What kind of doctor do I need to see?

Question

I know I need some form of help. I have no trust when it comes to my husband. When we were in counseling before I couldn't even fall back into his arms. Everytime he is late or I can't get a hold of him I assume he is cheating on me. It is ruining us. I don't know if I go see a physciatrist or my regular doctor or what. Someone please, I don't have much time to save my marriage.

I have never had a real reason to believe he has been unfaithful. I think it may have a lot to do with the fact that growing up everyone I knew was unfaithful, it has just always been around. My dad always cheated on my mom. I can't figure out exactly why I feel this way that is why I want to talk to someone.

Answer 1

I guess you have to consider why you do not trust your husband. Does he deserve your distrust? Did he do something to earn it? Or is your self esteem so bad that you can't believe anyone would be faithful to you? I would suggest you see a therapist, either a marriage counsellor, or a cognitive behavioral therapist, but see one really soon.

Answer 2

Girl i am totally in a same boat....let me know what you did or who you went to see. I have to say i am gettin better. I just start working on myself personally. Getting books, talking to my fiance more about things like what he considers cheating, were he a cheater before me, etc. It makes me calm once he answers very assure and sincere. I trust me, i really do, not all the time and unconditional but i do trust his as much as i can. More then i would ever trust any man, but of course i have my times when i am being suspicious, sneaky, etc. Maybe you should go see family counselor, shrink, someone who is called head doctor but is specialized in that kind of subject. Good luck and let us know how it went.

Answer 3

Sounds like you should see a therapist who specializes in Psychodynamic psychotherapy. Psychodynamic psychotherapy is used to help clients understand themselves more fully. The theory behind this approach is that our past – adverse childhood experiences or other unconscious conflicts – is the basis for problems that persist into adulthood, such as unusually low self-esteem, anxiety, or a feeling of being incomplete. Psychodynamic therapy presumes that some facets of our lives are hidden from us, in the subconscious mind, and that we use defenses to help keep us from experiencing the pain that would come from acknowledging elements from our past. Psychodynamic therapy can help to recognize and look behind these protective defense mechanisms, to bring the unconscious into conscious awareness, and to uncover and deal more effectively with neurotic conflicts.

Answer 4

You need to see a counselor. If he has not done anything to loose your trust and you still love him, truly, you need to get help. Your regular doctor can not help with this kind of issue.
If he has broken your trust with infidelity, and you can not regain the trust, you might want to seek a divorce.
I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

You need to seek a marriage counselor, and have a talk with that person, as to what you should do. Then you need to have a serious talk with your husband, and try to resolve this problem. Sometimes we can not solve all of our problems alone, and we need help. Find a good ,qualified ,marriage counselor, to help you.

Answer 6

why do you want to save a marriage when you are always in this state...whats wrong with communications here...doesnt he talk to you ? You need a lawyer..theres nothing wrong with you that a quick divorce wouldnt help..or at least threaten and see if he talks...you cant live in a drama all of your life...its not good

Answer 7

I saw my regular doctor for my similar problem. He put me on medication for anxiety. They work wonders and I no longer worry about what my man is doing when we aren't together.
Good luck!

Answer 8

You need to see a psychologist.