i have been with the guy i have been dating for like 8 mouths we get in alot of fights is that a good thing and how do i know when hes up set with me i mean he really dose not talk to muhc about his feelings i know i love him but how do i get him to open up to me more i know hes been hurt in the past by other females so i know he gets scared of loseing me i mean i am the kinda female that dose any thing for my dude
but ya how do you get them to open up
2007-04-26 06:32:12 · 7 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You get him to talk about his past, history, HIS STORY. In other words. You ask him questions about it, don't worry the only stupid questions are those you don't ask. If he gets upset or edge change it to a different period and come back to that later. You have to be clever about it, its sort of a dance really. And just like any dance your first learning you'll step on some toes. But this is also the safest way to find out how much he loves you, because if he doesn't want to, doesn't feel like, or doesn't think you'll understand, I'm sorry hunnie but he isn't feeling you. Its a beautiful right to be able to set there and hear it.....
2007-04-26 08:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See the situation is really complex. U will have to understand Why does he behave in such a manner? What u both guys need to do is, sit down and have open talk, so that u can understand each other's point of view. Honesty in every relation is necessary. If discuss each and everything openly and with honesty, definitely things can work out. Relationships are all about understanding and mutual trust, no relationship can survive without these two. Listen to him and express your point of view. I'm sure things will work out for better. All the best.
2007-05-04 06:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by saloni s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to keep a strong relationship it's all about communication.he has to understand that you're not the oth er females that he's been hurt by before that being with you is almost like starting a whole new life, a new adventure.you also can't force it or try to push it to much because that won't be good either.
2007-05-03 17:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just gotta talk to him and tell him there's no other way!!! hes obviously very insecure so just reassure him if you really want to make things work who knows maybe you will be the one to change all of that for him
2007-05-04 03:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being quiet doesn't mean that he is inconsiderate and insenstive. It also doesn't mean he is angry because of something you've done. Silence is important to him. It is his way of adjusting to particular circumstances, so you should give him some space. Eventually, he will be ready to express the loving and caring side of himself.
2007-05-04 04:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Angelique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about his past and what went wrong that makes him think that ya'lls relationship might end up the same way too
2007-05-04 06:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples counselling
and love an dpateience
2007-05-04 06:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋