Is a stay at home dad a looser?

Question

So me and my girl have been together for 6 years. We have a six year old girl.

I've quit my job about 5 months ago. My girl works as a waitress and makes about 150$ a day.

I've been staying home and taking care of our child, and when she goes to school I nap and clean house.

When she's out of school I take walks with her, do homework, play, feed her and bath her and all that good stuff.

Am I a looser. Should I put her in day care and go find myself a job?

by the way, our finances are adiquate

Answer 1

Not necessarily after all who is better to take care of your child than you. If your girlfriend stayed home no one would question her or think her a loser so I think you should just do what works for the three of you.

Answer 2

Absolutely not! It is admirable! A child should be lucky enough to stay with their parents as much as possible. It does not matter if it is the mother or father. You are making a positive imprint on her that will carry throught the rest of her life. She will have tons of memories of the things you did together while she was growing up. Do not let anyone tell you diffrent. Raising a child is a very important job and if your finances allow one or the other to stay home then I suggest you continue to do this. I stayed home with my daughter for 18 months and I do not regret the tightness of the budget while I was doing this. It was the most rewarding experience of my life. You are a wonderful father and caregiver. Don't forget that!

Answer 3

No way in the world are you a looser!!!!! You are giving her exactly what she needs, and imagine all of the sorrow she would go through being without her father in a daycare center! As a young girl, i was once 6 and i can tell you from experience that if my father had stayed homefrom work and helped me with my work when my mom couldn't, i would have been much happier. Always take care of your child, or else she might feel abandoned, i have seen it hapen many times. You are not a looser! You are doing what ever parent should be doing. Taking care of their kid.

Answer 4

Do you feel like a looser? Does your wife feel like you are not doing enough? There is nothing wrong with a dad staying home with his children as long as it is happily agreed to by both partners. 150$ a day seems like a lot for a waitress, she must be very good.

Answer 5

if you and the mother are happy with the situation, why pay someone else to take care of your child? they will never be able to love and nurture her the way her parents can. she will be in school soon though, so maybe you could work part time, or from home while she is in school. don't let anyone tell you that staying at home with your child, when you are able financially, isn't "manly". what a lucky family to have a man that wants to be so involved!

Answer 6

Whatever works for your family is perfectly fine. I think it's great that your child has a stay at home parent, however you manage it. And, I think it's great for kids to see that dads can parent just as well as moms.

One thing you might want to do while your daughter is at school, is to volunteer in her classroom. That way the other kids in the school get to see that this is possible, too. Who knows, one of the little boys there in the class may grow up to be a divorced dad who's ex tries to convince him that he should just disappear, using the 'dads can't parent and kids need moms' argument. Your example may give him the confidence to say 'hey, no, i'm just as important to our child as you are'.

Have fun! They grow up so very, very fast!

Answer 7

No, I don't think you're a looser. I think if you're happy, and your daughter is happy, and your girlfriend is happy, then who cares?

Now, the question is, are you happy? if you don't feel like a winner, if you feel there's something more out there, then do something about it. Why don't YOU go to school while she's at school? Get some sort of degree, and feel better about yourself. Get to where you feel like a winner. Otherwise, if you're happy, then stick with what's working. But if this situation is causing problems, then do something about it.

Answer 8

If it works for you guys, then who cares what others think. It doesnt matter if a few people think you're a loser. Does your girl think you're a loser? Do YOU think that you're a loser? Maybe you could find a part time job for when the little one is at school. Maybe you could do some community service.

Answer 9

I do not see anything wrong with role reversal. Woman do it all the time, and to say that it is not cool for men would be a double standard. As long as you have enough money and your girl doesn't feel resentful towards you, I think that it is just fine.

Have a lovely day

Answer 10

I think that is fine. If yu guys can survive on what she is making, then why not? That's good to be there for your daughter. Ya never know what happens to them at daycare. I'd rather have my kids raised and cared for by my fiance or myself so we could teach them and treat them what we believe is right. Keep up the good work!