26 09:55:12 · 10 answers · asked by wanderingsoul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes and no. You aren't in a committed relationship yet and that means you both get your space. Now he's wondering if he wants to be with you. Give and space and see what happens.
2007-04-26 09:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, first thing is the fact that you obviously got angry and showed it.You showed that you were jealous of someone who "used to be" in your place.Which is the key words there.I know it is not easy to think about someone you love helping out an ex but the truth is people sometimes break up and still remain friends.It doesn't and shouldn't affect your relationship at all.Cause most time by acting that way you push people away and make them feel like you don't and will not trust them.
My advise is that you leave him be for now and show him that you are not going to be overly clingy and try and control who he decides he is friends with.If you want to make a nice gesture, then leave him a card on his car and in it write what he means to you and again tell him that you know you shouldn't have acted that way.
You see, one thing I have learned in life is that if someone is going to cheat on you, they will weather you want them to or know about it or not.But if you instead show your true love and trust and give them something they know they can never replace,there is no reason to worry.And if they do decide to screw up,all you can do is kick them to the curb and move on.Worrying about it will in most cases only help in making that fear a reality.
2007-04-26 17:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you apologized, your work is done until he gets over it. Don't keep apoloizing. And if he's missing in action, he might be seeing more of her than he let you know about.
Also, if he is helping/seeing his ex, maybe its that he's not completely over her.
Dont put all your eggs in one basket. While he's out doing whatever, you should also be either enjoying friends or spending time alone enjoying a favorite hobby.
2007-04-26 17:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You have every right to feel that way. If he is your boyfriend, the last thing on his mind should be "helping" his ex girlfriend, his mind should be thinking of you. It sounds like BF is not over EXGF. I think you should not return any of his phone calls and drop him like a rock. If a man is to be involved with you, he should jump into it without any strings attached.
2007-04-26 17:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He don't owe you an apology, you already did your part by apologizing. It's just him if he will not call you back.
2007-04-26 17:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jeyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...i guess your bf is acting up like my bf too.....but my situation is that its my ex who contacted me....but as soon as i told him about my ex...he start acting weird...
dont worry for my own opinion....you hurt his feeling by acting up...plus he told you about her...so it just mean that he doesnt have any plan of being back to his ex...
right now if his not calling...dont call him too...cuz he'll think you are a psycho gf...and you dont want that right???
also he doesnt owe you any apology he didnt do nothing bad....try to control your emotion....good luck
2007-04-26 17:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that attached? I say drop him before he gets back together with his ex. It seems to me like trust would be very hard to establish between you two. Sorry, but those are my thoughts! good luck!
2007-04-26 16:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by KND 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if the situation was reversed and you were helping an ex bf work on his house, how would he react/feel?
2007-04-26 16:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurt your feelings, he should apologize. If you hurt his feelings, you should tell him you are sorry as well.
2007-04-26 17:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...it is obvious that he still care about his ex gf... dont call him or whatever be patient and u cxan find the right guy soon...
2007-04-26 17:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by capricorn girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋