As a gay man, would a fundamentalist, prefer me to adopt a child and raise it in a home...?

Question

with:
- two partners of the same sex who have been together for 17 years
-who have the funds to provide well for the child
-who would insure the kid gets the best education
-who would insure the kid is loved.
-who would insure the kid goes to a progressive Methodist Church on a regular basis and learns about God...

Or, would you prefer that the child be raised in a home by
-a straight couple who do not have the stability in their relationship or finances,
-and who never attends church

No fundamentalists seemed to answer this question....

What would a fundamentalist prefer?

Answer 1

If the straight couple was the child's parents, then they should raise the child. But to be fair, let's say that these are the two options for adoption for the child who is being born to a 14 year old girl who decided not to abort (good for her).

I am a fundie. That doesn't mean I want everybody to "act Christian". It means I want everybody to have Christ at the center of their heart, and to raise a child in a manner that leads them (or at least doesn't hinder them) to a relationship with Christ.

Growing up, I lived within 2 houses of two very different police officers. One of them respected the law. He wore the uniform, and walked the walk. His kids are both in the medical field now - one is a doctor, the other a nurse. The other officer would work on old cars in his garage while on duty - his squad car parked in the street. He wore the uniform, but denied the true value of the law. His children turned out very different from the doctor and nurse - they ended up having trouble with the law as they grew. They probably would have turned out better being raised by parents who were not police, even if their parents were a bit "criminal".

As with the police, a person who wears the uniform of a Christian, yet denies the power of God to change them will raise a child who denies who God is. The better family to raise the adopted child is the family who does not hypocritically claim to be Christian. The straight non-church goers.

Answer 2

Well, I suppose a fundamentalist would rather a straight couple raise the child, but I wouldn't agree with his opinion.

A gay couple who want to do the right thing by the child - who can provide the stability, love, education, and spitual upbringing.... would win, hands down - in my eyes at least.

A child needs a stable and loving environment, and a straight couple who don't have stability in their own lives wouldn't be able to offer something that they're lacking themselves
Money shouldn't be an issue or detriment for either couple, but the stability in their relationships should be the priority.

Answer 3

I don't know. Personally I prefer the first scenario. Every child has the right to be loved in a secure happy home and have access to good education. That should out way societies ideas of a family being Mom, dad and the kids.

Sometimes children don't trust people of one gender because of something that has happened in the past, forcing them to live with heterosexual parents could be detrimental to a child.

I do hope all civilised countries get their acts together and allow same sex couples to have the same rights to adopt children as the 'traditional' family. The best people for the job should be entrusted with being a parent to a child.

Answer 4

The answerer above me is obviously disturbed!

Who cares what the fundamentalists prefer the interests of the child must always come first...I don't care that you're a gay couple but it's a real shame about the regular Methodist church visits, that worries me deeply.

Answer 5

I'd prefer to see the two same-sex partners in a stable home raising the child. But then again, I'm not a Fundamentalist. Some (but not all) Fundamentalists would probably prefer the child to be raised in poverty by dysfunctional-but-straight parents.

Answer 6

Which do you think is redemptive: church attendance (never mentioned in the bible as a command), or obedience to the scriptures (which demand that those who claim to be believers yet live in habitual sin be cast out from the congregation?)

If you want to adopt, go ahead. Have a happy family. I wouldn't say that a child would be better off in the home of an unbelieving, non-church attending home than any other non-believing, church attending gay home. The measure of a good home can be found in a family's committment to live a godly life in Christ Jesus, bearing the fruits of the Spirit, which includes righteousness as well as peace, joy and love.

That said, no fundamentalist is going to justify the sin; not for the sake of church attendance or job security, and above all else, commendation will not be made for 17 years of faithful committment to sinful lifestyle, however 'good-intentioned' it may be.

Answer 7

I'd prefer a straight couple that loves God and who teach the children to love God as well. There is a reason why two men or two women can't actually produce a baby together. It means they aren't men to raise two children together. No matter what your church says, the Bible says it's wrong. God doesn't make mistakes and the life you seem to be living is announcing to the world that He does. You can live your life the way you want, but don't fool yourself into thinking your doing nothing wrong. God also lets us know that when you are responsible for a child straying from God's teaching, that you are committing a greater sin. I don't know where your heart is and I will not say whether your going to Heaven or Hell, but you are sinning by having sexual relations with someone of the same sex. I pray you open your eyes and stop hiding yourself from the truth.

Answer 8

I don't see anything wrong with you and your partner adopting. I go an Episcopal Church. God hates no one, but loves all. Remember that when you read discouraging comments about homosexuals adopting. God made you the way that you are. You are not a mistake.

Answer 9

I think the answer is obvious.

But I am glad to see a progressive methodist on here for a change. I have spent the last year trying to convince people that there actually *are* progressive Christian denominations.

Answer 10

Why does it have to be either/or? By asking a question like this you are setting something up? trying to make a point? And your point is????? That a kid needs to be adopted by somebody who goes to church?? But still is a rotten person maybe? Since when does going to church make you a perfect parent????????