I have dated their son for almost 3 years, and have lived with him for 2. His parents recently finished building a cabin and they are all going up there this weekend. The other son was invited, as well as his wife and her kids. My boyfriend has asked once (in passing), "are you going this w/e?" But his parents have not invited me.
Am I over-reacting? Or is this a clear sign that they want nothing to do with me?
2007-04-26 06:56:06 · 9 answers · asked by LadyMango 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You seem to be over reacting or putting to much assumption or thought into this,, during planning the parent, may have alot on their mind and it is simple human nature that sometimes parents forget, if this has happened every single time in the past 3 years then yes i would be concerned. but dont let it get to you
2007-04-26 07:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they perhaps issue a "joint" invitation for you and your bf and you just didn't get the message? Do they usually ask you as a couple or individually to events?
It could be that they are conservative and feel really uncomfortable about the whole situation. You need to look at this one incident in light of their normal behavior towards you.
I know that it can be hard sometimes to distance yourself and look at it logically, but it might help.
2007-04-26 14:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Juddles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a possibility because you are not married you have been dating for years and you are not married, they are pro bally like my parents they never let any of my boyfriends in the house either till I was well out on my own and we had a child together, but that was when they wanted to him him with his problems..
2007-04-26 14:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Spread The News Acts 238 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it just be assumed that you would come? Did his parents actually call his brother and invite him then call the wife and invite her then call the children and invite them? Bet not. they probably invited the brother with the presumption the others would come. Same with you. Seriously, I bet they didn't call your boyfriend and quietly ask him to come but specifically told him you weren't invited. Honestly, it sounds like you're looking for issues.
2007-04-26 14:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
as I have told my daughter over and over in her 5 year marriage and her husbands family not inviting her anywhere it is a slap in the face.If you enjoy getting slapped then more power to you but i would tell them that Iam a apart of this family and have been for years. Her husband now only goes if my daughter has been invited.
2007-04-26 14:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have a relationship with them? If you aren't around them much, it might not have crossed their minds. Also, do they have standards that make your living situation something that they don't approve of? Living together isn't the same as being married.
2007-04-26 14:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be one of two things, when they asked him they were actually asking both of you and expect you to come with your bf or they don't agree with your living arrangements and will not allow you to share a room if your not married. either way, you need to ask them what the plan for the weekend is.
2007-04-26 15:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably think by them inviting their son, that its automatic that your going. Get the thong out your ***,and start packing girl,get out and have some fun!!!
2007-04-26 14:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by hot chocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be upset too, your not overreacting, first see if its becuase theres not enoff room. you've been with him for 3 years so you should know were you stand with the family i would talk to you b/f about it
2007-04-26 14:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋