My gf is coming back from canada,she has been there for 18 months and I went to see her 4 times but i met a girl and thought i would use her while my gf was away. She will be back in 3 weeks and I have tried everything to get this girl to dump me and get out of my flat but she wont go. She is going to **** everything up for me.
I dont want to seem like a bad bastard but she was only a bit of fun while my gf was gone but I have to get rid of her now.
Any ideas?
2007-04-26 09:11:56 · 51 answers · asked by phil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to clear this up. My GF is not pregnant,the girl downstairs in my kitchen is.
2007-04-26 10:31:41 · update #1
and yes it was me who got her pregnant but condoms do not always work.
2007-04-26 10:33:27 · update #2
and sometimes you dont have 1.
2007-04-26 10:34:30 · update #3
Playa! You played with fire, burnt yourself. Now, instead of checking into a hospital's burn centre, you choosed to get bandages and scald cream from a pharmacy(one of the biggest in the world wide world)?
My ideas:
1. Cleaning up dirty linen. Fat hopes?
1.1 Own up and beg for forgiveness from your girlfriend.
1.2 Then(if she's still attached to you), discuss with your girlfriend and your scandal what's best for the 3(or 4 including the two-months-old foetus) of you.
1.3 (a) Abort the baby.
(b) Keep the baby and adopt him/her.
1.4 Hopefully, your scandal would eventually leave you(foot the bills if you have to).
2. Buy 1 get 1 free. (Unfortunately, the 1 free here refers to the baby, YOUR baby to be exact.)
2.1 Break all ties with your girlfriend.
2.2 Marry the Mom of your kid.
3. Even "fat-ter" hopes.
3.1 Call quits with your girlfriend.
3.2 Run as far as you can. Ditch your "blown-up doll" by moving out yourself.
3.3 Search for your next victim. If you're lucky, she might offer you to move in her apartment.
P.S: Don't bother about moral values. You certainly do no have much to began with when you're at your wit's end over how to shoo her away.
2007-04-26 12:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by feRrine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell your gf's about eachother? and more inportantly did you tell your fling that was all she could expect? Cause if the answer to both of those is no, then you've done the wrong thing. You need to fess up to them both if you haven't already. As to how to dump a pregnant chick, the same way you would if she wasn't pregnant. Quietly, calmly, kindly, in person and PRIVATELY. Remember, staying with someone just because you got them pregnant, is rarely what is good for either of you or the child/children. You made this baby, so you need to step up and be a good dad, But that doesn't mean that you and it's mom are going to be in a relationship. Parents seperate for all sorts of reasons, all the time. It is more than possible to be good parents together without being a couple. You and the bubby's mum are just doing that from the start. No big deal, though you will probbably find that ending the relationship will cause some hard feelings at the very least for a while. As to your girlfriend....... you need to tell her. Come on, she's going to be this baby's step mom if she sticks around, and she needs as much time as you can give her to decide if she can handle that. I think you haven;t been very well behaved, but what's done is done now. This is the situation you have gotten yourself into, now you need to start dealing with it. Please start by being honest with yourself and your partners. And enjoy you child when he or she comes, regardless of how they were concieved, each child is special, wonderful and precious in their own right.
2007-04-26 09:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Saytar Rai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you got the girl pregnant you have some responsibility's for that child that you helped create . You also will have to let your GF know that you got a girl prego while she was gone . You life is going to be a living hell and will probably loose the girl you really want . Don't be an *** though like majority of the men out there and leave this child fatherless just cause you couldn't be responsibly while having or i guess trying to have a good time .
2007-04-26 09:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In your statement you mention nothing about the girl being pregnant. First , if the baby is your, then you used no protection. Secondly, this lady you are taking about is going to be part of your life for 18 years; like it or not. And then your gf, dam dogg what she is going to say when she find out. The kid what is he going to think of you when he is told you kicked
his mom out when she was pregnant. you did this to yourself, face up to it with your gf, and hope she will forgive you. The other lady if she isn't paying rent then you can have her evicted, legally. You know what you are a dirty bastard and got what you deserve. That straight up from and old dogg.
2007-04-26 09:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phil, like I have always said, " don't sleep with someone you don't want to have a baby with". I slept with a guy one time and got pregnant.
Phil, it isn't just the girls fault. You should of used protection. Now there is a baby involved. Your own flesh and blood. You may as well take responsibility because if your gf finds out, your gone dude. Break up with your gf and do the right thing...believe me when the baby is born, you will forget about everybody else.....
2007-04-26 09:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading all of the replies, I must say your goose is pretty much cooked. I would advise you to be honest with this girl, either way if the child is yours and she stays or go's, you will still be responsible for that innocent child ( by law). Your girlfriend who is coming back will find out sometime so also tell her and ask for her forgiveness. You may be surprise, she may still want to be with you. Be a man and do the right thing. She is someones daughter, would you like it if someone did that to your daughter if you had one?
2007-04-26 09:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by dave19644 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow how dumb r u:
first why the helll would u have sex with another girl while u have a girlfriend.... STUPID on ur part
plus ur a father or ur gonna be an u have to stick with it u have a big responsiblity an u cant throw it way.... wow ur so dumb for doing that plus u need to tell ur girlfriend. its the right thing to do..... u wouldnt want ur girlfriend to get pregnant with some other guy an not tell u.... would u.... tell her the truth if you really love this girl an think very hard.... dont be stupid AGAIN... sorry for calling u stupid but that was a stupid choice u made.. an u have to live with it FOREVER
2007-04-27 09:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you're an idiot. You're lame and you are a bastard. You made your bed, now lay in it. I hope your girlfriend dumps you on you sorry *** and you get stuck paying child support for the next 18 years.
She's not going to **** anything up for you, you already did that yourself with your selfish needs. You deserve whatever you get.
2007-04-26 09:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Rick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who is the one that is pregnant?And no matter who is pregnant...if it is yours you should stay with that person.Or if there are no feelings at least support that girls choices and be honest to your girlfriend...now if it is your girlfriend that is pregnant...tell this girl you didnt want to hurt her but come clean to her as well.Better than ignoring her tell the truth...you will have to live with this things just dont go away.....and dont mess around on your girl..it isnt worth it..if you want the fredom to date who you want then do so.But be single while doing it.
2007-04-26 09:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Brianna M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, YOU f***ed everything up, not the girl you're screwin' around with. You don't want to seem like a bastard. Too late. And don't lie to your 1st girlfriend when she comes back-tell her the truth so she can move on and find someone who isn't a scrub.
2007-04-26 09:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋