My fiance who I have been with now for almost 4 years continues to dwell on my past faults. He has done so much wrong more than I no so I never really bring anything up to him because I feel if I love him whats the point of fighting. I chose to be with him so whats the point. Anyways during our relationship when he came back from Iraq He knew he was coming home to me and a little baby to another man (not why we were together) So I never really thought about how things would be. Yes he was bothered a little but grew to love her and has been around her since she was about 4 months old. She knows no one but him thats her daddy! He has found letters and pictures from past males but I mean nothing serious in my eyes I ended up finding the same with him through out the relationship so why let that bother him? I guy came knoc n at my door at around 1 am I had nothing to do with him but I did not handle the situation right so I can see his doubts there for this. Do I deserve the disrespect
2007-04-26 07:46:36 · 11 answers · asked by Thatchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes and No.... Why on earth, if you are in love with him, would you keep letters and pictures from your ex's? That alone is a reason to be mad at you. If you've changed then why do you keep things that have nothing to do with your future. I think it's you that is clinging to the past. Not your fiance. On the other hand, if he wants to move forward, he needs to give you a chance to change. If he keeps expecting you to do or say things you used to when you're changing and not even thinking those things, he's wrong for doing it. By doing that he's seeing you with blinders on and not even giving you a chance. Sooo I guess what i'm saying is that you both need to give a little. It takes two people to work things out. Relationships are a lot of work.......
2007-04-26 07:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by assunta81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone deserves that disrespect. Everyone has a past before they met someone new... its something that is a given. There is no reason to dwell on the past. Im not sure what to tell you to do about it though. Normally I would say get out of the situation, but you 2 have been together a very long time. Most people find themselves dealing with this situation inside of a year and can usually walk away.... 4 years wow.... I hope you do the right thing, and it all works out for you.
2007-04-26 07:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with him 4 yrs and have a baby that is 4 months from another man. I wouldnt trust you either. Sorry but he needs to leave you alone. He obviously cannot get over your past so you guys dont need to be together. If its an issue now, it will be an issue later. Get counseling if you want it to work, but dont stay with him because of the baby, its not his anyway.
2007-04-26 07:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by adviceub 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot totally blame him for being upset, apparently, from what you described you cheated on him and then had a baby with the man you cheated with. Seems like there were other men as well. If you two cannot work this out and it seems to be too much for him to handle, maybe you should just part your ways.
2007-04-26 07:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest counseling for you both. Some things you've mentioned, needs to be addressed/resolved with the help of an impartial professional.
2007-04-26 07:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that he is doing something wrong and by accusing you or bringing up what you have done it justifies hisself in his mind, if it is this bad now I would definetly rethink marriage.
2007-04-26 07:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves the disrespect..go to counseling!
2007-04-26 07:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by twdy412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position. He is living in the past, and throughing it in my face......I dont know hopw to deal with this situation either.
2007-04-26 07:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Miss. American Nightmare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....what disrespect? every single couple will have their share of problems-just gotta cross those bridges when you get to them. I don't see the disrespect you talk about...
2007-04-26 07:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup!
2007-04-26 07:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋