I am in limbo and need answers. First person who gives at least a paragraph of good advice wins best answer!!?

Question

A guy who i like is 23
iam 17

i told him how i felt on tues and he replied he liked me back and wanted us to work something out toghter.

He said things like
i dont see these feelings going away...
i would be an idiot to let u slip away...
if it were down to me youd be my girl ect

and i was really pleased
some issues are he is friends with my bro and sis who are alot older also my brother in law and knows my parents well. and i am so much younger

last night i text him agian saying id been thinking about what was said ect

and replyed he didnt want to jepordise any frienships ..
wanted to leave it for now
then he said he would be there for me and maybe we should chat!

i am so confused does he like me or was he trying to blow me of, if he was ehy didnt he do so when i first text him.

i still really want him and need to talk to him but i dont want to seem needy.

helpo please

also i am going to see him in a minute as he comes round for my bro how should i act? or say?

its also his bday

Answer 1

He really likes you and wants to be your boyfriend...however you are too young. He knows you are currently jail bait and that both of your families will not approve (and that won't change when you turn 18 either). He is trying to figure out it the grief will be worth the possible reward. Keep in mind that he doesn't know if you will or will not make a good girlfriend. I know you probably don't believe this, but girls your age range are still too immature to a make a good girlfriend. He is over 21, he has way too many things to give up in exchange for an under 21 girlfriend. It seems he doesn't pay the cost at this point but is still thinking about it.

I wouldn't wait if I were you, this isn't a good match. The age difference is too great at such a critical age. The 6 year age difference wouldn't matter if you were 21, but 17 doesn't work.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think he is blowing you off... If he was, he just would have stopped talking to you all together. I think he has either had time to think about it... or someone ran a few things by him. I mean, there are only a few years between you 2. Not a lot at all. Maybe he just wants you to think about it too. I mean REALLY think about it. If he is a friend of the family... then there is a lot at risk here. Give it some time and a lot of thought, then take it from there.

Answer 3

well well well where do we start with this one first of all the age difference is not that bad 6 years or so but on the other hand it is a problem

Answer 4

What are you looking for in this relationship?

Long term or a nice 'crush'?

Mixed messages always piss us off, and anyway, what are his friends like?

My advice; tell him you're not ready yet then **** his best mate.