I've been sober since 1995, but have wanted to drink lately. I don't feel like an adult. My wife likes to drink casually, and I can't enjoy a beverage with her.
I don't know if I can drink without relapsing.
Should I stay sober?
2007-04-26 07:43:37 · 11 answers · asked by I think I need a shower 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I stopped completely on my own in 1995 and I'm too strong for AA.
2007-04-26 08:06:20 · update #1
Yes you should stay sober, you have worked too long to relapse. I would like to stop drinking, if you can, email me and tell me how you stopped.
2007-04-26 07:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bit depends on the history. When you stopped in 1995, did it require intervention? Rehab? AA Meetings? If you were able to stop on your own in 1995, joining your wife for a cocktail may not be completely out of the question.
If you haven't already, talk to your wife about your history, how you're feeling now, and your concerns. Solicit her support, and ask her to help you should you get out of hand.
You were in high school when you dealt with your drinking problem. That's awfully young, and could be due at least in part to your age, lack of experience and lack of maturity at that time. It does not necessarily mean that you're incapable of drinking responsibly now that you're an adult, but it does mean that you should proceed with extra caution and have support ready if you need it.
I have alcoholism in my family, and I have to watch myself pretty closely too. That also means being honest with myself when I know I'm drinking too much, and taking appropriate steps to curb it when I see it.
You're still very young, and it can be very difficult for anyone to avoid alcohol when it's present at most adult gatherings. If you feel you can handle alcohol responsibly now that you're an adult, allow yourself the chance - just don't do it alone, and be honest with yourself.
2007-04-26 08:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been sober 12 years. Thatys great. We all (alcoholics in recovery) get tempted from time to time. Remember your last drink or it won't be your last drink. I'm sober 19 years and my wife has a drink now and then and it doesn't bother me. You sound like you didn't do the 12 steps and learn about your disease. Try AA.
2007-04-26 07:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by jim t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a recovered alcoholic, which I suspect you might be, you're absolutely correct in your assumption that even one drink will not only knock you off the wagon, but may cause a Mack truck to run over you. Sorry about the powerful analogy, but that's usually what happens. My suggestion would be to stay sober, and if that is difficult for you, you might profit from attending some A.A. meetings and line yourself up with a sponsor. Meanwhile, ask your wife if she wouldn't mind refraining from alcohol in your presence, as it is too tempting. If she really cares about your welfare, she will comply. You can live without booze, but your chances for a happy life with it are practically zero. Good luck to you!
2007-04-26 07:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 09:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by hric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, call AA and talk to a counselor when you have those cravings, drink something like club soda with a twist and let the feeling pass, you will be so sorry if you take that first drink, it may not be your last. I don't drink, I am surrounded by alcoholics in my life and I hate drunks, not drinking does not bother me at all.
2007-04-26 07:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I say no it took you a long time to cure yourself .I think your wife should be a little more sensitive to this matter and not drink even if its to be social.All it takes is 1 to put you back on that whirlwind stay strong and socialize an a different manner or with a different group.
2007-04-26 07:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the whole attraction to drinking while in high school is that you're not supposed to do it. I'd say that you're not likely to find the tempations the same now that you're older and have some perspective... and a wife you should support you no matter what.
2007-04-26 07:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by jadechronic2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Alcoholism is a disease that has no cure. You can control it for life by not having even one drink. Go to an AA Meeting in your area , I know it will help you.
2007-04-26 07:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't drink, you'll relapse and it will have to go through the whole thing again. If she wants to drink tell her to go to a bar with a couple of girlfriends while you go to a baseball game or something.
2007-04-26 07:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by axeps2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋