Is it normal to still have sexual desires after you 've been saved?

Question

I ask because to my great disturbance I still get them. And when I get them I still comit a sin if you know what I mean. I thought all the sexual desires would disappear after you have accepted Jesus as your Lord so it is confusing me. I dont know what to do and I always feel very guilty afterwards.Please help

Answer 1

Of course it is normal, we are mere humans with that desire. Just pray and ask God to help you with this lust and get involved with things that works for the good of God

Answer 2

Has he always had this problem or did it just start? I would start out with having him get a physical, especially a hormone test to see if he has adequate amounts of male hormones in his system. Sometimes, the body doesn't produce what it is supposed to, but we have all kinds of medications and treatments these days to address sexual dysfunction. If his physical comes out all ok, then I think he would benefit from some counseling one on one with a really good therapist who has knowledge of sexual issues and can create an atmosphere where he can talk it out. I wouldn't do couple's counseling at firest....there is obviously something going on and he may not be ready to tell you. It's simply not all that normal for a healthy and young man to be so disinterested in sex. B est wishes to you!!!!

Answer 3

Yes, absolutely. Once you are saved there are these misconceptions that after you are saved everything is perfect. Well its not. Once you are saved- you are on a different level and God has your back for sure. That is comforting. But you must remember that before you are a christian, you are on satan's side. He has no reason to mess with you because you are essentially working for him- inadvertently. Once you become a Christian you are satans enemy. He does everything in his power to get you back, to get you to doubt your new beliefs. It is hard to be a Christian on this earth. We all have temptations and we all sin. Even as Christians. The only difference is we have someone to turn to. Someone that has left us an instruction book of what to do when we sin or have temptations. You also have a family of believers worldwide that will pray for you and have your back. We are the body of Christ- as believers and we all are in the same boat essentially. You must just get control over your desires. You can control what you do. Its a work in progress and you won't just change over night. God will help you change if you ask him. You must do your part.

Answer 4

Of course you do! God created sex, He gave you your desires, and it's a fantastic thing and a lot of fun in a marriage! The Bible is silent on the subject of masturbation, so I can't say whether it's a sin or not. Paul wrote that if a man can't control his passions he is best to marry, and that married couples should engage in sex frequently. Don't let people tell you that Christian sex is boring or missionary style, or only for procreation. That's completely contrary to the Word of God. MAny "scholars" have tried to say that the Song of Solomon" is an allegory of how Christ loves the Church. That might be true on some level, but it's a book about sex and romance. The whole thing is pretty steamy if you understand the metaphors they use for male and female anatomy (spring and well, garden, fruits, etc.). Once married, you have complete freedom. As for before that, refrain from all fornication, but as for masturbation, the Bible is simply silent on the topic.

Answer 5

Sexual Desire is a normal and natural gift from God and it's nothing to be ashamed or guilty about.
'Sin' can mean many things. it may also mean overexcessive guilt.
Masturbation is a healthy way to deal with urges and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. So are wet dreams and fantasies.
No, sexual desires do not disappear. Just accept that you are a sexual human being and that sexuality is part of your nature.
Try to focus on other things you like to do as well.
Jesus, i beleive is a very understanding friwend. Friends do not give you a harder burden you can than you can carry.
Be blessed. feel blessed. Not guilty.

Answer 6

Are you married or not?

If you are then sexual desires are perfectly normal and acceptable. Sex is a vital part of a loving and healthy marriage- even the apostle Paul acknowledged that couples should give each other the "marriage due."

If you are single, don't worry- sexual desires are still perfectly natural :0) After all, we were given the command to "be fruitful and become many." But being "saved" doesn't cure you once and for all time from sin, or the desire to sin, as many would like to believe. Our sinful natures lean toward sin; it is up to us to avoid it as far as we can.

Paul talked about "deadening our body members to sin" (sexually) and that being a Christian was "a race of endurance." Not a sprint, not a brisk walk, but a race that required endurance. He even talked about "pummeling his body" (not in a physical sense), or, in other words, struggling with sin and training himself repeatedly to avoid it.

"Once saved, always saved" is not Biblically accurate. To attain to true salvation and repentance requires constant action on our part. Jesus told us to "exert ouselves vigorously" to get into the "narrow door that leads to salvation." He used the present tense, indicating that it was a continuous action, not a one time deal.

So to avoid the desire for sexual gratification, we would want to train ourselves to avoid things that might stir up that desire in us: pornography, graphic reading material, even many forms of entertainment that explicitly discuss sex. Additionally, being careful to avoid situations where we may be tempted by the opposite sex can help. (being alone in a car/house, for starters)

If you are having trouble with, ahem, other things, pray about it and make an earnest effort to stop. Do something constructive- read, watch tv, go for a jog/to the gym, visit a friend, pick up a hobby, anything to distract you. Before you know it, the urges will become less frequent and potent, and you will have found a way to successfully combat sinful desires.

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Answer 7

Sexual desire is natural and normal.
Uncontrollable lust is another thing.
The Bible teaches there are 3 things we have to contend with:
1)the lust of the flesh
2)the lust of the eyes
3)the pride of life
It also teaches there are 3 sources of temptation:
1)the world
2)the fleshly nature
3)Satan and his minions
I suggest you begin by a study of the Book of Romans, as this introduces us to how to get victory over the flesh. Use a version of the Bible like the King James Version or a New American Standard Version - not just a paraphrase.
If you find you continue to have a problem, you probably need to be delivered from an evil spirit.
Call upon Jesus to show you how to expel this from you. For further teaching along these lines I recommend the following website:
http://www.derekprince.org/site/PageServer
Peace to you!

Answer 8

When we say NORMAL, it means that it is in your NATURE.

God created us humans. And one aspect of our humanity is our sexuality. We are sexual beings. God made us this way so we can have the means to pro-create and multiply (as commanded).

But because SIN tainted this God-given character of ours, it has become perverted and has been one of the major causes of sin.

Now being said that it's NORMAL doesn't mean it is JUSTIFIABLE. God made you a human and not an animal. Animals have instincts. We have FREE WILL: to think and act accordingly and properly if we choose to do so.

When you accepted Jesus Christ as Savior and became BORN AGAIN, it doesn't mean that your body wil be perfect. Your spirit may be eternally alive (as promised by Jesus) but your body is still dying. The death of the human body is caused by the sin of Adam and Eve. Being born again doesn't make us perfect.

We are in a journey of improve (or being changed from glory to glory) called sanctification. It is the process of removing the bad things (habits/tendencies/bad character etc) from our life. But we cannot do this alone, we need the help of the Holy Spirit and people around us who can positively help and support us.

Temptation is everywhere. And the Bible does mention that. Temptation is not sin but succumbing to temptation becomes sin.

If you believe that your sexual desires are getting out of hand, I suggest you get help from a reputable organization or group that deals with it. Now you may say that you ashamed in doing so. But remember, you are doing this so you can become better as a person and as a child of God. Oftentimes, people don't like to do this because this makes them admit that they have a problem. But the first step to true freedom is to admit that there is a problem and that you are willing to solve it. The devil loses his foothold on you.

I hope this encourages you. God bless!

Answer 9

Silly, of course, it is normal to still have sexual desires. Your problem is that you have not yet learned how to handle them.
Part of growing as a Christian is learning how to keep your own body under control. You do have a Helper, if this is a problem for you.
Of course, you could always get married, there is nothing prohibited between a man and his wife in the marriage bed.

Answer 10

Of course it is normal and I don't think that masturbation is a sin anyway. I've never found any biblical backing for that belief.

If people quote the story of Onan to you go read it. You will see that what he did was a sin because he was doing it out of spite and dishonoring his dead brother as well as refusing to fulfill his obligation. It was NOT sin because he was masturbating. He was not even masturbating, he was having sex and "pulled out".

I think masturbation can become sin when you are focusing on sinful things while you are doing it and when it becomes an addiction. Focusing on the physical feelings while doing it is not sinful.

Answer 11

The Lord God knew we would have weakness that is why his son died on the cross for our sins. You have to try to with stand the desires of the flesh and allow the lord to help you. The holy spirit is the gift God give all of us to lean on. His is the comforter ,the deliver and our help when we think there is none. Just call on the name of Jesus and he will provide a need to escape the trap that Satan has you locked into. before who you lean on because Satan has his army of demons out here looking for whom he can destroy. You are easy prey. some of the people you are talking to are witches and who know what else. They are filling your mind with confusion and the bible says that Satan is the author of fear and confusion. Please keep that in your mind. WHO ARE YOU GOING TO SERVE. Jesus is gentle calling but are you hearing his words.