2007-04-26 06:53:47 · 18 answers · asked by toes_made_of_steel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
~age has very little to do with it!!
2007-04-26 07:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten2 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is no set age. It depends on the two of you. Do you both think you are ready? If not then wait. I had my daughter at 19 and I was told over and over again about how I should have waited. I was lectured by a doctor about the likelyhood of learning disabilities with younger parents and other possible "problems". My daughter is now 9 and she is a very good student, very well mannered and I don't regret having her when I did for a second. It's all up to you guys and there is no right and wrong answer.
2007-04-26 14:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cheyenne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 21, my hubby was 26, and we went on to have three kids and absolutly ADORE parenting. We "rushed" into marriage because we knew we were a great match, "and "rushed" into parenthood because it was our biggest goal, and we couldn't be happier. Despite the thought that you should postpone the "burden" or children until you are "settled" in your marriage, we have found that our kids actually enhance our relationship, gave us more maturity and character, and vastly improved our lives.
We have never been partiers or drinkers, so I suppose this helps, but there is no magic age. We did not get totally settled as single adults before marriage and babies, but we did each live on our own, pay our own bills, etc., before meeting each other. We had no trouble adjusting to family life as we had each only spent the college years (grad school too for hubby) as singles.
My advice: If you can put someone else's needs ahead of your own, can handle a little delayed gratification and act as an adult, and you either have a job or are married to somone who has one, then go for it! You are not necessarily "better" at parenting because you've celebrated more birthdays.
2007-04-26 18:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Junie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age only is one factor.. the other factors include.
when they have a stable jobs with a nice savings, when they have a house/condo. apartment living just isn't the best environment to raise a child (need big back yard with swings etc) when they've been married a few years and their relationship is stable.
Just my thoughts
Two of my cousins are pregnant - one is due on October and one is due in november.
Cousin 1 is married, has been for two years. Her husband is a nurse and she's a social worker. They bought a house in rural eastern ontario last summer.
Cousin #2 - not married, he's a truck driver and she's a gym teacher. they live in an apartment in montreal. They've been together for 2 or 3 years (not sure)
2007-04-26 14:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by morrigansstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i was almost 18 when i had my kids, i don't recommend planning on getting pregnant before your married is the best idea but it's OK to do, uhhh i would thinks a great age would be when you are financially, emotionally and physical ready to have a child. when i got pregnant i was with the father for 4 years before we even thought about having a kid and the first time we talked about it whammy i found out i was having a kid 3 weeks later then at 7 weeks pregnant found out i was having twins, turns out the stress of having kids young isn't the best for a relationship take it from me he screwed up many times and i finally left him when my kids were a year old.
2007-04-26 14:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scientifically, a woman can give birth to normal children from 18 to 36 years of her age. But healthy age for having first child is between 21 to 25. For guys, I dont think age is a problem.
2007-04-29 10:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-26 14:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Terry W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt suggest an "age" to have a baby. I would suggest the stage where you two are comfortable and ready to have a baby. That is entirely up to you two. I would say at least wait till you two are married and are at the point in the marriage that you are ready to add an addition to your family. A family is a full time career. Which means no more nights out, changing diapers, and screaming babies. It takes patience and love. If you two have a strained relationship that child of yours will feel it. So just be prepared when you two do plan it. I would suggest talking to a pastor if you two go to church, or talk to a councelor at planned parenthood about beginning your family. They have classes you two can take, just to make sure you two are ready.
2007-04-26 14:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by brandywine840213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-26 13:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cuddly Lez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time u feel both of u are financially ,emotionally stable and ready for sleepless nights .But if u have the first two,u should not wait more ,u don't want to take u'r child to the park and everybody thinks u are his grandparents. For females the clock starts ticking when they are beginning their 30's.
2007-04-26 14:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by mature1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple and it has nothing to do with age.
It has to do with goals, and stability, and maturity.
My husband and I waited until we were 33 & 34.
But we also traveled extensively and lived on an island for two years and had a whole lot of fun first...lol
Now we're older, we're established, and we've settled down...so we just had our first child.
It's a big commitment and it involves alot of sacrifice...Don't do it until you're ready to put someone elses needs WAY WAY WAY before yours.
2007-04-26 14:06:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋