Don't you usually fall for your guy friend?

Question

Becuase I've been talking to my guy friend...(Matt) Hes cute,Sweet and fun to be with. Loves to have fun. I've talked to him again for 4 hours after school and 2 hours at night yesterday....I've been talking to him alot lately.....and I fallen for him and want to know that one question...but kind afraid to ask him that one question....I want to go out with you....but don't know how to bring it up in a conversation...cuz when I want to say it I freeze up and say something else.......Would anyone help me with this?

I know I put it in the wron section by mistake....stupid mistake that everyone can make.

Answer 1

~Not really. In my past it has always been the other way around.

Answer 2

At age 29 I met and I had a friend for an entire year at work. I was too afraid to risk ruining a work relationship, but as soon as he left there for a better job, I pursued him. It has now been almost 8 years since our first date and we are still together...and considering getting married this summer. So, yes, I did fall for my guy friend and I have never regretted pursuing him because we are truly soulmates. Without having such a deep friendship first, we probably wouldn't have such a wonderful relationship right now.

Maybe you can casually bring it up to him...or maybe you should wait a little while. It depends on your age and if you are still under 18, it also depends on what your parents/guardians think. Don't try to rush things.

If you feel you are ready to bring it up, tell him about a movie you saw where friends fall for each other...like Snow Day for example. See what he thinks and how he reacts. If he acts like it is terrible for friends to become more than friends, then you might want to take it as a hint that he only wants to be friends.

Another suggestion: just come out and ask him what he thinks about 2 friends becoming more than friends. If you keep freezing up when you try to bring this up, then you are not quite ready for such a big step. When you are ready, you will know it because you will be able to speak up about what you are thinking about.

Answer 3

Well I know exactly how you feel. I had a guy best friend too that all of sudden I was in love with. He was easy to talk too, be myself around, and if I ever had a problem he would be the first person to help me out. He was also my brothers best friend. We are from a small town so everyone hangs out with everyone. Anyways I was very scared to tell him how I felt because I didn't want to lose him as my friend if he didn't feel the same way. Well I drank some tequila and was tired of all the agony I was going through keeping my feeling for him a secret. The tequila calmed my nerves, so I told him I was in love with him. ( DO NOT DRINK IF YOU ARE NOT 21) To make a long story short, we have now been together 4 years and married 2 years. He is still my best friend and my husband. So my advice to you is to just tell him more than likely if you get along so well somewhere deep inside he feels the same. Trust me men don't know how you feel to you tell them. They do not get hints. Hope this helped and I hope he is the love of your life, like mine is to me.

Answer 4

When you say you freeze up, that makes me think you don't feel comfortable around him. You really want to be with someone you are comfortable around. You can call him, saying things over the phone is easier than to their face. You can e-mail, text message, or write him a letter. Just say you want to talk to him about something, and you want to know how he feels. Say, with the time you have spent together you are begining to feel more than a friendship. If he doesn't feel the same way make sure you don't get obsessive and lose him as a friend.

Answer 5

I think it's better to date people you are actually friends with because you know you can enjoy each other's company beyond just trying to hook up. But when you are friends first, it's hard (especially for guys) to jump out of the friends category and into the dating category with girls.

You would most definitely be upset if this guy starts dating another girl, right? If so, then you need to tell him how you feel. At least you will still be friedns if it doesn't go further.

If this guy meets someone else and your attitude is "good for him that he found somebody", then you're just good friends and that's it.

Answer 6

lol. are you sure hes a guy you want to be in a relationship with because so far people who hang around each other for a long time or a few hours and talk often like a few hours tend to feel a connection. unless hes the only guy you have.... i think you better do some research.

Answer 7

a lot of people fall for their guy friends, it is a very uncomfortable conversation.... especially if he doesn't like you more than just friends. I think that you should say something like, "wouldn't it be funny if we went out?" kinda like a joke and then if he says something positive then say well do you wanna try it for a while. and see how things go.

Answer 8

Yeah, i fall for my guy friends all the time. I think that if he is talking to you more than usual and enjoys your company then he likes you too. Talk to him about it if you've really fallen that hard. (Remember i speak from experience!)

Answer 9

Is there a reason that this is posted in the jokes section? Its not really funny. Maybe a bit, but not really.

Answer 10

the exact same thing happend to me!!
u just have to wait......he probably likes you in the same way
dont bring it up because he may not feel the same and it would ruin your friendship........

maybe be a bit more flirtatious than normal and c if he asks u out! ;)

gd luck hun xoxox

Answer 11

I say be brave, but i don't know if you can do it b/c you did post this in the completely WRONG section, should be in relationships!!