We got into a huge fight when I told him how hurtful it was when he called me in another girl's name during IM, even if he knows it's me and is joking - my boyfriend told me to f*** off because I'm a f***ing pain in the a**. It's not the first time anyway, both the stupid unfunny joke and the swearing.
But this time, I told him that if he's dumping me now, I'd never want to hear from him again (because he's done it before out of anger and always calls me back after a few days, asking me to be his girlfriend again). I said so because I was sick of feeling "dispensable." He was so arrogant that he didn't give me a reply to what I said.
He wasn't like that when we dated, well, anyway people change and I don't think I know this man anymore.
He hasn't called me for 3 days now (as though I'm not worth an apology). And I need to stand by what I said about not going back to him. The question is, does f-off mean he has terminated the relationship? As in, have we broken up?
2007-04-26 08:59:17 · 31 answers · asked by Bonna Feeday 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He made me promise him that I would never leave him. He has met my parents and told me that he wants to marry me after I graduate. I never thought he would be so mean to me.
I'm sad, disappointed and I'm not interested in this quasi-relationship anymore.
2007-04-26 09:25:21 · update #1
Why are you letting him make the decision?? HE is the one being mean and disrespectful, you DUMP him. Stop giving him all the power. I would have dumped him when he did the IM thing again after you told him it was hurtful. He would not have had another chance. Tell him you don't ever want to see or hear from him again and then stick to it. You deserve so much better and somewhere out there is a great man for you who will adore you. You're missing out on meeting that person right now because you're too busy mulling over a guy that doesn't respect you at all. Good luck!
2007-04-26 09:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by stseukn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its hard to tell from just what is above.....but I would say that F off was more mad than anything else, but I think you ended when you said that you never wanted to hear from him again. Idk.....
Either way. If the guy is making you feel dispensable then you dont need to be in a relationship with him. This sounds like a "nothing fight" which is usually a good sign that the relationship needs to end....I say go find someone else
2007-04-26 09:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm sorry that you are going through this.
He shouldn't be talking to you like that, especially how you say that he tells you. It doesn't sound like he's joking. My boyfriend would never say that to be unless he was joking around, and he would tell me.
I think you could do better, seriously. Try calling him and checking it out. He may of had a bad day. If he still wants the relationship, you need to tell him that you don't like him saying those things to you. You don't deserve that.
Personally, I think either way you should move on and find someone better. You can really do so much better than that.
Good luck.
2007-04-26 09:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know at this point it should not matter. He does not call you because he is gaining control. He lets you sit and stew till you start to blame yourself. Then he calls and apologizes and everything is peachy. Dont fall for it if he had respect for you at all he wouldnt let it go three days. The best couples in the world work together hence the definition of a relationship. Not calling for 3 days isnt working together.
2007-04-26 09:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by holykrikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy like this will always be around to use you. He sounds mentally abusive and like a total bastard. If he didn't end, then its your job. Stop taking him back and leave his sorry butt behind. He keeps dishing out crap and there are too many sweet guys out there who are looking for a chance for you to keep with this ******. He's depending on you to always be there, so to him it won't matter if he's ended it or not, just so long as he can get with you when it's most convenient for him.
2007-04-26 09:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't rely on him to terminate the relationship I would do it myself and let him know it loud and clear that you are the one ending the relationship because he treats you with no respect. There are too many good men out there to be putting up with this type of treatment.
2007-04-26 09:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f*ck off means he does not have any respect for you and never will...........he wants you maybe just sexually and egotistical but he thinks you are an object and that alone!!
He will come back and try to sweet talk to you once again since you don't care as long as you guys are happy..........is a trend and he will continue to dispense you as long as you are with him!! I think he might even like someone else or is seeing another girl or boy...........guys don't act like this unless they are cheating or have lost all respect for you......meaning they stop liking you but are too chicken sh*t to tell you and prefer to cheat!!
2007-04-26 09:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes. Just for the fact that you should have told him never to call you again. If a man uses that kind of language, then that is saying something about him. And it's not good!
2007-04-26 09:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most of the time, when people say things like that, theryre having a bad day. but since he's done it several times, i say you dont deserve this, what have you done wrong, right? dont take this, if he calls you, pickup and hang up the phone.find a guy who's not a jerk.
2007-04-26 09:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jimmy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's unable to handle mature responses to problems. Who cares if HE wants to break up? Get WAY away from anger management poster boy.
2007-04-26 09:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋